Guys if you are serious about a girl would you delete your hey ai account?

Ilovethedarkness wrote: Hmmmm...

I will delete her...incl. yourself. If u start to mess up

No, because I'm here for friends first

Regardless of whether you are male or female and make a determination to start a relationship, it is your decision whether you decide to delete your account or not. A relationship that involves that type of condition is because their relationship is not stable in trust and fluid communication. No one has the right to control the life of their potential life partner, whether short or long term.
If the relationship suffers (Why else would the partner attempt to issue that ultimatum if it isn’t suffering) as a result of social media, is it time to re-evaluate your relationship and your ability to emotionally be open with another person? Internet relationships you form are tenuous at best, and often don’t hold up to a real world experience, but if they become more important than your real life connections, something is wrong and it may be time to enter into a therapeutic counseling if you value that partner. To use such an ultimatum is a method of control, which is a type of abuse.
I have interacted, I have learned, I have shared experiences (positive as well as negative), expressions, thoughts, tips, advice, knowledge, interesting and deep conversations with a good sense of humor. It is a great honor to be part of this community.
I have met few genuine male and female friends from here and it would be sad if my future partner asked me to please and kindly remove my account from some applications.
I am not currently using this site completely for dating, platonic / casual romances or wasting time with guys without interest in life, immature, insecure and dishonest.

It has been a great honor to make friend and interact with friends from other countries and I am inspired by a broad positive expectation to travel, explore and experience the essence of each culture worldwide.

Depending on the expectations, objectives of the user of Hey-Ai or his possible partner. If the majority of people use the site for casual dating, friendship, and a possible LDR, it is certain that the majority of users are inactive due to various factors, circumstances of daily life whether they are hobbies, work, career, profession, their family and finally once they find someone of their choice.

Social media is wonderful when it’s used in moderation. It can ruin a relationship when social media takes valuable time away from a loved-one. If that’s the case, then that should be addressed directly. But, telling someone to disconnect from their online presence is why unsure of himself. It isolates you from the world, and it’s insanely controlling. If you are the one asking them to leave, you should know that trying to manipulate, controlling someone will only hurt you.

Just agree and then handle it by letting the other explain and then make the other feel comfortable about you on social media by assuring that you aren’t doing anything weird, riskay on social media or to flirt with other people while you’re in a relationship.
Be understanding. Don’t intend to make the other feel bad or wrong about what he/she is feeling or saying - that’ll never handle the situation.

If the objection doesn’t handle and is still adamant about you leaving - well, this person is not meant for you and it is better to let her go for your own sake.
Finally, give yourself a break from all social applications to focus on the importance of your relationship. The online friends you made will be there/ when you return if they really appreciate your friendship and interaction. The internet is not going anywhere.

zen wrote: ^if you show your innocent pretty face you’ll get taken away pretty fast. But I’m talking about 3-4 years ago when there was more members more active. Some girls trust strangers very fast very easily without discover what’s under their “mask”. And then you’ll be expected to take it from there lol

In some interactions your attractive and innocent physical appearance usually happens can be a great advantage up to a certain limit. What does not lie is your true essence and personality. Appearances are deceiving, intentions are sometimes   capcious, either online and real life.
It depends on the person and expectations such ¿as when and why have they relied on a complete stranger? And it also influences what you are telling them exactly.

greensheep wrote: at their request i would. but i dont think any girl needs to worry. the chance of scoring a bird online is about the same as winning the lottery.

Really? Crazy. Because I got here 3 days ago, wrote out a *book* of a profile regarding what I was looking for, got a response within hours from someone a couple miles from me whose profile said they wanted all the same things, we spoke all day and night on discord and then I got what might be the best boyfriend ever after an amazing date within 3 days. First time I've ever joined a dating site. He also asked me if I wanted us to delete our accounts now, which I found perfectly reasonable but told him we could wait a bit first(I did delete the suggestive photos and set myself to in a relationship, though, haha. Plus set what I was looking for back from "marriage" to "pen pals"). I guess some people didn't specifically join this website to look for a serious ltr? ...So maybe in that case treating it like a dating profile and deleting it might not be very important to a relationship. Oh and I had 10 pages of messages in the meantime. You're all very nice, but might I suggest writing more than "hi"?

My ex would spend so much time on social media and on here and started to talk to me less and less so I knew she wasn't just on here making friends. I called her out about it and she deleted her account but not without an argument and it's not like she just willingly did it for me. I couldn't keep up with her anymore and kick her to the curb. I think she just wants the attention is what it comes down to and she's a narcissist.

Jeong wrote: Really? Crazy.

ah well, there are winners in lotteries after all. its not just losers lol. and in this case, it is probably wise for you guys to delete your profiles as there seems to be some divinity at play here.

in all seriousness, i dont think anyone, boy or girl, should worry about this. if both of you really do click, you will get to a point where you dont pay much attention to this site, or you continue on using this site because you have absolute faith in each other. anything outside of that, you have problems beyond the scope of being in a relationship.

I won't!!! But I would update my profile info/intentions....
I want to support heyai even by only being a friendly low active member...
And is not ok or a point to ask someone to delete the profile....

It's easy to cheat anyway... He/she can delete a profile on request... And end up later on with a new one ... Without profile picture... ect..

Yes, why not? If it doesn't work then I'll come back here.