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Anyone had dealt with more than one person you fancy before?

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5 years 3 months ago #513202 by LanaG
I read this wrong and thought you meant as love triangle. But it has kind of happened I think(?) Mine was similar to yours but I definitely can’t do it anymore. I hate talking to more than one person at time it makes me feel uncomfortable in regards to myself.

Ive also had a time where I liked someone and they knew it and reciprocated that feeling but were also involved with another person
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5 years 3 months ago #513481 by Colibri5
I had 5 light infatuations during school and music band, they were small points of attraction / chemistry, I did not experience them deeply.
From the beginning I have honestly made clear what I thought and felt. I was attracted to their personalities, their personal growth, possible internal connection, similarities, warm and cheerful essences. I appreciate it, they were good times. However, their attitudes, selfishness, self-insecurity and sexist thoughts determined that I took distance from them.

On this site from the beginning I had romantic affections for only one person, still, having potential suitors around me to choose from, I did not choose any, because it is not correct. I honestly told him how I felt about him, but it wasn't enough, I applied many ways to communicate with him, and it did not work. I think he was involved with someone else, had no interest in me or was not on his priority list.Currently I have no crushes, because most are fickle, liquid over time and also because I have not had the opportunity to meet more people due to my work and independent researchs.
Even if One can not love more than one person at the same time, but you can be attracted towards more than one person at the same time as you want , however a few exceptions are always online or real life.

You can even flirt and talk with several people at once to explore a possible relationship. But once you reach the point of a relationship, that is when you cut it down to 1 person (Unless you both have agreed to an open relationship).
Just don't seriously date several people at the same time because that leads to a lot of pain. Even casually dating more than 1 is super risky and rarely worth it.
To the people who are in this situation or love triangle, it is better to reflect, meditate, and make a definitive decision. From the beginning, be honest and direct with what you feel and your actions, without hurting anyone. My best wishes!

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4 years 9 months ago #523606 by PhantomsExist
Yes,sadly had men fight over me in the past and it sucks at times..Usually it leaves me in a difficult situation,weighing pros and cons, it is never easy to reject someone or turn them down..So it should be handled with care..Some people do not take rejection very well..Had guys come back to cause drama..Not fun..It just goes to show that I made a okay choice though if a person comes back with insults,drama,and being flat out aggressive,toxic and violent towards me..I am very analytical and sometimes I over think..So I am always thinking..So to decide which person?If they are both new and I do not know them very well?I would usually try and get to know both more and decide,unless i was in a relationship with one of them,than the other person,would not even be an option..But two men interested just in general?Is not the issue..

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