Question about marriage.

Why do you people want to get married so badly?
Why does that piece of paper mean so much to you?

I have hard time understanding the whole thing so please explain.

Many people will make fun of say: marriage is the tomb. Once you jump in, will be doomed eternally ... Many a girl in love, will foolishly expect myself to put on wedding day, because, they argued, that day, is very important in many people's eyes, marriage is their life and even life an indispensable link. Marriage is not really that important? Marriage, the eternal topic of mankind, everyone need to face, regardless of which country are you in, or belong to a race, all without exception is said, marriage is the sublimation of love, is a relationship in the crystal, more mean, a responsibility. And others said, marriage is a yoke, a cage, once set foot in, you will lose freedom. In fact, marriage have really so terrible? Marriage, gave a man a responsibility, to give a woman an eternal security. Compared with animals, we've got a feeling, a constant pursuit of love heart... So, instead of the lonely life, why not find a companion, life, passing another love?

hmm, are you saying you can't get responsibility, safety and love from a solid relationship?

About marriage.

It's important because no one wants to share the person they love. People will be stupid and say, "do you own them?" "or do you belong to them?" If your response is no, then people will take them away.

Simple.

Step 1: Offical Marriage.
Step 2: Do romantic honeymoon things, like shop for a life insurance policy.
Step 3: Cyanida, baby.
Step 4: Profit.

Now no one on here's gonna marry me. I'll have to go elsewhere with my plan.

Vesna wrote: Why do you people want to get married so badly?
Why does that piece of paper mean so much to you?

I have hard time understanding the whole thing so please explain.

For some it's a rite of passage for a certain stage of life, A reflection upon their more serious and committed relationship. You don't need to be married to to have such a relationship, but it might be fitting for those that are ready for it. There's a lot of people that aren't ready for it, and they shouldn't get married (even if they think they should). In that same vein, there's a lot of people that are married that aren't really cut out for it (be it self-centeredness, immaturity, or unresolved personality flaws, etc).

Marriage carries some financial benefit, but also some pitfalls as well. "Financial benefit" and legal status seems to have a longer precedence compared to the more modern idea of marrying for "love".

Social norms dictate certain expectations. That has changed over time, but remnants remain. The progression towards an aversion towards marriage has been a long time coming, but I'd disagree with the premise that we're any more evolved because of out. Just like a marriage certificate does not make one more responsible, mature (etc), 'nor does the lack of one make us any less of a bunch of individuals that are way too full of ourselves (and our own wants and needs).

Compared to other generations, we're more progressive on a lot of ideas, but we're also more individualistic. Which is not bad within the bounds of reason, but the decline in marriage might be more indicative of the latest generations focusing more on ourselves more than anything else. i.e. "free to be me."

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Vesna wrote: Why do you people want to get married so badly?
Why does that piece of paper mean so much to you?

I have hard time understanding the whole thing so please explain.

For some it's a rite of passage for a certain stage of life, A reflection upon their more serious and committed relationship. You don't need to be married to to have such a relationship, but it might be fitting for those that are ready for it. There's a lot of people that aren't ready for it, and they shouldn't get married (even if they think they should). In that same vein, there's a lot of people that are married that aren't really cut out for it (be it self-centeredness, immaturity, or unresolved personality flaws, etc).

Marriage carries some financial benefit, but also some pitfalls as well. "Financial benefit" and legal status seems to have a longer precedence compared to the more modern idea of marrying for "love".

Social norms dictate certain expectations. That has changed over time, but remnants remain. The progression towards an aversion towards marriage has been a long time coming, but I'd disagree with the premise that we're any more evolved because of out. Just like a marriage certificate does not make one more responsible, mature (etc), 'nor does the lack of one make us any less of a bunch of individuals that are way too full of ourselves (and our own wants and needs).

Compared to other generations, we're more progressive on a lot of ideas, but we're also more individualistic. Which is not bad within the bounds of reason, but the decline in marriage might be more indicative of the latest generations focusing more on ourselves more than anything else. i.e. "free to be me."

finally! thank you.

but i still don't think marriage is a good thing.

statistics say that as well.

more than 50% of marriages end up with a divorce.

No probs.

I agree for the majority (I think), but in some cases it might work for some couples. Maybe not an inalienable right, though. It has to "fit the mold", so to speak.

Divorce races are quite high, to be sure. Another reason why marriage rates have dropped was because of our parent's generation and their own focus on their own wants/needs. Things kind of went from the selflessness to the individual's detriment to numero uno being superior to the rest. Some kinds that grow up in divided homes might have a less favorable impression of marriage. Not so much for the inherit merit of the institution (but that's probably weakened just the same), but because they've seen the end-result of an unfavorable pairing. Whether it's one parent, the other, or both.

Interesting little tidbit: there's quite a few people in that 50% divorce rate that are "repeat offenders", so to speak. One study found that most people assumed that people learned from their divorces. Learning about what they wanted, etc. Contrary to that belief the study found that people were increasingly (exponentially) more likely to get divorced after the first marriage. There was a point 2-3+ marriages in when the person just gave up the thing that they were fixated on and "gave in". Kind of interesting, actually. I guess for some, "three's the charm", eh?

social pressure, keeping up w the joneses before their boobs sag