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5 years 5 months ago - 5 years 5 months ago #511087 by Huangfemu
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This forum website is called AMWF
If u wanna mix up with white, blk, native american males or females or asian females and blk females then the AMWF has no significant meaning anymore. So it would be called a common online dating.
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5 years 2 months ago - 5 years 2 months ago #515678 by Navi

Huangfemu wrote: This forum website is called AMWF
If u wanna mix up with white, blk, native american males or females or asian females and blk females then the AMWF has no significant meaning anymore. So it would be called a common online dating.


and what if im bi/lesbian for asian gurls? D- : u cut off my chances

i couldnt find a AFWF dating site : -(

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5 years 2 months ago #516278 by Midnight-Skye
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greensheep wrote: dont even need to look at the policy. the motto under the banner says it all...'and like-minded'. just tell your friend to block the user and continue on with her merry way. going by the responses, she is more than welcome.


I agree an Asian female who dates Non-Asian fall under the category of "like-minded"


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Dezra wrote: Hello friends...
I have a question for the community and the mods here: Is anyone welcome here regardless of race or ethnicity? I was under the impression they were. I ask this because a friend of mine (who is an Asian female), who I encouraged to join here because of the friendly community I've experienced, has been harassed from DAY ONE by a member, telling her to leave. That she doesn't belong on this site because she's Asian.


You were right to invite her this site doubles as a social network Not just a dating site for specifically Asian Men and Western (or white) Female (depending on how you read AMWF

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Feral wrote: I think AMWF deserves to have a space of their own. In a few AMWF groups, including this one, I have contacted admin about white men being in the group.
Including everyone makes ZERO sense and has ruined other AMWF groups -mainly because of the emn, not the females. But, let's be equal here: does a woamn deserve as many choices as a man does? Are Asian men deserving of more choices than white women and, if so, explain this to me in FINE DETAIL. Either those men think they are BETTER than me or they think they are more pathetic so need as much help as they can get. i'd never date a man who thinks either of those things. The Asian men I dated weren 't pathetic at all.
Why is it okay for other races to have their own personal space, but not white women? I have defended Asian women repeatedly in various AMWF groups when AM tried to call them race traitors or worse - if no human being belongs to another, it only follows that women don't belong to their community or race. But, that doesn't mean Asian women, Indian or Turkish or Central Asian men need to be part of an AMWF group.
Explain to me why we don't deserve our own space when others do? Use LOGIC, please - no Politically-correct 'feelings' needed. "Toxic" is a vague word and is hurling insults - not using logic.
I can understand hapa men or women being in the group (to some extent), but I have certainly read A.M. comments against this idea.



Um Wait a minute, hold up, does AMWF stand for White Female or Western Female?

It seems to me You understand AMWF stand mean specifically White female not Western
I will address the fact that your rant is aimed for a group where the target audience is specifically AMW(white)F

Yes, you deserve to have your own safe space UNinvaded to gather and socialize. I have seen this happen on LGBTQ dating sites for Gay/Bi women I've even been catfished by guys on that site who are genuinely looking to date women {who are Not looking at date men on a gay site} shit is So illogical.

However if AMWF stands for Western Female then an Asian-American female technically falls under that category as America is the west (also since this site is so international wouldn't it just mean west of Asia??? O.o). it also covers Western women who are not white i.e. blk, Latina, Middle Eastern


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booster wrote: Ehhhh. It's fine for anybody to be on here. Theres really no point to exclude other people. Yes this site is for amwf, just makes it harder for an Asian girl to find an asian male on here if she was looking for somebody. Most asian guys on here are looking for girls that are not Asian so non asian girls have an advantage. No need to be mean or root people out.

Unless they are toxic all are welcome:)


Not really, Asian women are the top of the dating pool whereas the black women are the bottom. (I agree with this statement. Also he has a true and valid point)

Asian males are at bottom the dating pool.(<-Disagree)

The only problems I would have is Asian women who hopped the fence then claiming to be pro Asian. {Whoa, whoa wait a minute this statement makes No sense. If you are a certain ethnicity you do Not have to "claim" you are in support of Your OWN ethnicity! Comes with the membership! However you can declare you are Not in support of your ethnicity}

women have done that crap with white nationalist. (You're losing me) I was the only who trolled Lauren Southern to expose all these fake white nationalist. {um, say what, now? "Expose white nationalist? What does that even mean and What does that have to do with and Asian woman joining a social network that brings Asians and Non-Asians to the same platform??? O.o }

Black women have done the same thing. Only matter of time a large number of Asian women be pro Asian when in fact she wants resources and/or protection. Let women jump through hoops like men have for many decades. As as Male there is no need for bitterness toward Asian females.


