Dating VS Marriage

What are some of the difference, if any you find between the man/women you would date and the man/women you want to marry?

Further, do the difficulties of interracial marriage have any effect on your thought process?

Men i'm particularly interested in your thoughts on who you would bring home to meet your parents and if it would have to be someone you plan to commit to before that step.

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On a personal note, coming from a Caucasian/Hispanic household my parents have been uncomfortable with previous interracial relationships. I find myself only subjecting the men I feel very strongly about to their company.

I find dating to be a light hearted activity. I don't specifically seek out men that have the attributes i'd like in a husband neither do I shy from them. I don't feel threatened or rushed by time to seek out a partner which leaves things more flexible.
So I think when I casually date I simply look for attraction and passion for something whether it's a hobby, love, or in work.

In a husband I look for intelligence, ambition, sexual chemistry, kindness, loyalty, and strength along with the previous few.
So to answer my own question there is differences for me.

I think for most people, dating is light-hearted fun and marriage is a serious commitment. The difference between the two for me is that I look for those qualities you've mentioned more in a person I am thinking about marrying. After all, marriage should be a long-term commitment. My parents aren't that strict on who I date. Maybe they can be concern about who I'm getting serious with lol. Either way, my happiness is more important than anything else.

My parents are pretty chilled on meeting the people I associate with so it wouldn't be a big deal xD

I was married for six years to an amazing and beautiful Russian woman. It's really hard to find someone that even compares to her character and personality. So for me dating is serious as I would date someone only if they were someone I would want to potentially marry. My ex-wife was stable, extremely honest and trusting, held respect to a level Iv'e never encountered, supportive and we pushed each other to follow our dreams and live to the fullest. She was happy, positive, ate healthy and exercised often. On top of all that she was incredibly beautiful, had an amazing body, and the best style and taste. So for me dating most women is usually a let down. I find a lot of women to be immature and they play a lot of games. The minute I see any red flags I'm out.

What I look for in someone I am dating and for (we'll see if it every happens) marriage is pretty much the same
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Nothing like my ex husband!

*insert knee slap and guffaw*

Seriously though...no...seriously.

Okay, real answer: What I look for is emotional, intellectual, and physical/sexual compatibility. What it leads to, just dating or something more serious, who knows. I don't determine that the moment I start talking or hanging out with someone.

I don't care for marriage but don't mind marrying either. I'm for monogamous relationships, I just think marriage is an institution that people give more value than what it's worth. I live in the states so I understand it could vary from country to country. I have no problem being with my partner and saying it just so. why bring paper and laws into it. If I love someone then that's it. but I'm not opposed to marrying either if my partner would want to. it's a very subjective topic however. I have confidence that you will figure out what's best for you over time.

Paper is to remind you what you got yourself into.

Law is to decide what you got left when you lose.

THVM wrote: I was married for six years to an amazing and beautiful Russian woman. It's really hard to find someone that even compares to her character and personality. So for me dating is serious as I would date someone only if they were someone I would want to potentially marry. My ex-wife was stable, extremely honest and trusting, held respect to a level Iv'e never encountered, supportive and we pushed each other to follow our dreams and live to the fullest. She was happy, positive, ate healthy and exercised often. On top of all that she was incredibly beautiful, had an amazing body, and the best style and taste. So for me dating most women is usually a let down. I find a lot of women to be immature and they play a lot of games. The minute I see any red flags I'm out.

I agree. I had a wonderful Ukrainian partner when I was younger and she is absolutely the most mature, goal-oriented, honest, and upfront person I've met so far in life. She taught me how to eat vegan and matured me fast too. She also helped me recognize my goals in life and pushed me to realize them. The experience has left such a positive impression on me towards Eastern European ladies. One of the reason why I am here is because I can't seem to find this unique combination of traits in a woman around me.

I'm older now, much more confident in my abilities to be a husband. Now I'm also just searching for another chance at happiness.

Obie wrote:

THVM wrote: I was married for six years to an amazing and beautiful Russian woman. It's really hard to find someone that even compares to her character and personality. So for me dating is serious as I would date someone only if they were someone I would want to potentially marry. My ex-wife was stable, extremely honest and trusting, held respect to a level Iv'e never encountered, supportive and we pushed each other to follow our dreams and live to the fullest. She was happy, positive, ate healthy and exercised often. On top of all that she was incredibly beautiful, had an amazing body, and the best style and taste. So for me dating most women is usually a let down. I find a lot of women to be immature and they play a lot of games. The minute I see any red flags I'm out.

I agree. I had a wonderful Ukrainian partner when I was younger and she is absolutely the most mature, goal-oriented, honest, and upfront person I've met so far in life. She taught me how to eat vegan and matured me fast too. She also helped me recognize my goals in life and pushed me to realize them. The experience has left such a positive impression on me towards Eastern European ladies. One of the reason why I am here is because I can't seem to find this unique combination of traits in a woman around me.

I'm older now, much more confident in my abilities to be a husband. Now I'm also just searching for another chance at happiness.

How did you guys lose such women if I may so boldly ask? I've always had very good impressions of Russian and Ukrainian women.

keystyler wrote:

Obie wrote:

THVM wrote: I was married for six years to an amazing and beautiful Russian woman. It's really hard to find someone that even compares to her character and personality. So for me dating is serious as I would date someone only if they were someone I would want to potentially marry. My ex-wife was stable, extremely honest and trusting, held respect to a level Iv'e never encountered, supportive and we pushed each other to follow our dreams and live to the fullest. She was happy, positive, ate healthy and exercised often. On top of all that she was incredibly beautiful, had an amazing body, and the best style and taste. So for me dating most women is usually a let down. I find a lot of women to be immature and they play a lot of games. The minute I see any red flags I'm out.

I agree. I had a wonderful Ukrainian partner when I was younger and she is absolutely the most mature, goal-oriented, honest, and upfront person I've met so far in life. She taught me how to eat vegan and matured me fast too. She also helped me recognize my goals in life and pushed me to realize them. The experience has left such a positive impression on me towards Eastern European ladies. One of the reason why I am here is because I can't seem to find this unique combination of traits in a woman around me.

I'm older now, much more confident in my abilities to be a husband. Now I'm also just searching for another chance at happiness.

How did you guys lose such women if I may so boldly ask? I've always had very good impressions of Russian and Ukrainian women.

I was young at the time. She wanted marriage and children but at the time I had a terrible job that didn't earn enough. I was fine with marriage, but I felt that I couldn't deliver a proper environment for children. I asked for more time and that was a deal breaker.

Remember. Our partners are people from other cultures too. Some cultures have pressure and social expectations to get married and have children very early, and that is not wrong either. There is happiness and fulfillment in having a family and children of your own. We can't use our western ideals to judge these things. But yeah, more time was a no-no. She wanted kids now, so we drifted off into friends, and eventually drifted away completely.

Moral of the story? Don't screw around, figure out a goal and start realizing it. You don't know when life is going to hand you an opportunity and you only have yourself to blame if you can't rise up to it. Also, something I learned now that I wish I had known earlier. Don't spend a Herculean effort in trying to make the right decision. Make a decision, and spend a Herculean effort in making the result of that decision what you want. Second chances are uncommon, it's a rarity, not a norm.

Dating Vs Marriage.

Dating, I date girls because I want to get to know her and see how everything goes.
Marriage, I propose to a girl because she gives me strong feeling of love.

We could easily find someone better than the one who we love. So, there is nothing but love makes one perfect.

Nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so. -Hamlet We might not think someone is perfect at the beginning but it could change by time passes.

I think parents would never think the guy who you bring home is a right guy because they don't want to admit that their kid has become a grown man or woman.