So what is it that attracts you to the opposite sex?

InfamousMJ wrote:

samanosukesgirl wrote:

candykid24 wrote: Hey guys,

Just a common question: How important is a girls physical appearance to you? Do things like flawless skin and perfect features really matter most?

No such thing as flawless. If there were, Earth would be an extremely boring place to live.

that is true, because everyone has their own preferences like sometimes-del said. But my preference is that she must look fit like me.

Flaws are not only on the physical level. They run skin deep. I don't disrespect what type you wish to have, but many assume that flaws are just on the surface.

To be real: 95% of guys are all hooked up on appearances, if you don't look like a barbie (okay, maybe not a barbie, but you catch my drift anyways right?), chances are, they won't be interested in you from the get go. Few will go deeper than skin, just sayin'. This is from personal experience, and, no, I'm not bitter, I am happily taken by someone who dug deeper than looks I am just realistic. There have been numerous studies done on this subject (I wish I could find them to use as hardcore proof, but, alas, they are only "spoken" studies). The guys always chose the "better" looking girl, over the not so good looking girl with a good personality. Tada, end of topic.

intranceitrust wrote: To be real: 95% of guys are all hooked up on appearances, if you don't look like a barbie (okay, maybe not a barbie, but you catch my drift anyways right?), chances are, they won't be interested in you from the get go. Few will go deeper than skin, just sayin'.

It is absolutely true that guys are hung up on appearances. However, not all guys are hung up on appearances on a superficial level, even though it may appear that way superficially. Let's explore this topic with a case study:

Let's use a theoretical person named Sue as an example. Sue is overweight and spends her leisurely time watching television as she indulges on yet another pint of ice cream. While she may be a saint, volunteering her at weekends at the homeless shelter, she neglects the fundamental principles of hygiene - her face riddled with acne, her arms and legs remain unshaved, and a subtle but noticeable body odor lingers with her presence; she clearly does not put forth any effort in her appearance.

Now Sue is an extreme case; she is a composite of the extremes that I, and undoubtedly other men, have encountered and found to be repulsive. She may have the best personality in the world but all her flawed attributes are indicative of a common trait: a lack of self respect.

Both men and women are susceptible to these follies, so don't think I am singling out the ladies.

Now to come full circle, yes men are hung up on looks. But the reason why is different on an individual basis. To think that men care about looks only for shallow reasons is shallow reasoning in itself.

Your body is the temple of your soul; it is the vehicle in which you move about in this world. If you are what you eat, and you habitually eat junk food, you become junk - your thoughts and actions become junk. If you are plagued by acne, you're likely not correctly metabolizing the fats/oils that you eat. If you're obese, you're likely making poor lifestyle choices: lack of exercise and poor food choices. Even people who are not considered to be 'good looking' can exude radiance and beauty because their physical appearance will reflect that they have made good lifestyle choices!

True beauty comes from within, literally. Perhaps putting emphasis on physical appearance IS going beyond skin-deep afterall.

Now here is my point, which I hope will forever resolve the question of 'what is more important? looks or personality?': I take great care of myself in terms of appearance AND I have put in the effort to cultivate a compassionate and altruistic personality. Why should I expect any less when screening for a suitable mate in the opposite sex?

hoisauce wrote:

intranceitrust wrote: To be real: 95% of guys are all hooked up on appearances, if you don't look like a barbie (okay, maybe not a barbie, but you catch my drift anyways right?), chances are, they won't be interested in you from the get go. Few will go deeper than skin, just sayin'.

It is absolutely true that guys are hung up on appearances. However, not all guys are hung up on appearances on a superficial level, even though it may appear that way superficially. Let's explore this topic with a case study:

Let's use a theoretical person named Sue as an example. Sue is overweight and spends her leisurely time watching television as she indulges on yet another pint of ice cream. While she may be a saint, volunteering her at weekends at the homeless shelter, she neglects the fundamental principles of hygiene - her face riddled with acne, her arms and legs remain unshaved, and a subtle but noticeable body odor lingers with her presence; she clearly does not put forth any effort in her appearance.

Now Sue is an extreme case; she is a composite of the extremes that I, and undoubtedly other men, have encountered and found to be repulsive. She may have the best personality in the world but all her flawed attributes are indicative of a common trait: a lack of self respect.

Both men and women are susceptible to these follies, so don't think I am singling out the ladies.

Now to come full circle, yes men are hung up on looks. But the reason why is different on an individual basis. To think that men care about looks only for shallow reasons is shallow reasoning in itself.