Um, yeah you just sound triggered now and I believe you have a possibly valid message you were trying to get across but you were Unsuccessful in communicating that in a coherent post. It started out alright...then devolved fast

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Huangfemu wrote: This forum website is called AMWF
If u wanna mix up with white, blk, native american males or females or asian females and blk females then the AMWF has no significant meaning anymore. So it would be called a common online dating.



and what if im bi/lesbian for asian gurls? D- : u cut off my chances

i couldnt find a AFWF dating site : -(

Me either about the finding a AFWF site

And that is a valid point, I suspect you are playing devil's advocate with this post (because of the use of 'what if I'm...')

However as a Bisexual female on here I'm going to make some observations. The site looks like it was created about 10yrs ago...(maybe a bit sooner?) So that puts it's creation in the 2010 era Before gay marriage was legal in America (yes I realize this site has a very International community but for the sake of my point I'm focusing on My home country) and that's around the time where Anime, JPop/rock KPop/Rock and KDramas really started to take traction and explode into a more international fanbase making Asians (both male AND female a Highly desirable/ sought-after romantic interest. At least for those who weren't already of the mindset that Asians were desirable potential partners to begin with. But the LGBTQ community was still waiting for it's spike in popularity (and more progress since the '80s had come and gone) so it's not surprising that this site was made with male for female in mind at it's inception.
{I'm pretty sure that's around the time alot of interracial dating sites became popularized blk for non-blk, middle eastern for non-middle eastern etc}


However (in America) in the last Decade progress has finally been made for the LGBTQ community. (Gay marriage in all 50 states) and now alot of LGBTQ sites are popping up and more dating sites are adding gay or bisexual to their list of sexual orientation in and effort to be all inclusive.

Even though this site was created a while back they could upgrade like idk Hey-ai 2.0 (get it? for 2020 *nudge nudge*) and have the site say Asian for Non-Asian
That way it's inclusive of both male and female Asians you are interested in dating/socializing with Non-Asians regardless of gender or sexual orientation

{Just saying}
That way "like-minded" doesn't have to be decoded...


Also I'm extremely curious if anyone else in this community identifies as...Not heterosexual?

Tho I think I will create a separate topic Not under this forum to ask and discuss that

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greensheep wrote:

Navi wrote: honestly id love more asian females to join the site. im open for anything ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)


proposition to change the name of this website to hey yuri.


I second that motion



OMG, Jesus, enough responding to messages on this topic for me. Think I covered the major ones


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5 years 2 months ago #516279 by josh24601
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Navi wrote:

Huangfemu wrote: This forum website is called AMWF
If u wanna mix up with white, blk, native american males or females or asian females and blk females then the AMWF has no significant meaning anymore. So it would be called a common online dating.


and what if im bi/lesbian for asian gurls? D- : u cut off my chances

i couldnt find a AFWF dating site : -(


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5 years 2 months ago #516292 by Galliavant
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Dezra wrote: Hello friends...
I have a question for the community and the mods here: Is anyone welcome here regardless of race or ethnicity? I was under the impression they were. I ask this because a friend of mine (who is an Asian female), who I encouraged to join here because of the friendly community I've experienced, has been harassed from DAY ONE by a member, telling her to leave. That she doesn't belong on this site because she's Asian.

I'm embarrassed to be perfectly honest. I encouraged her to come here and now she's being mistreated.
What kind of message is this sending? This person didn't just say this to her once, she keeps sending her screenshots of the site policy - WHICH doesn't say it excludes anyone - but she is definitely telling my friend it does. This sort of behavior is toxic and shouldn't be tolerated. I'm truly appalled.

As for the girl who is doing this - you should be utterly ashamed of yourself.


Damn- yeah the harasser should be ashamed of herself and also why be so jelly? Let the girl be, we are all welcome here :-) I’m not here for the AMWF I’m here cause of the community and the forums :-) IMO anyone’s welcome, who can ever have too many friends? And who tf cares where someone’s from...bye Felicia

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5 years 2 months ago - 5 years 2 months ago #516380 by Simonn
one day, a blue triangle entered in a space specifically designed for red squares and purple triangles to mingle. the poor blue triangle feels left out and "bent out of shape". some member of the space thinks everyone's welcome, some question why a blue triangle would show up to a place that's specific designed for someone else.

