What is a girl's motive/mission behind looking for a guy?

What does a girl want with a guy, that they can't already get with a friend or relative? "platonic relationship". Because, as far as I know, most girls will say things like guys who are perverts stay away, or if you want sex, you are a pervert. It's like the guy's motive behind looking for a girl can't be sex related, even though that's the whole point. Otherwise they would be hanging out with Billy and Bobby, riding bikes and playing the video james.

I mean, what do you think guys are looking for in a girl. What are girls even trying to accomplish finding? A platonic relationship that they can have with any other gender? A money tree? A kissy hug buddy? A handy man?

It's like, uh, you want a 'relationship', something something talk to each other, do things together... yea, so why do you need a guy to do that, exactly? You don't have friends who are girls who you can talk to and do those things? But at the same time, a guy coming to you with sex in mind is a sicko or something?

WeirdChamp. Girls getting pissed off about sex is something I see alot. And I honestly think that girls don't actually want or like sex, and that it's a male biology thing, ie the male genital that has that heightened sense of sex, which is why they actually want it so much. ie girls will never understand. just like something something oh im a girl and i have a female body so you males shouldn't talk when you don't know since you're male- same concept.

more and more im starting to find there is no real motive but thats just me I guess....

All women are different and have different motivations. Some girls don't mind getting straight into the physical aspects of relationships. And some girls prefer a guy who can stimulate them in ways other than physically. It's not that women don't want sex. They just don't that to be the ONLY reason why a guy is interested in them. Men and women, of course are emotional beings. Think of it this way. Any guy can come along and offer a woman sex. But what else can you offer? Figuratively speaking, do you skip foreplay before you bone her? The foreplay is what gets her stimulated. Every lady has their own way of being stimulated. Often time you will find more success when you put sex as the last priority on your mind. Maybe try something different. Cook her a meal. Participate in an interest or hobby she likes. Once you break that boundary and find that one common thing you both can connect with on an emotionally level. Becoming physically intimate is just a matter of time, but she will be more open to physical intimacy. You will know it, because she will probably give you cues via body language or being more flirtatious with physical touch.

Girls just want to tear out guy's heart & burn it in a bonfire to the Lord of Darkness. It is known.

JunJun.fr wrote: Girls just want to tear out guy's heart & burn it in a bonfire to the Lord of Darkness. It is known.

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Just kidding.

Lol say what? I was thinking game of thrones with melisandra..thanks for the laugh..

Guys are funny by nature and fun to hang out with, whether it's as friends or relationship. Bonus if you're Asian

teseaquedeseas wrote: What does a girl want with a guy, that they can't already get with a friend or relative? "platonic relationship". Because, as far as I know, most girls will say things like guys who are perverts stay away, or if you want sex, you are a pervert. It's like the guy's motive behind looking for a girl can't be sex related, even though that's the whole point. Otherwise they would be hanging out with Billy and Bobby, riding bikes and playing the video james.

I mean, what do you think guys are looking for in a girl. What are girls even trying to accomplish finding? A platonic relationship that they can have with any other gender? A money tree? A kissy hug buddy? A handy man?

It's like, uh, you want a 'relationship', something something talk to each other, do things together... yea, so why do you need a guy to do that, exactly? You don't have friends who are girls who you can talk to and do those things? But at the same time, a guy coming to you with sex in mind is a sicko or something?

WeirdChamp. Girls getting pissed off about sex is something I see alot. And I honestly think that girls don't actually want or like sex, and that it's a male biology thing, ie the male genital that has that heightened sense of sex, which is why they actually want it so much. ie girls will never understand. just like something something oh im a girl and i have a female body so you males shouldn't talk when you don't know since you're male- same concept.

i know what you mean...if you look at enough female profiles just here, that theme comes up ,girls talking about hating pervs ,this and that....

i dont get this so much for in personn relation, maybe cuz i select females that are attracted, if she not attracted , what the heck is the point engaging relation with her?

so the big question is, if she is attracted, is he still perv?if s he really hates sex, is that a big problem? how many guys you think hates sex? lmao....



i talked to some broken females here...


i have to say some of them were not normal inn a sense i feel.....either coming from messed up experiences and so on....

when you see and hear things like stay away pervs and what not, it doesnt mean they dont like sex. for online dating, most likely they have it on their profile to deter guys from sending them dirty messages. but im sure that works well lol. girls are still human. their libido can be just as high and even more than guys.

You are totally right about just getting to know her first as a person with feelings and emotions, etc.
The last statement about "Knowing how to touch her, without touching her, really touches her." that's Wonderful!! You are a very special person and you will go far! Please do not change your mindset on this typical!! I have been telling males this for years and they would look at me crazy!!

teseaquedeseas wrote: What does a girl want with a guy, that they can't already get with a friend or relative? "platonic relationship". Because, as far as I know, most girls will say things like guys who are perverts stay away, or if you want sex, you are a pervert. It's like the guy's motive behind looking for a girl can't be sex related, even though that's the whole point. Otherwise they would be hanging out with Billy and Bobby, riding bikes and playing the video james.

I mean, what do you think guys are looking for in a girl. What are girls even trying to accomplish finding? A platonic relationship that they can have with any other gender? A money tree? A kissy hug buddy? A handy man?

It's like, uh, you want a 'relationship', something something talk to each other, do things together... yea, so why do you need a guy to do that, exactly? You don't have friends who are girls who you can talk to and do those things? But at the same time, a guy coming to you with sex in mind is a sicko or something?

WeirdChamp. Girls getting pissed off about sex is something I see alot. And I honestly think that girls don't actually want or like sex, and that it's a male biology thing, ie the male genital that has that heightened sense of sex, which is why they actually want it so much. ie girls will never understand. just like something something oh im a girl and i have a female body so you males shouldn't talk when you don't know since you're male- same concept.

One of the great mysteries of the universe. ~ understand how women think and feel

Are you for real? Such an unusual question and to be so shocked that women don't act just like you. I was literally just about to leave but ....

I think you should know there's a theory that could give you perspective ~ that if you can understand brain architecture and chemistry well enough, you can predict an individual’s response to any given stimulus with 100 percent accuracy.

If you want a one night stand. Seek out the girls who are into that kind of stuff. If you want a relationship, look for the girl who can give that to you. But you still got to meet them halfway mate. Just because they are looking for sex, don't expect them to just beg you simply because you ask. That should be obvious unless they are not shy and a hooker.

Study up on the kind of guys that girls dig. Not all will like the same guy. But it seems pretty basic that you need to be more comfortable with who you are, take care of yourself physically and career wise and be able to properly "woo" her. If you're a stranger, they need time to get to know you before getting intimate and you should be able to send her signals that you like her BUT not in a creepy offputting desperate way.

Typically girls usually wants a guy who is "strong" and is able to stand up for her and be her best friend. And know how to make her laugh. What they are not looking for is someone who just wants to use her like an easy piece of meat....unless you are really hot.

Just play to your strengths. Learn to read and understand them but ABSOLUTELY don't expect them to act exactly like you and then be frustrated when they're nothing like you. I think it's safe to say many women don't have your male biology ~ horny personality.

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