Member being harassed for being an Asian female

What does the introduction of our favorite social place here say ?
www.hey-ai.com/home/welcome :

The aim of this website is to promote friendship and love between Asian guys and Western girls!
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This site does not consist of people who refuse to date any other people than Asian guys / Western girls. Anyone who likes “Asians and non-Asians” is welcome.

So, according to the description, the founders of this website conceived this place not only as a dating site, but also as a social hanging out virtual room, where anyone can find a language exchange partner or simply discuss about various topics, not only dating tips.
As for the love & dating chapter, Feral & anyone else who's here to find a partner don't have to worry: only Asian males & non-Asian females are likely to find a special one here. I will speak for myself when saying that I do not see any Asian female as a potential partner.
Then, as for the friendship chapter, anyone who support A.M. + Western F. romance / dating is welcome.
As for those few non-Asian male profiles ―or even Asian females ones― who are mistakenly seeking a potential partner here, there is no need to behave in a rude way to tell them they landed on the wrong place, as we are supposed to be friendly. What goes around comes around.

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Feral wrote:

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I think AMWF deserves to have a space of their own. In a few AMWF groups, including this one, I have contacted admin about white men being in the group.
Including everyone makes ZERO sense and has ruined other AMWF groups -mainly because of the emn, not the females. But, let's be equal here: does a woamn deserve as many choices as a man does? Are Asian men deserving of more choices than white women and, if so, explain this to me in FINE DETAIL. Either those men think they are BETTER than me or they think they are more pathetic so need as much help as they can get. i'd never date a man who thinks either of those things. The Asian men I dated weren 't pathetic at all.
Why is it okay for other races to have their own personal space, but not white women? I have defended Asian women repeatedly in various AMWF groups when AM tried to call them race traitors or worse - if no human being belongs to another, it only follows that women don't belong to their community or race. But, that doesn't mean Asian women, Indian or Turkish or Central Asian men need to be part of an AMWF group.
Explain to me why we don't deserve our own space when others do? Use LOGIC, please - no Politically-correct 'feelings' needed. "Toxic" is a vague word and is hurling insults - not using logic.
I can understand hapa men or women being in the group (to some extent), but I have certainly read A.M. comments against this idea.

Sincerely regardless of your ethnicity or cultural identity, everyone is welcome in The Social Network for Asian Men, Non-Asian Females. Whenever that the person were encouraged to interact, support and fully respect the general rules of site and the relationship of AM + Western Female, friendship is welcome here. I do not see the problem that an Asian woman cannot be on the site. I have observed some non-Asian men active on the site. I think this person is not sure of himself and disrespectful in his behavior. That person should reflectand, meditate their action and thought.

You should not feel shame, you did well to make the awkward situation known. Support her, and encourage her friend to follow on the site, Do not limit yourself in interacting in having new experiences and learning in your free time. As your friend Let her know to ignore selfish and disrespectful people, It is not worth ruining your day and wasting your time and energy on people with limited thinking. Nobody is competition here, it all depends on your personality, essence and compatibility. The universe and its laws manifest through your actions and conscience, and give you your alternative outcome.
If you observe inappropriate behavior or expression through any user, you should inform the moderator immediately. Apply the available function, visit the user profile page, see the menu buttonon the top left 『Moderate ✓』 >> 「Report User」.
Inform your friend to notify the messages she has received from this person as she has violated the general rules # 3, # 5 through a private message to a moderator / site administrator for that analyze, verify, investigate her case and give her a final solution. I hope I have helped wit the information.

honestly id love more asian females to join the site. im open for anything ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

If anyone could come here, this site would no longer be a special space for asian male and non-asian female. But I'm fully against harassment cuz it's disgraceful. Why not just simply ignore if you don't approve?

Dezra wrote: Hello friends...
I have a question for the community and the mods here: Is anyone welcome here regardless of race or ethnicity? I was under the impression they were. I ask this because a friend of mine (who is an Asian female), who I encouraged to join here because of the friendly community I've experienced, has been harassed from DAY ONE by a member, telling her to leave. That she doesn't belong on this site because she's Asian.