I argue that any shape can come in here and chat; however, if you are not in the shape of everyone else's, then some members will treat you as a "foreigner", or even a "introducer," by definition. it is of course up to the blue triangle to decide if he/she wants to stay or leave, as long as she knows that she will inevitable be treated as a "foreigner", or even a "introducer" by some members because he or she is not a red square or a purple triangle.

in coding term it can be explained as following:

define Hey-ai as red squares and purple triangles group
input: a red square or a purple triangle
output: optimal result
input: a blue triangle
output: less optimal result

"are you saying that I should feel ashamed of being a blue triangle?" I can almost hear the frustrated question.
No, not at all. you should be proud of whatever shape you are in. however, you will be treated as a "foreigner" by definition when you try to hang out in a space full of red squares and purple triangles.

above is my logical analysis of this situation.
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5 years 2 months ago - 5 years 2 months ago #516721 by Midnight-Skye
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Simonn wrote: one day, a blue triangle entered in a space specifically designed for red squares and purple triangles to mingle. the poor blue triangle feels left out and "bent out of shape". some member of the space thinks everyone's welcome, some question why a blue triangle would show up to a place that's specific designed for someone else.

I argue that any shape can come in here and chat; however, if you are not in the shape of everyone else's, then some members will treat you as a "foreigner", or even a "introducer," by definition. it is of course up to the blue triangle to decide if he/she wants to stay or leave, as long as she knows that she will inevitable be treated as a "foreigner", or even a "introducer" by some members because he or she is not a red square or a purple triangle.

in coding term it can be explained as following:

define Hey-ai as red squares and purple triangles group
input: a red square or a purple triangle
output: optimal result
input: a blue triangle
output: less optimal result

"are you saying that I should feel ashamed of being a blue triangle?" I can almost hear the frustrated question.
No, not at all. you should be proud of whatever shape you are in. however, you will be treated as a "foreigner" by definition when you try to hang out in a space full of red squares and purple triangles.

above is my logical analysis of this situation.


I like when you write "should I be ashamed of being a blue triangle?"
I'm seriously gonna add that line to my profile

The most hilarious thing 😂 I've read all day.

It's natural to try and input logic and structure in life, make things run smoother life is a sliding scale between linear logic and nonsensical random.

And therefore people are too. Some are very logical, rational, reasonable.... others not so much.
I think the most frustrating part is trying to find balance between logical rationalism and nonsensical


Me personally I Can be logical, rational, reasonable....but it's not my default setting.
That and devil's advocate is more fun and if done properly inspires growth
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5 years 2 months ago #516732 by Galliavant
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Midnight-Skye wrote:

Simonn wrote: one day, a blue triangle entered in a space specifically designed for red squares and purple triangles to mingle. the poor blue triangle feels left out and "bent out of shape". some member of the space thinks everyone's welcome, some question why a blue triangle would show up to a place that's specific designed for someone else.

I argue that any shape can come in here and chat; however, if you are not in the shape of everyone else's, then some members will treat you as a "foreigner", or even a "introducer," by definition. it is of course up to the blue triangle to decide if he/she wants to stay or leave, as long as she knows that she will inevitable be treated as a "foreigner", or even a "introducer" by some members because he or she is not a red square or a purple triangle.

in coding term it can be explained as following:

define Hey-ai as red squares and purple triangles group
input: a red square or a purple triangle
output: optimal result
input: a blue triangle
output: less optimal result

"are you saying that I should feel ashamed of being a blue triangle?" I can almost hear the frustrated question.
No, not at all. you should be proud of whatever shape you are in. however, you will be treated as a "foreigner" by definition when you try to hang out in a space full of red squares and purple triangles.

above is my logical analysis of this situation.


I like when you write "should I be ashamed of being a blue triangle?"
I'm seriously gonna add that line to my profile

The most hilarious thing 😂 I've read all day.

It's natural to try and input logic and structure in life, make things run smoother life is a sliding scale between linear logic and nonsensical random.

And therefore people are too. Some are very logical, rational, reasonable.... others not so much.
I think the most frustrating part is trying to find balance between logical rationalism and nonsensical


Me personally I Can be logical, rational, reasonable....but it's not my default setting.
That and devil's advocate is more fun and if done properly inspires growth


Can that be my username? Lol devils advocate

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