No spark on first date, then what?

but I think most of people will not give second chance, because most of people live in the moment not for future, I am future oriented.
For most of people, if you suck at first date, she/he will not care if you can be better in future, they only care about current you

Yi Yi wrote: I am very logical person, if the girl I am dating is hot and smart and can be helpful for my future life. But she screwed up by being sick or lack of dating experience, being nervous and these kind of reasons, I will not mind and keep dating.
I care about future, lacking of experience is no big deal for me because if a girl or a guy can make sparks very well for first date, he/she might have screwed up many times before. people can get improvement.
But if there are something unchangable like being stupid and completely useless for my future, I will stop dating.

I also met some girls super stupid, I approached a black girl 3 months ago, but she is always challenging me and playing hard to get, never pickup my call, and refuse to have a good talk to get to know each other, but she likes to challenge me and joke with me, but with good experience of pickup girls for years, I successfully attracted her later, we dated lately, but it is disaster, because in text, she always talk about bars, so I thought she is a bar type. and take her to bar, but she does not even know how to play pool game. So it becomes super boring and we both do not wanna see each other again.
It is not 100% my fault for screwing up, when I call her to talk, or have a proper talk to get to know her, she always do not pick up my phone on purpose or not reply these kind of questions. but just like to joke around with me and challenge me, I figured out her challenge wisely and with good humor. she always talk about bar which bring me a wrong info about her.

So it is not my loss. she think our first date is super boring and does not wanna see me again. But I do not care at all, since I already figured out we will not get along, because playing hard to get does not make me atttracted to her, but kind of hate her, when she wanna date me eventually, I lost interest immediately because it is like a conquest. playing hard to get makes me feel annoyed but once I won I lost interest.

Just out of curiosity, did you try to teach her when you guys were playing pool?

Suuushi wrote: If the girl request a second date, then why not give it another try. If you are the one who are requesting a second date, then my suggestion is that you shouldn't. Unless you were nervous the first time around and didn't show your best self. It's important to be able to create a spark, or find something you both have in common to build an emotional connection over. Having chemistry is important, and that's just something you can't force. So don't waste your time on a second date if there just isn't any chemistry. Time is the ultimate currency, and it's not just your time but hers. At least you got the first date. It's better to know than not to know if you two had chemistry or not.

Potito wrote: I always try to have something in common...but it's difficult to find a guy these days that likes cockroaches

I know what you mean... it's difficult to find a gal these days that likes macadamia chocolates.

Tarisus wrote: If let’s say you went on the first date with someone and there’s no spark. Do you try for second date or just forget about seeing him/her again?

did you take her to StarBucks Coffee???

peterhenrytran wrote:

Tarisus wrote: If let’s say you went on the first date with someone and there’s no spark. Do you try for second date or just forget about seeing him/her again?

did you take her to StarBucks Coffee???

I took her to Cheesecake Factory for 3 hours.

Unteachable, and she knew nothing about bar

Tarisus wrote:

peterhenrytran wrote:

Tarisus wrote: If let’s say you went on the first date with someone and there’s no spark. Do you try for second date or just forget about seeing him/her again?

did you take her to StarBucks Coffee???

I took her to Cheesecake Factory for 3 hours.

. well that was your first mistake bro. hot white babes like StarBucks.

Yi Yi wrote: I am very logical person, if the girl I am dating is hot and smart and can be helpful for my future life. But she screwed up by being sick or lack of dating experience, being nervous and these kind of reasons, I will not mind and keep dating.
I care about future, lacking of experience is no big deal for me because if a girl or a guy can make sparks very well for first date, he/she might have screwed up many times before. people can get improvement.
But if there are something unchangable like being stupid and completely useless for my future, I will stop dating.

I also met some girls super stupid, I approached a black girl 3 months ago, but she is always challenging me and playing hard to get, never pickup my call, and refuse to have a good talk to get to know each other, but she likes to challenge me and joke with me, but with good experience of pickup girls for years, I successfully attracted her later, we dated lately, but it is disaster, because in text, she always talk about bars, so I thought she is a bar type. and take her to bar, but she does not even know how to play pool game. So it becomes super boring and we both do not wanna see each other again.
It is not 100% my fault for screwing up, when I call her to talk, or have a proper talk to get to know her, she always do not pick up my phone on purpose or not reply these kind of questions. but just like to joke around with me and challenge me, I figured out her challenge wisely and with good humor. she always talk about bar which bring me a wrong info about her.

So it is not my loss. she think our first date is super boring and does not wanna see me again. But I do not care at all, since I already figured out we will not get along, because playing hard to get does not make me atttracted to her, but kind of hate her, when she wanna date me eventually, I lost interest immediately because it is like a conquest. playing hard to get makes me feel annoyed but once I won I lost interest.

interestinng stories...


that why me and that other guy been saying playing hard to get is crazy in a sense.....the books that teach this as success method, what female r eally succeed with this, i have to question....

Tenji wrote:

LipstickWarrior wrote: I'm kinda mixed on this after all first impressions are important but its also important to remember that we don't live in some BS romantic Hollywood Disney Cinderella-like fantasy that huge spark may not happen right away (take beauty and the beast for example) and if you don't people give a proper chance you may miss out on a good thing after all shy people do exist id say in this scenario only try again if the date was completely bad I.e they were creepy, rude, inappropriate, etc and good luck

THIS.

Relationships are something delicate that takes time to settle. You never know where they will lead, unless you are open to any outcome. Hey, maybe there's no romantic interest until you REALLY get to know each other and feel confortable. Or maybe it never happens and you made a great new friend. If there is no goal previously set for the meeting, you might learn something.

of course, thats why I say sure unless the date was completely bad ie: they were creepy or mean to try again thats how I met my new ex-first date was kinda boring but I still tried with him I really liked him but it just didn't work out months later