Why typical girl choose ambitious-less guy than a guy who is way too smart?

just because a guy is ambitious-less it doesn´t mean that he is less smarter than a guy who is way too smart. people nowadays tend to define "a way too smart guy" based on his academic graduation. that kind of viewpoint is quite outdated. the only thing i can guess is, that an ambitious-less guy lacks on thinking a step further when it comes to future plans, dreams, goals etc. And maybe thats why a typical girl might prefer this kind of guy because its easy for her. if she would meet a "smart guy" she would be outsmarted and she´s get that kind of feeling that she is not on his level or equal.

Also, an ambitious person might be a workaholic and neglect family and loved ones and/or not be in touch with his/her feelings. Lots of partners won't want to deal with this kind of stuff. Life is to be enjoyed.

intelligence is not the scholastic one ... it is not having 1000 degrees in all and more.
true intelligence is that of life, it is right to have a general knowledge but unfortunately there are graduates who open their mouths but make you drop your arms, you do not graduate which is a pleasure to listen and so also on the contrary ...
it is not the degree that the man or the woman makes, but the cultural background he has ... that enchants you when he talks and tells about himself

Miri wrote: intelligence is not the scholastic one ... it is not having 1000 degrees in all and more.
true intelligence is that of life, it is right to have a general knowledge but unfortunately there are graduates who open their mouths but make you drop your arms, you do not graduate which is a pleasure to listen and so also on the contrary ...
it is not the degree that the man or the woman makes, but the cultural background he has ... that enchants you when he talks and tells about himself

I dunno… someone with an astrophysics degree with honours seems pretty intelligent to me…

do not confuse school / university intelligence with that of life
I know people with full marks in nuclear engineering but who don't know how to stay in the world and treat people well and I know people with a simple diploma but rich in culture and knowing how to live

The Mandalorian wrote: I noticed that girl rather talk with some guy that’s know not much but friendly and humble(because he know not much hence he rarely to have any unusual opinions) or some guy pretend to be humble and friendly but use them to get her and has a dirty mind inside THAN some guy who is ambitious and know and experienced a lot and who has a lot opinions and far away from typical trends too?

Is it too smart scare away “normal” people? Been humble is good but always humble is not good isn’t it? Or if you smart you should find a smart girl too and you just haven’t found the one match you yet?

Huh? lol

@OP

You can kind of suss people out after meeting them. Some people show this aura of not really coping well with this world. Such issues can usually be self-created because of one's own expectations, experiences, and thought processes. Smart people tend to be more depressed, anxious, and think too much. Dumb people don't think enough and oblivious to the future and more carefree and just party all day. Happier people tend to avoid conflict and make friends easier and generally nice to be around. Sad but smart people may tend to repel friends and become more closed to the world and can regress to becoming hostile and immature assholes.

Perhaps that is what you are seeing. Of course, you cannot generalize everyone and every girl is different and drawn to different guys. But the ones you pointed out, I would guess that she gets the kind of attention from the "dumb guys" that just make her feel alive and happy. Maybe those dumb guys are not so dumb if they are able to enjoy life and thrive mentally and be happy. Because they prioritize relationships and not use work or study as an excuse to not nurture such things.

Also, some excessively smart guys tend to be antisocial hostile assholes. Very high in IQ but incredibly dumb on EQ. They can tend to have an undeveloped sense of self and a need to right all the time. You can't quickly demonstrate how smart you are to people but usually show your EQ to others upon first meeting and hence can be greatly underappreciated. And if the smart dude wants to be right all the time and shows immaturity and pettiness in his attitude towards others for the sake of being right and shows too much coldness. And also shows that he is miserable in life because rigid guys like him, are rarely ever happy. Then it doesn't seem that odd for your aforementioned girls to prefer the dumb guy then. Maybe she can tell she would only be happy with the dumb guy and make it work compared to the smart and excessively ambitious man.

