Insight: S2014 Ep13 Dating Race

Arduina wrote: Uhh, that's evil. I wouldn't ask a non asian woman with an asian child ''Stepmom ?? Adopted??'' o.O
It's a little bit disrespectful.

Like I said.. I can't understand it. Why should we not ? It's really sad.

I think it has a lot to do with cultural norms. I've noticed many Asian cultures consider children to be the responsibility of everyone. It isn't uncommon to see someone scolding a stranger's child or "putting them back on the right path"....I saw it all the time overseas. So I think it is this idea of the extended "racial" family that encourages comments. There are positive aspects to it. I've seen my kids stopped from doing something that could injure them before I could get their attention, but it also means we get the unfiltered curiosity....

Thalia wrote: I've noticed the same thing, but more generally; when I'm out with an Asian man, especially shopping or doing domestic things, there seems to be a lot more shock and awe than is warranted. I've noticed that Asian women tend to seem very surprised, but I also notice a lot more hostility from other men of every ethnicity - that surprised me.

The hostility from men of other races.....I definitely see and hear that. Not so much when I'm with my kids, thankfully, but definitely when I'm out with Asian men, even just friends. On the flip side I'm approached by more Asian men I'm with my kids....it's like a sign advertising "this one plays on our team"

@JMichael

I completely agree with everything you wrote. While I'm physically attracted to Asian male features, more so then men from other races, it doesn't mean I limit myself to just Asian men or that I value them more....to do so WOULD be racist. I honestly think this is what causes men of other races to react so aggressively when they see AMWF couples. The perception they have of being devalued or ranked below someone they themselves deem as inferior. Ironically when confronted (I'm not shy by any means) they will vehemently deny any racist tendencies, saying,"I have no problem with Asian guys, I just think you could do better...why not give me a chance?"



Yeah, like that's gonna happen, because bigotry and elitism are such a turn on....

Xanadu wrote:

Arduina wrote: Uhh, that's evil. I wouldn't ask a non asian woman with an asian child ''Stepmom ?? Adopted??'' o.O
It's a little bit disrespectful.

Like I said.. I can't understand it. Why should we not ? It's really sad.

I think it has a lot to do with cultural norms. I've noticed many Asian cultures consider children to be the responsibility of everyone. It isn't uncommon to see someone scolding a stranger's child or "putting them back on the right path"....I saw it all the time overseas. So I think it is this idea of the extended "racial" family that encourages comments. There are positive aspects to it. I've seen my kids stopped from doing something that could injure them before I could get their attention, but it also means we get the unfiltered curiosity....

Yes, children are the "responsibility" of everyone, particularly in Asian cultures. I had aunts, family friends, etc telling me and my older brother should strive to do with our appearance whether it be health related with comments like "You should rest more to stop acne", "you need to eat more because you look skinny", Stop slouching, etc" Even though its for good intentions, sometimes its too obvious to point out. If a total stranger tells me a critical comment about my appearance or interests, I would actually give a response with the line meaning of "Who do you think you are???" or "mind your own business". I will take positive or polite criticism, but I would refuse negative criticism.

The unfiltered curiosity towards interracial pairings is much higher since pairings like these are uncommon in today's society, but the comment "Step-mom?" is downright rude and the person who said should think twice of what to say.

Thalia wrote: I've noticed the same thing, but more generally; when I'm out with an Asian man, especially shopping or doing domestic things, there seems to be a lot more shock and awe than is warranted. I've noticed that Asian women tend to seem very surprised, but I also notice a lot more hostility from other men of every ethnicity - that surprised me.

Let haters hate and boil in their insecurities, there are some people in this world who think interracial couples are wrong and think the women should be entitled to them since they are from the "same race". Bigots like them amuse me

Oh god total cringe moment at 20:15 lol

At least they included an Asian man and White woman relationship in this discussion. Most discussions on interracial dating focus on only the white male and asian female pairing or black men and white women pairing and that's it, like any other combination doesn't exist.

The discussions were also more intelligent than anything we'd see if this took place in the USA about the same topic. It would break down into Jerry Springer type of mayhem very quickly.

Watched this when it was posted... looks like a good show. I believe Australia has very different race and immigration issues including less Black than Asian peoples (will confirm with my friend in Sydney). However, at least they are able to deal with things (mostly) civilly as I noticed in their other episodes. America may be diverse but we are still so judgmental as a whole. I forget why I told a classmate about this couple...she mentioned something about language barriers.... she is African American and thought it was sweet. I think language divides even more than race. At least if we share language we can communicate. Those two had to overcome both!