would you share your partner ?

San_Ichiban wrote:

nanox wrote:

Psypsy wrote:

nanox wrote:

Psypsy wrote:

nanox wrote: No.

I would only share if the relationship were solid. Or if we both shared Tamm.

Or Rexy.

Or San.

Also Petey.

Oh and Vesna.

Or any combination of the above.

Or all of the above.

Can I join? I've have gummy bears and a stainless steel ladal

You can join Petey and Yi.

Every hole is a goal i guess. Sorry too far? (or deep)

I doubt it would be that deep. They don't have room for a third wheel because they each have a third leg.

deep space nein.

Is that on netflix?

I don't share my future partner with no other females. I don't do polygamy.

PreciousAngie191 wrote: I don't share my partner with no other females. I don't do polygamy.

But you are sharing him , or someone is having your future partner. It's just a matter of commitment.

Benny wrote:

PreciousAngie191 wrote: I don't share my partner with no other females. I don't do polygamy.

But you are sharing him , or someone is having your partner. It's just a matter of commitment.

I will make things clear to him and many others that I don't accept polygamy.

I meant to say future partner .

with some people who might be more open minded.... i actually had a talk with a friend about this recently.

biologically we are organisms made to breed. staying in one relationship for the course of your entire life span is a thing of recent human evolution - along with things like colonization to civilization. the lines begin to get a little blurred when it gets technical, and into detail about what separates us from our animistic instincts. being in my third relationship now at a more mature and emotionally healthy point of my life; i experience first hand what it means to lose the initial passion and lustful romance associated with being physically attracted to someone.

my kiss to my partner was different from the first kiss. different from the sex-kiss. it's more of loving kiss. i find myself dreading their phones calls and texts sometimes. sometimes it feels like responsibility. perhaps i'm not in a healthy relationship? though i would disagree if you told me otherwise. i find myself looking at the opposite sex. sometimes even very lustful. and a step further i act on it sometimes finding myself talking, borderline flirting. and i find that the more i fight this the more lustful i become. so i come to accept that i will forever be attracted to other people who isn't my partner.

then this goes to the idea of a polygamous relationship. i've read stories of pornstars having relationships. having sex in their perception was just work. coming home to each other was that heart felt "love". that may be too extreme. even orgies and sex parties with my partner may be too extreme for me at the moment. but let's just keep an open mind for a second. i mean you really have to be open minded about this... hypothetically i have a side partner and so does my SO. its alright been alright in my mind that I can have a side partner but not my SO. how selfish can i be? i see how there can be love but still have different sex partners. they are two different things. very much related to each other, but not intertwined.

only issues is if after some point your partner finds out their side partner is much more of a soulmate for them then you. but i guess i'm not at that point yet. or morally we would be at different places. one may value loyalty very highly and the other not so much. anyway... don't know where i was trying to go with this. except for keep an open mind with the possibility. because if you've asked me a few years ago i wouldn't have batted an eye before completely dismissing such an absurd idea.

iownstan wrote: with some people who might be more open minded.... i actually had a talk with a friend about this recently.

biologically we are organisms made to breed. staying in one relationship for the course of your entire life span is a thing of recent human evolution - along with things like colonization to civilization. the lines begin to get a little blurred when it gets technical, and into detail about what separates us from our animistic instincts. being in my third relationship now at a more mature and emotionally healthy point of my life; i experience first hand what it means to lose the initial passion and lustful romance associated with being physically attracted to someone.

my kiss to my partner was different from the first kiss. different from the sex-kiss. it's more of loving kiss. i find myself dreading their phones calls and texts sometimes. sometimes it feels like responsibility. perhaps i'm not in a healthy relationship? though i would disagree if you told me otherwise. i find myself looking at the opposite sex. sometimes even very lustful. and a step further i act on it sometimes finding myself talking, borderline flirting. and i find that the more i fight this the more lustful i become. so i come to accept that i will forever be attracted to other people who isn't my partner.

then this goes to the idea of a polygamous relationship. i've read stories of pornstars having relationships. having sex in their perception was just work. coming home to each other was that heart felt "love". that may be too extreme. even orgies and sex parties with my partner may be too extreme for me at the moment. but let's just keep an open mind for a second. i mean you really have to be open minded about this... hypothetically i have a side partner and so does my SO. its alright been alright in my mind that I can have a side partner but not my SO. how selfish can i be? i see how there can be love but still have different sex partners. they are two different things. very much related to each other, but not intertwined.

only issues is if after some point your partner finds out their side partner is much more of a soulmate for them then you. but i guess i'm not at that point yet. or morally we would be at different places. one may value loyalty very highly and the other not so much. anyway... don't know where i was trying to go with this. except for keep an open mind with the possibility. because if you've asked me a few years ago i wouldn't have batted an eye before completely dismissing such an absurd idea.

And how do you explain even some type of animals choosing only one lifetime partner?
Would this also be the result of recent human evolution and civilization? It can't, right?

Personally I think monogamy, polygamy, polyamory and however you want to call all those different sexuality- and love-forms, are a personal choice. It's a choice you - as a human being - make based on your upbringing, experiences and values - not so much based on your biology.

Share my partner no. If I am in a relationship, should be just between us, if I am bored of him or whatever we brake up, that simple.

I cannot imagine my future guy, who I wake up in bed with that a few hours or etc, he was waking up with someone else.

LuckyTree wrote: And how do you explain even some type of animals choosing only one lifetime partner?
Would this also be the result of recent human evolution and civilization? It can't, right?

Many animals that pair for life aren't truly monogamous. Many birds that were thought to be monogamous were discovered as cheaters through DNA tests and GPS tracking. That's not to say there aren't monogamous animals, about 3% of the mamals are. A good indicator of whether a species and their ancestors were polygamous is dimorphism - where the males of the species are significantly larger or more colorful than females, such as gorilla, peacock, and lion. This is thought to be the result of males having to compete with other males for the right to mate with many females, and the traits that help them success, size, strength and color, are then passed on from successful males and become more pronounced over generations. On the other hand, for animals that are truly monogamous, the size and looks of male and female are very similar. Human does have some dimorphism, with males on average larger and stronger than females, and historic record also points to polygamy in various cultures. These factors would indicate that our ancestors were likely polygamous or at least cheaters, and monogamy is a recent human adaptation.

This isn't to say one way or the other is right. Monogamy might well be what works for humans in our current environment. But there are likely biological polygamy insticts passed on from ancestors that monogamists have to fight against. That's probably also why cheaters are very common. On the other hand, we've evolved complex language, so communication is always the key. If someone's needs are different from their partner, it needs to be communicate so the partner can understand, adjust, or call off the relationship. Our insticts aren't an excuse for cheating.

They say patient is the key, but in this case you have to hurry up before your future partner went with other person.