What is a girl's motive/mission behind looking for a guy?

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Is our pure and sincere soul means nothing to them ?lol

Personally, I think sex is not the point. Some may disagree, but the point of a real relationship is a lifetime love and companionship. I won’t have sex at all until after I am married to the right guy.
Religiously speaking (from an Orthodox Christian point of view), marriage is not a piece of paper, and it’s not a mere promise. It’s a vow, and a connection between two human souls, with God as the witness.

Then again, putting aside the religious POV, if person A loves person B, then they will love all aspects of the other person. If they like your body but not your personality, tendencies, lifestyle, etc... then that’s a red flag. If they like your looks, personality, tendencies, but they don’t care about your feelings or the things you feel are important, then that’s also a red flag.
I personally think that a good, lasting relationship requires love for all aspects of the other person, respect for their boundaries, and sometimes it might require a self-sacrifice for the sake of the other person. This is a delicate balance and if it’s only one person compromising and self-sacrificing, then it’s not a good relationship.
If dating, relationships, and marriage are thought of as a subconscious art form, it might make more sense. It’s not a game of reverse psychology, and it’s not about keeping the other person happy using any means necessary. It’s about sticking with the other person throughout any difficulties that may arise throughout their lives together, and being honest even when the truth seems ugly. There are many definitions for the word ‘love’, because everybody is different and has a different understanding and/or idea of the word. The above was my understand of it, so it probably will not apply for some people. I don’t have anything against that. Hopefully it helped someone at least...
Anyway, excuse the long paragraph; I seem to have a tendency to type a lot when it comes to deeper/more philosophical topics. Sorry bout that. Well, if you read this far, thanks!

I think it truly depends on that person as to what their motives are.I can only speak for myself.I feel i truly have no motives except to know people first and make friends.I am looking for a partner but i wont force that on anyone.Even if i may be disapointed.I would value the persons friendship more.A lot of people think women are just out to use guys for their money or whatever.I am truly not like that,at all.I can tend to maybe a little too expressive and honest when i like someone?Maybe that makes the person feel like i expect something from them?When i am rejected by that person though or pushed away?I am looking for honesty..I try to be honest as possible.I have my options when it comes to guys.I do not treat every guy the same though. I normally will get to know the guy first though.If anything physical happens before than?That seems romantic to me or more than friends?(even small and simple things)I do tend to sadly get attached.Which is why i hold myself back from certain things.I wont give in to temptations if i feel it will jeoperdise a good foundation.When i make e friends,i expect open and honest communication.I struggle with depression and anxiety and so I tell that person i am going through dark times,when im not thinking clearly or logically.Usually I look for people who can accept me for me..Even in dark times and have understanding..One of the friends i had made on here that ill be traveling with next week,has allowed me to express my darkness as well as my light,without harsh judgement and has been brutally honest with me,and it has helped me to grow.I am thankful for the friendship and exceptance.He knows a bit of my dark past and a bit about me,and it does not scare him when i share things.It does not scare me either when i talk to him.I feel to make friends and get to know people,you have to be vulnerable and trust to a certain extent.Anyways,do i expect him to be more than friends?Have i confessed any feelings for him?Actually no,i havent.Why?Because im just getting to know him and so i am not being impulsive.I like to see if there is actually anything there in person,I will not expect anything but to have a good time touring the city,getting to know more about each other.Eating food together,laughing and just having fun.My expectations and motives when meeting someone is zero.I am usually surprised if anything else happens.I do not like setting myself up for disspointment by expecting things..Expect nothing and you cant be dissapointed..I had one really nice connection with someone from here,and well,i felt i got mixed signals.Even though the words were clear,the actions were not.With the guy friends i do make?My actions and words are usually crystal clear.Lets be friends and see where it goes.I dont just get physical with every attractive guy i meet..So,my motives,just get to know the person.Usually i will plan something beforehand.. Before meeting them.The last person I met,I actually had no intentions other than eating a good meal with them,eating some ice cream, and just talking and getting to know each other.Little did i know?I actually didnt eat the whole day or night as they refused to even drink anything..So..Yeah..It really depends..Not everyone sees eye to eye on things.If i really really really,genuinly like a guy and cant help it?I will tell him my feelings.It is rare though..Last time i did that?I got hurt.As i was also very confused.I didnt even know myself really as to what i was feeling.as i hadnt felt such intense feelings in a really long time.I thought it was something logical,it wasnt really.After awhile,i learned it was genuine.All i expected was to be treated like a person and be allowed to get to know them.I had the door closed in my face after telling how i felt.So i learned a lot from that..I had not felt like that in so many years and to have a door slammed basically in my face,was kinda ouch.So i enjoy being single and taking things slow with people.I have my options when it comes to guys,but i dont play games.If one door slams me,i move on.I got the hint loud and clear buddy,im moving on.Its all good.I wont be crawling back to someone who does not want me in their life.I am not desperate.Even if i have a hard time expressing my feelings.I am looking for people who understand this and have patience with me.I am definatly not the easiest person in the world to handle.I have my days.So those people who do want to understand me and get to know me?I give them a chance.If they dont want me in their lives and what i have to offer,than fine,im gone. My motives are pure usually.I have no intentions of having sex with someone,kissing or cuddling or whatever.Even if i find the person really attractive.I hold my ground.I know what will happen if i do that with someone who does not care about me in that way.I will end up hurt.So..All that physical stuff is the last thing on my mind.I would rather have a good time.Ok im ranting..lol..Its late and im tired.Not that anyone cares to read this anyways.Some women have crappy motives and want to use people,i am not one of those people.I am looking for a deeper connection though..Nothing with sexual intentions.Just talking intellectually and getting to know each other.I will never ever treat a guy like he is just another option.I will hold my ground if someone closes me out of their lives though,why shouldnt i move on to people who value my effort and time?Why give my time and effort to someone who does not want it or value it?Than yes,i will easily move on.Not many people talk about things that matter and leave it skin deep..Lets talk about the weather or the job or how cute the cat is..Nahh..Lets get deeper than that..What makes you tick,what inspires you?What drives you to keep living everyday of your life on this earth? Lets be real and connect..Forget work and the weather.lol..Anyways..People who can handle me,really impress me.Seriously.So yeah..you guys have a good night or day..im talking in circles and need to sleep.