Funny things about group meetups and meeting guys vs other females

I haven't been on this site in YEARS so things may have changed since all of this happened, but WAY back - as I'm an OG casual chatroom user and member here (don't know why I can't get into my account), I actually met people IRL in NYC as a group. I hadn't been speaking to anyone attending, besides another girl. We met there and later became good friends, I even stayed at her apt. in Flushing. LOL, We became friends with a guy we met there but most of the guys were kinda quiet...or rude. Someone ACTUALLY said, "why aren't there any blond girls here?" Shallow much? One time for a bit I did dye my hair blonde (but I don't like it that way...earth to guys, something like 90% of blond hair is FAKE after childhood) ... but we did make a friend...This guy was super funny and just easy to get along with. (Notice how I won't use names), my friend was actually there to meet someone, who quickly became really possessive and a burden. Anyway, I doubt I will ever go to another meetup after that, tho I feel a connection with other girls here...I mean, I and this girl like the same music, go out to the same bars...and I can see that happening again...but still, the AWKWARDNESS of that meetup due to most of the guys - besides that one - being weird...ruined it. And the fact that people were coming and going like girls and guys would show and leave. And this was NYC...I can't imagine trying to meet up in smaller cities. Anyone else experiences one?

Hmmm.. I been to some of dating events in NYC organized by Match or other meetup group.. The experience were ok, most of time I am a social butterfly, I would talk to everyone there. When the activity or the event ends, everyone just went on their separate ways.. Speed dating is worst, I was repeating myself every 5 min for an hour.. Never again...

You're almost 40 and you still go to bars?
What's wrong being weird? i am weird and my old customers had no problems with that. I made people laugh often and even make people blush. One of my customer become my best friend. We were there for each other through thick and thin. My other customer became a friend too just not as close as my best friend.
Oh poor you nobody made you feel special. Of course Asian men are weird because when they younger they weren't allowed to go out and play they had to study or learn to play piano. Why do you think Asian get high marks?
You're weird because you don't know jack $$$$ about Asian culture or how Asian boys are raised. Why did you go at all?

OK, that sounds like my language exchange group events I went to in Korea lol. Oh God, I don't think I could do that... unless they made it more fun like a game or something. They need to get more creative with these events.

You missed something, this was a LONG TIME AGO, I was younger. I do believe I went to have good conversation with other locals....STOP defending people you don't even know! Were you there? LOL PLEASE... I've lived and traveled in Asia, and people were not as awkward in general, now you are just generalizing cultures, not everyone is like you! Tell me about being weird, I bet I have you beat...I'm just not so awkward...being able to make people laugh was like the other guy we befriended...he was the NOT-so-weird one, it took the stress out of the sitch. He was a very cool guy honestly. You're just giving excuses for people who were just there, putting no effort in, wanting to get laid...but not knowing where to start. Honestly, I was glad to meet two friends...it doesn't always have to end with SOMETHING like a match. My friends match ended up being a nightmare.

Sapphire wrote: OK, that sounds like my language exchange group events I went to in Korea lol. Oh God, I don't think I could do that... unless they made it more fun like a game or something. They need to get more creative with these events.

The event were making sushi, donuts tour (good god i was sugar high), making sausage (soo many d**k jokes)...

OK, then those are worth going to. I was in a RURAL area and joined Meetup and was looking to go to events like that, but all we did was lay around at the beach. LOL

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Sapphire wrote: You missed something, this was a LONG TIME AGO, I was younger. I do believe I went to have good conversation with other locals....STOP defending people you don't even know! Were you there? LOL PLEASE... I've lived and traveled in Asia, and people were not as awkward in general, now you are just generalizing cultures, not everyone is like you! Tell me about being weird, I bet I have you beat...I'm just not so awkward...being able to make people laugh was like the other guy we befriended...he was the NOT-so-weird one, it took the stress out of the sitch. He was a very cool guy honestly. You're just giving excuses for people who were just there, putting no effort in, wanting to get laid...but not knowing where to start. Honestly, I was glad to meet two friends...it doesn't always have to end with SOMETHING like a match. My friends match ended up being a nightmare.

I'm not defending them. I'm explaining to you how Asian boys are raised. Of course I am generalizing. duh
If a guy is award he is not thinking of getting laid. You know nothing about men. When was 28 or 29 I was so scared of this hot woman. She was a 10 and every nice. I didn't have the balls to talk to her like i did with other people which includes women. Sex wasn't on my mind. Starting at age 32 i pretty much wasn't interested women that's why women came flocking to me.
I don't like to brag, i'm not some lame pickup artist but I do fine with the ladies if i want to. i don't hang with Asians to begin with so why I defend them? All i can say Asian women are nicer when approaching them which is why white and even black men go and approach Asian women.