What is your ideal first date?

Woman gets angry at date after rejecting him because she couldn’t handle him being ok with it
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It's all about the personality...until you go bald!

Hopefully not everyone's so unreasonable, but I think to such a type of person, you could simply say in response, 'I was going for that sexy Jason Statham look. It would be nice if you could please reciprocate and go to the gym/have some plastic surgery to look more like his girlfriend, so we can both enjoy looking like celebrities together'.

Although even if she were to say yes, i think it'd be a major red flag....probably both end up looking like puffer faces playing 1-up botox wars into old age.

Sammo wrote: It's all about the personality...until you go bald!

Hopefully not everyone's so unreasonable, but I think to such a type of person, you could simply say in response, 'I was going for that sexy Jason Statham look. It would be nice if you could please reciprocate and go to the gym/have some plastic surgery to look more like his girlfriend, so we can both enjoy looking like celebrities together'.

Although even if she were to say yes, i think it'd be a major red flag....probably both end up looking like puffer faces playing 1-up botox wars into old age.

Coffee meets, some women are still in a marriage or relationship trying to monkey branch with some new dude. I don't trust online pics, they can be edit etc.

Heh...ye olde monkey branch...

I guess I've learned the hard way in the past. Funny thing is when the grass isn't greener for them in whatever respect. Used to be money as a competing factor in my case, but not so much nowadays.

I purposely don't put my actual picture on here. I reckon I'd do alright and get 20x as much attention, but it's interesting to see what people's thoughts and opinions are without the influence of a photo. I feel I'm playing a mugs game by not having one, but there's just so much reliance on it these days and I think that's sad. I've also kinda lost hope in terms of meeting people online, because so much is lost in terms of humour/context etc. when messaging. So I primarily just talk rubbish on forums for my entertainment. It's nice when people actually get my salty humour.

Even if you come across someone who fits the bill personality and intelligence wise, the chances of saying the perfect thing online to garner any attention, not be overly judged, or it not getting lost amongst a sea of other messages to them (given the barrier to entry is so low with an online message vs. real life interaction which involves emotional sacrifice) is slim to none.

Camera angles, favourable lighting and yes Photoshop, I think add to the confusion where you don't get a true picture of the person. I honestly think online dating culture will contribute massively to a much higher proportion of people (today vs historically) who are single and unfulfilled going into old age, given the amount of time wasted on it, hoping for a good result.

As a result, I think online dating can still on that rare occasion work, but it should represent a very small % of a person's time, particularly for guys, and the ones who aren't models. Far better to just go out, live your life and improve yourself, and if you find someone that way, you've effectively got the perfect date with a like-minded individual doing one of your actual mutual hobbies or something.

Perhaps I'm way too square, but i don't think I'd ever be brave enough to don a permanent tattoo on my face (perhaps a sleeve or something but it'd be discrete if so). I mean, you'd have to be super confident you will in no way need to be employed in a standard profession requiring client facing business or a more traditional image ever again. Unfortunately most people do judge on this, and it can affect the image of employers unless they are specifically looking for a more niche look. I know someone who's had countless rejections from finance type jobs (despite being very well qualified), simply because he chose to have tattoos going above the neckline. Does well with the ladies mind.

I think people who do some of these things....perhaps they didn't do enough to get outside their comfort zone at a younger age, so are trying to make up for lost time? Maybe it's an alternative way to cope with stuff like depression/anxiety/trauma much in the way self harming provides an outlet, where physical/mental separation from a less than ideal situation is desired? I can only speculate, but it screams to me 'I'm in a bad place right now, please don't talk to me' or 'I'm emotionally immature', both of which are not all that attractive to an outsider looking in, especially someone looking for a life partner.

Someone who's more calm and balanced in their demeanour is always gonna win in my book I think, which usually goes hand in hand with not presenting themselves (be it physically or mentally) in an overly extreme way.

Sammo wrote: Perhaps I'm way too square, but i don't think I'd ever be brave enough to don a permanent tattoo on my face (perhaps a sleeve or something but it'd be discrete if so). I mean, you'd have to be super confident you will in no way need to be employed in a standard profession requiring client facing business or a more traditional image ever again. Unfortunately most people do judge on this, and it can affect the image of employers unless they are specifically looking for a more niche look. I know someone who's had countless rejections from finance type jobs (despite being very well qualified), simply because he chose to have tattoos going above the neckline. Does well with the ladies mind.

I think people who do some of these things....perhaps they didn't do enough to get outside their comfort zone at a younger age, so are trying to make up for lost time? Maybe it's an alternative way to cope with stuff like depression/anxiety/trauma much in the way self harming provides an outlet, where physical/mental separation from a less than ideal situation is desired? I can only speculate, but it screams to me 'I'm in a bad place right now, please don't talk to me' or 'I'm emotionally immature', both of which are not all that attractive to an outsider looking in, especially someone looking for a life partner.

Someone who's more calm and balanced in their demeanour is always gonna win in my book I think, which usually goes hand in hand with not presenting themselves (be it physically or mentally) in an overly extreme way.

Lookup Chanty Binx on youtube. The most hated woman on the internet. lol

Just seen a video. She is certainly a character and has her views (albeit loud, sweary and inconsistent). None of which make me want to meet her particularly....had enough drama in my life to date.

I wish her well and hopes she finds inner peace.