Your body is the temple of your soul; it is the vehicle in which you move about in this world. If you are what you eat, and you habitually eat junk food, you become junk - your thoughts and actions become junk. If you are plagued by acne, you're likely not correctly metabolizing the fats/oils that you eat. If you're obese, you're likely making poor lifestyle choices: lack of exercise and poor food choices. Even people who are not considered to be 'good looking' can exude radiance and beauty because their physical appearance will reflect that they have made good lifestyle choices!

True beauty comes from within, literally. Perhaps putting emphasis on physical appearance IS going beyond skin-deep afterall.

Now here is my point, which I hope will forever resolve the question of 'what is more important? looks or personality?': I take great care of myself in terms of appearance AND I have put in the effort to cultivate a compassionate and altruistic personality. Why should I expect any less when screening for a suitable mate in the opposite sex?

Not touching that with a 20 foot pole. I can shatter your argument, but I won't... some people just can't see beyond the box.

intranceitrust wrote: I can shatter your argument, but I won't... some people just can't see beyond the box.

Is that so? Please enlighten the rest of us.

I am going to plead the 5th on this one.. and that is all.

hoisauce wrote: While she may be a saint, volunteering her at weekends at the homeless shelter, she neglects the fundamental principles of hygiene - her face riddled with acne, her arms and legs remain unshaved,

Give us a break, really. I hate how society imposes us to be all pampered up, and while I understand how hair can be unwanted in some places - on arms, seriously? So men can walk around like hairy monkeys and everyone is cool with it (yes, Asians don't usually have much, I'm referring to males as a whole), but we have no self respect if we don't get rid of every bit of hair on our bodies?

Otherwise, I do agree with your point to some extent.

Physical appearance is very important for a first step, sincerely, for both men and women, it's a quick way to evaluate someone, we all do, subconsciently. We rely at first on physical appearance because: Sight is our most evolved sense, and about the personality... i've met tons of people, who aren't really as the first time i met them, a lot of people tends to be fake, and try to be the way they think you would like them to be, and more if they are trying to catch your attention.

But for a long-run, we have to talk about balance, i've had crushes on chubby girls, and i have left pretty girls, appearance is not the most important, but it does count as well, in the end, we have the instincts to choose a partner with good gens to have our descendants.

And i'm not talking about the "Standard beauty" or prom-queen-look. The appearance can catch our attention in a lot of ways. I like girls with freckles, i find scars sexy too sometimes, weird haircuts or details, etc...

She got to have a 36-24-35 body

hoisauce wrote:

intranceitrust wrote: To be real: 95% of guys are all hooked up on appearances, if you don't look like a barbie (okay, maybe not a barbie, but you catch my drift anyways right?), chances are, they won't be interested in you from the get go. Few will go deeper than skin, just sayin'.

It is absolutely true that guys are hung up on appearances. However, not all guys are hung up on appearances on a superficial level, even though it may appear that way superficially. Let's explore this topic with a case study:

Let's use a theoretical person named Sue as an example. Sue is overweight and spends her leisurely time watching television as she indulges on yet another pint of ice cream. While she may be a saint, volunteering her at weekends at the homeless shelter, she neglects the fundamental principles of hygiene - her face riddled with acne, her arms and legs remain unshaved, and a subtle but noticeable body odor lingers with her presence; she clearly does not put forth any effort in her appearance.

Now Sue is an extreme case; she is a composite of the extremes that I, and undoubtedly other men, have encountered and found to be repulsive. She may have the best personality in the world but all her flawed attributes are indicative of a common trait: a lack of self respect.

Both men and women are susceptible to these follies, so don't think I am singling out the ladies.

Now to come full circle, yes men are hung up on looks. But the reason why is different on an individual basis. To think that men care about looks only for shallow reasons is shallow reasoning in itself.

Your body is the temple of your soul; it is the vehicle in which you move about in this world. If you are what you eat, and you habitually eat junk food, you become junk - your thoughts and actions become junk. If you are plagued by acne, you're likely not correctly metabolizing the fats/oils that you eat. If you're obese, you're likely making poor lifestyle choices: lack of exercise and poor food choices. Even people who are not considered to be 'good looking' can exude radiance and beauty because their physical appearance will reflect that they have made good lifestyle choices!

True beauty comes from within, literally. Perhaps putting emphasis on physical appearance IS going beyond skin-deep afterall.

Now here is my point, which I hope will forever resolve the question of 'what is more important? looks or personality?': I take great care of myself in terms of appearance AND I have put in the effort to cultivate a compassionate and altruistic personality. Why should I expect any less when screening for a suitable mate in the opposite sex?

I don't even know WHERE to begin..

Matter of fact, I just won't say a thing.