P.S. you should watch (Sweet and Sour) - The workaholic and smart + handsome Korean guy spent more time at work than on his stressed-out girlfriend. And she was clearly unhappy throughout the relationship. In the end, it doesn't even matter how handsome or smart you are. Girls will all end up being unhappy with a guy who doesn't show that he values her or respect her as a partner and takes work too seriously and expects her to share his life of enduring his rat race misery.

I think there is also a half size ...
smart and nice man
smart and open
intelligent does not mean good at school from 10 and praise ...
but I believe that there are men as intelligent women who know how to live

Miri wrote: I think there is also a half size ...
smart and nice man
smart and open
intelligent does not mean good at school from 10 and praise ...
but I believe that there are men as intelligent women who know how to live

They do exist lol. I only mention the badly adjusted smart guys because it seems like the OP was talking about them. I wasn't describing ALL smart people. If a guy is handsome, smart, kind, and fun to be around. What straight woman can resist that? Obviously, OP was referring to specifically those smart guys who lack the "other" qualities that you just mentioned.

Also, what is your own definition of living well?

Don't remember where I heard this from but there is a saying that the road to happiness is the quest to becoming more human. Not the one where you act as an indulgent animal.

I think you can laze around, watch tv, eat good food every day but eventually, you will adapt to all this . Alternatively, you can work hard 60 hours a week and finally get a raise in income at work. But you will adapt to that increased salary rather quickly. I am certain it's meaningful goals like relationships, being part of your community, spirituality, and other meaningful goals that can make a difference in people's lives. Those meaningful pursuits if done well, can be hard to adapt to and be rewarding.

I do think money is important tho. It is not pleasant to be stressed out over bills and deal with money problems. I do think if a guy does well in his career. Feels a sense of control over his life and makes a decent amount of money. That can also make him well adjusted. As he has a better level of respect for himself and is "capable" of taking care of his loved ones. But it's not everything.

Many guys do get an existential crisis because they are living a life where their boss working them like a slave. Or they feel like they are going nowhere in life or have no directions and only pursuing meaningless goals narrowly with all their energy. They know there has to be a better life out there that can make them whole but just pursuing money, can never satisfy them. I think if one focuses their entire energy on advancing their careers and completely neglects their social ties. They will never find meaning in their life. Enjoying life and finding meaning is not neatly the same thing.

dogface9 wrote:

Miri wrote: I think there is also a half size ...
smart and nice man
smart and open
intelligent does not mean good at school from 10 and praise ...
but I believe that there are men as intelligent women who know how to live

They do exist lol. I only mention the badly adjusted smart guys because it seems like the OP was talking about them. I wasn't describing ALL smart people. If a guy is handsome, smart, kind, and fun to be around. What straight woman can resist that? Obviously, OP was referring to specifically those smart guys who lack the "other" qualities that you just mentioned.

Also, what is your own definition of living well?

Don't remember where I heard this from but there is a saying that the road to happiness is the quest to becoming more human. Not the one where you act as an indulgent animal.

I think you can laze around, watch tv, eat good food every day but eventually, you will adapt to all this . Alternatively, you can work hard 60 hours a week and finally get a raise in income at work. But you will adapt to that increased salary rather quickly. I am certain it's meaningful goals like relationships, being part of your community, spirituality, and other meaningful goals that can make a difference in people's lives. Those meaningful pursuits if done well, can be hard to adapt to and be rewarding.

I do think money is important tho. It is not pleasant to be stressed out over bills and deal with money problems. I do think if a guy does well in his career. Feels a sense of control over his life and makes a decent amount of money. That can also make him well adjusted. As he has a better level of respect for himself and is "capable" of taking care of his loved ones. But it's not everything.

Many guys do get an existential crisis because they are living a life where their boss working them like a slave. Or they feel like they are going nowhere in life or have no directions and only pursuing meaningless goals narrowly with all their energy. They know there has to be a better life out there that can make them whole but just pursuing money, can never satisfy them. I think if one focuses their entire energy on advancing their careers and completely neglects their social ties. They will never find meaning in their life. Enjoying life and finding meaning is not neatly the same thing.

Sounds like a high school writing project you have here.