I'm embarrassed to be perfectly honest. I encouraged her to come here and now she's being mistreated. What kind of message is this sending? This person didn't just say this to her once, she keeps sending her screenshots of the site policy - WHICH doesn't say it excludes anyone - but she is definitely telling my friend it does. This sort of behavior is toxic and shouldn't be tolerated. I'm truly appalled.

As for the girl who is doing this - you should be utterly ashamed of yourself.

Ive experienced similar harrasment here many times..Due to ignorant members thinking its okay to attack somebody based on looks alone..Ive been called a lot of really awful things, i dont know how many times and told to leave the sight as well.maybe its the same person...it is toxic and embarresing..sadly ive heard worse things happening from other women ive talked to..so i guess its common here..

JunJun Jr.,
I have the right to my opinion and I think the harassment was not from me, but from someone else. If the 'harrasser, like the woman posting this (the white older woman), contacted admin to complain about an Asian woman being here, then admin knows and the Asian woman in question knows who this person is. I find it odd that no messages were referenced - quoted in full.
I HAVE asked publicly if a woman is Asian or not...I don't remember contacting anyone privately. If I contacted admin (I don't recall doing so), it was to ASK about this policy. I DID contact admin about the white man.
I have Skyped with 3 men on this site. Is there anyone who can come forward to vouch for this older white woman being real (could she be a white male...could the Asian female also be the the same white male). Any fool can post a pic and name.
Either way, I stick by what I wrote, because I tend to think for myself and consider my opinions before I speak/write. I've been in these AMWF sites for 10 or so years and was the admin of an AMWF group on FB started by Tony Zeng. I went by my real name then, not this obviously fake name. Only one or two men here know my real name or recall that I even used a different name a few years ago.
A group for Corvette drivers should consist of Corvette drivers. A group for baseball fans should consist of baseball (not basketball or golf) fans. Including everyone in every group (anywhere and for any topic) is beyond ridiculous. Also, why post a photo of yourself if you have no intention of attracting the opposite sex? A fly on the wall who just wants to watch and learn tends to want to remain unnoticed. I find something odd about this entire topic. Something is out-of-place.
Take screen shots of these harrassments messages and ask the admin wh was contacted to do the same. let all of us PROPERLY judge this situation by reading the exact words, the EXACT context of those words - including if they were in response to someone sending them a message.
I was contacted by a woman who said I seemed familiar, but I deleted her message since I thought I didn't know her and she and I had nothing in common...I don't recall her even having a photo, but I do recall her name and writing pattern being foreign - European, I thought. But, that may be totally unrelated. She asked me a few questions and I didn't feel like responding. But, that may mean nothing in this context.

Ehhhh. It's fine for anybody to be on here. Theres really no point to exclude other people. Yes this site is for amwf, just makes it harder for an Asian girl to find an asian male on here if she was looking for somebody. Most asian guys on here are looking for girls that are not Asian so non asian girls have an advantage. No need to be mean or root people out.

Unless they are toxic all are welcome:)

My first impression was that she was either a catfish or a troll. Only due to the unliklihood. But I had asked her why she was here and she replied back nicely enough to make me see she wasn't a troll, and given that another member had vouched for her. I think she's real enough.

I get that gay bars only want gays and not straight people, and one has to wonder why a straight person would even go to a gay bar. But the actual odds of it happening is rather low and as long as that person is not there to meddle. I think that person deserves a chance to prove that. The odds of an Asian female coming on this site strictly for penpals + friends, is stat highly unlikely. So don't make it bigger than it really is. I think she falls under like-minded and so should be welcome to this site

I never meant to imply it was you who harassed the girl. Sorry if my poor wording has let anyone believe that.
Of course you are entitled to your own opinion as we all are to our own as well.
And I quoted the site's introduction so as to bring in the founder's point of view about the site's purpose. Sadly, she's not around anymore... But another Admin gave her opinion. Then, I guess we should abide to site's rules.

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Feral wrote: JunJun Jr.,
I have the right to my opinion and I think the harassment was not from me, but from someone else.
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