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Guys that can't take no for an answer

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8 years 3 weeks ago #470449 by xxnikki0330xx
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So I was talking to some guys on here and irl and stuff, and it's been bothering me that when I say I don't want a relationship or I'm not into them like that, (friendship is cool) and I feel bad and I don't want to be rude, but they cannot seem to take that as an answer. They act sad and try to guilt me into feeling like the bad guy in that situation, and I just end up getting frustrated with that. Does this happen to anyone else? Ladies? Men? Any experience or explanations? I'm just curious

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8 years 3 weeks ago #470450 by coolio90
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Don't feel guilty, ignore them and move on.
I think ladies are doing those dudes a huge favor by just blocking them or ignoring them if they don't get the hint and keep trying to get you to somehow like them. haha

They have to learn to move on with their lives....

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8 years 3 weeks ago #470451 by Akasha

xxnikki0330xx wrote: So I was talking to some guys on here and irl and stuff, and it's been bothering me that when I say I don't want a relationship or I'm not into them like that, (friendship is cool) and I feel bad and I don't want to be rude, but they cannot seem to take that as an answer. They act sad and try to guilt me into feeling like the bad guy in that situation, and I just end up getting frustrated with that. Does this happen to anyone else? Ladies? Men? Any experience or explanations? I'm just curious


It happens a lot actually, most of the time with women. It only gets worse when they ask for nude pictures. Block them if they start saying the following:
1: I thought you liked me/don't you like me anymore?...
2: Come on, I'm a great guy.
And 3: Why do you jump to conclusions?

Trust me this will save you a lot of unwanted time and energy being wasted.
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8 years 3 weeks ago #470455 by xxnikki0330xx
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I'm definitely taking that advice, I've heard all of this plus worse

Here's just an example of a conversation I had with a guy who's actually a HA member, he messaged me wanting to be friends and heard that I am a dancer...so he sent me this. I probably sound stupid and helpless in this but I seriously didn't know what to type bc I didn't want to be an a-hole either

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8 years 3 weeks ago #470457 by coolio90
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Please dont naive. There are crazy people in the world, especially on the internet. Protect yourself

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8 years 3 weeks ago - 8 years 3 weeks ago #470459 by Funaki
Replied by Funaki on topic Guys that can't take no for an answer
Maybe you're too soft-hearted.

Unless you're the one who's stringing them along to affirm your ego, you don't owe them anything and you should be straight and firm with them cos the only fair thing you can give them is your honesty. Obviously don't go overboard - guy's egos can be fragile and I can see how that would be hard, but you can't please everyone plus they're adult men who are responsible for their own emotional reactions - not you.

The moment you know deep down that they're into you and you're not into them, then to keep talking or seeing them would be stringing them along. You're doing the right thing by them, by being upfront and then standing your ground. :silence:
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8 years 3 weeks ago #470460 by melonbread
I want to see his sexy dance
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8 years 3 weeks ago #470461 by Akasha

xxnikki0330xx wrote: I'm definitely taking that advice, I've heard all of this plus worse

Here's just an example of a conversation I had with a guy who's actually a HA member, he messaged me wanting to be friends and heard that I am a dancer...so he sent me this. I probably sound stupid and helpless in this but I seriously didn't know what to type bc I didn't want to be an a-hole either


Oh honey, you weren't in the wrong. If it made you feel uncomfortable, then he's not worth it.

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8 years 3 weeks ago #470463 by xxnikki0330xx
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I'm not naiive, but I'm just angry and frustrated

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8 years 3 weeks ago #470464 by Abby
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Don't mind them. Some guys are just here to pass the time. If things get too uncomfortable, just block them. :up:

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