Book Review: Love With A Western Woman: A Guide for Japanese Men, by Caroline Pover

Love With A Western Woman: A Guide for Japanese Men
by Caroline Pover

This is a really interesting and unique book of advice specifically for Japanese men who want to date Western women, either living in Japan or aborad. This book might be a lifesaver for some of you!

The book breaks into 5 chapters:
- Japanese men and their image
- Being attractive to western women
- Dating
- Sex
- Getting Serious

This book contains a lot of brutally honest discussion, both good and bad. The first chapter discusses stereotypes western women may have of you (Japanese men) in a very forthright manner. It also gives advice for positive ways to overcome the stereotypes. There's a great pep talk about the reasons women may find you attractive.

The dating section lays out a lot of tips for initiating contact and how a western woman might expect you to behave on a date. Where to take her, what physical contact or kissing is expected, etc. The options for kissing during a date are explained in great detail because I think this is a new territory for Japanese men.

The sex chapter also explains some differences that you might not expect. It explains contraception and "foreplay" too. The unspoken signals leading up to sex are different.

The Getting Serious chapter talks about family reactions, divisions of household responsibility, and how a western style wedding works.

Since I am a western woman none of the advice in the book was a surprise to me, but it was a little revealing what aspects might be unfamliar to a Japanese man, and if I am ever lucky enough to date a Japanese guy this book will surely come in handy. It's an interesting addition to my library of culture/intercultural books.

I found this book a fast read (90 pages), it may take you 1-2 hours to read. Available only in English.

ISBN 978-0-9573282-1-1

You can order a copy of this book from the author www.carolinepover.info/jmen/

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Hello,

I'm not Japanese and I don't have any Japanese background, but this book interested me !
So I downloaded it in my Kindle and I just started to read it.

The first pages seems very interesting. Even if I'm not Japanese, I feel concern about it, because most of the stereotypes against Japanese guys affect a lot of other Asians guys.

I'll finish it and share my view later