2. Some general points about socialising on Hey-AI

1. To date, there are over 1900 people of a very diverse background from all over the world signed up as our members and use our website for many different purposes. Some join our website to know more about other languages and cultures, some want to meet people from another corner of the world or for some, Hey-AI is a good place to relax and chat a bit while having a break from work or studies.

2. Hey-AI members are no different from people you meet in real world. Everyone who agrees to adhere to our rules and guidelines are eligible to join Hey-AI. That means while the majority of our members are genuine, nice and kind-hearted people, there are also people who are exactly the opposite or even worse.

3. You are advised to exercise same kind of caution when meeting people here, as when meeting people elsewhere, especially given the ease of people pretending to be someone who they are really not on the internet. Specifically, if you decide to meet people from here the first time, the same as you meet other strangers, it is definitely advisible to meet at a public place, e.g. cafe. Other common precautions are also applicable.

4. A person in the real world can be very different from the one you know from online interactions for many reasons. Online messages do not necessarily reflect the person himself/herself, but the impression he/she wants to give you about himself/herself, which can be intentional or unintentional. To truly know and trust a person requires a lot of time and thoughts, definitely more than just a few meetings/dates. There are stories about people meeting up and dating with several people met on the internet at the same time and this reflects the complexity of our real world.

5. In short, if you decide to meet up (and/or to be become 'more than friends' ) with people on the internet, take your time, think carefully, exercise common cautions and when in doubt, talk to people whom you can trust before proceeding further.

If you have any comments or suggestions to this, please feel free to write to us.

awesome advice!!!!!!! ^^

thanks for the info
btw i am always scare of meeting ppl from the net

my parents found me adopted me from teh interwebz

like this....

Me. Too ! Even if i talk to them for a long time and they know me pretty well i still feel scared just think of the idea of meeting them- _-

This is a nice opening thread. Makes me feel like I have a big brother looking over me and giving me advice. But not in the oppressive way.

Huangfemu wrote: Internet dating is superficial and is often fucked up
I met real people in the real life

it is hard to find people who are real and honest, even if meeting in person..Each person I have met, always wore a mask and than dissapeared off the face of the earth or ghosted after meeting..I have accepted that a lot of people are not on the same page as me. A lot of people play games mentally online and only showing what they think is their most impressive things,than you meet them in a person and they turn out a lot different..I would also be cautious about meeting someone in a private place..If something happened with that person its not good to be alone..You never truly know someone with one visit or their intentions..The dating world is not like it used to be..A lot of people are just looking for" fun ".. For me, fun is talking, going go kart racing, mini golfing, traveling and other things non sexual..Terms have changed to mean something different now..It feels there is always a catch..Feels that there is always a hidden agenda as the world becomes more dishonest..

Dude
I have always filtered people in the real life..for those who are closed to me are not superficial....are my daily friends

The rest arent...

Easy solution.

Life is not a kdrama or a movie or a Disney story
Perfect people doesn't exist, everybody lied, hurted , or made feel bad to any person once at least.
Sometimes what you don't like about that person is what other person likes about him/her
Life is not black or white, fortunately there are many grays.
Being too sensitive is not good for yourself,but if you can't avoid it... just learn to live with it. World is rough.
Once you know these points other persons actions won't affect you too much....