goodbye

She's a bit sentimental but quite realistic in her assessment. Distance and parental disagreements will spell the doom for your relationship. And has she ever been to Asia before? Does she think she can handle the drastic change? And all this for a random guy?

Oh boy...

And is it really a good idea to post a personal convo on here?

Suck it up and let her go. Nothing you can do at this point, she needs to move on her in life and she can't be letting things like this get in her way.

However i can almost guarantee you that she will find someone new immediately the moment she moves to an Asian Country. And she'll be spending her free time with that someone. Not trying to be a jerk here but it is the simple truth. Stay as friends or just cut the ties forever. Up to you.

sound of one hand clapping...

peter zen wrote: sound of one hand clapping...

i think you mean fapping.

This really depends. If you have the loyalty and faith of a robot, then sure it will work out. But my guess is that you don't and neither does she. I think breaking up the relationship right now is probably the best thing, as your priority in life right now is not for love and relationship, but for education and financial stability

sorry bro.... i think you gonna have to let her go on this one..

she sees a brighter future without you.. im sorry to say that..
her parents and friends could have influence her decision also...

and about asian countries... from what i know .. German girls prefer Japan & Korea > rest of asian countries ..

and by the way how old is she? she must be around 17-18? im guessing not in her twenties yet?

you can keep in touch in her if you want, but it seem she only wants to be just friends.. do you want that? can you really handle her being with another guy? which im sure will eventually happen.. skype every "10 years" lol omg that long?

sorry.. its just that i have been in this situation before

She said she wants to live in Asia, so my suggestion is that try keep in touch with her coz maybe one day it's gonna work out~

encos wrote: im from malaysia and she's from germany,we,ve known each other for six month,we meet each other on hey ai
she send ths massage to me:

I love you. & maybe that is the problem.

Because right now, I just don't believe that it will work out,
Because I gonna do my A-levels ( = Abitur) & have no time at all. After that I gonna travel arround for 3 months.
My parents don't take us serious (although I tried my best! I showed them a lot about Malaysia, they saw you on skype, I told them much about you...)~
After that ( & this is one reason, I am so stressed ) I probably gonna go to university. Like I already told you,
NO IDEA where...and for how long. But I know for sure, that I don't wanna stay in Germany, but go to Asia.
I would like to study about Asia ( or Asian languages ) compared with managment. These makes 2 subjects of study, but I also gotta improve my English or the Asian language, when I go to another country. I gotta deal with lots of orgazitional stuff & pay for al the things ( house, food, university books ) by myself, just get a bit help of mum.
So I gotta have a job. That means that I gotta spend some hours of the day with working.
All in all~
I feel bad, because I love you & it hurts to see, that it won't work out. And I don't think, that it is a good relationship, if we stay in contact just with some mails or (maybe) skyping once in 10 years...

This is what makes me feel, like I do.
If I already were done with my studies everything woul be clear & I would go to Malaysia.
All in all...it's my fault.
I should have known from the beginning.
My heart was acting, not my mind.
I don't wanna loose you, but ...
Do you see a solution or a chance in this?
If you do, tell me.

You are really great, awesome, perfect!!...I know you always say nobody is perefect, but for me...there was NOTHING bad or lacks about your character.
I wish I wasn't in this situation!!!
I would be the luckiest girl on earth!

T.T
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help me please,i don't wanna lose her

This is where you need to take action and reassure her. She sounds stressed and confused. As for the thing with her family, it takes time but don't give up. If you both have strong feelings for each other then her family would come to understand it in time.

What you need to do is visit her or get a job and help her out with the expense. Move in with her? start saving I guess, if you don't want to lose her then you have to take action like a man and do some work and let her know that you wont give up on her no matter what. Make some plans together so it's not just her problem, make it so her problems becomes your problems and you'll solve it together. Thats the first step.


Oh and don't listen to the other guys here pouring mud water on you with their negative mentality. This girl did ask you if you see any solution or chance for this. It shows that shes willing to work things out. She's just stressed and confused. You need to take action. Sacrifices have to be made, and it's not just on her end, both of you have to work things out. If it's not worth it I don't think she'll ask you. Make some bold plans and think about what you need to do, if you don't have enough money then work two jobs and see her more often, in person.

simmy wrote:

peter zen wrote: sound of one hand clapping...

i think you mean fapping.

to you maybe...

make yourself scares, cut contact, cut connection. disappear.
During this time, work on yourself and break the pattern.
No whining, no begging, no crying, have conviction in yourself.
Then try it again.

let it go, if it loves you, it will come back, if it don't, let it be free if you really love it.
it takes 2 to tango.