Why typical girl choose ambitious-less guy than a guy who is way too smart?

People mentioned about having a degree (master/PhD). I believe that it reveals that he has knownledge, but not necessarily he is smart. I don't think a degree can help people to solve most of our daily problems...
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You are very naive if you think for one minute that most of the very smart people are here to help solve problems for the greater good. Most of them are more concerned about making money or helping wealthy people make people. Most people with PHD in mathematics work in Wall Street or in big tech companies such as Googles, Facebook or Amazon...etc. They are also recruited by the military as contract workers ..helping build dangerous AI technology.

Strinhmn wrote:

ginner wrote:

Tette03 wrote: Well... we can take that convenience store and expand, or we can open more stores in other cities and we can even grow and sell other types of products that generate more profits...
I think that 🙂

What happened if the business failed and doesn't generate any profit, but instead goes into debt?

Find a new job!

You are missing the point here.
She wants a guy who is ambitious. My argument is that a guy could be ambitious at an early stage, but could become unambitious later on in life. ..or even vice versa.

zen wrote:

sofia wrote: didn't want to be this sour but this question is just so dumb lol
are you perhaps the "smart guy" in question? girls don't choose the "bad guys" over the smart ones, they just don't wanna be with you man

Didn’t sound harmful but the level of shame 😂😂😂

well what can i do hahaha

From my experience that's wrong and most girls want ambitionfull not ambitionless.

Even though ambition is naive and futile. Even can be arrogant or greedy.

Some guy who thinks he is hot shit with talent skill money connections expensive clothes cars youtuber record deals.

Guy who talks alot.

Obnoxious really.


I don't know that too smart is supposed to mean. Sounds like a nothing statement.

For me personally, it’s because someone’s intelligence isn’t the only thing that matters in dating or a potential relationship.

I tend to look at values, goals, interactions with myself and others, personality, compatibility, attitude, etc.

It’s not entirely boiled down to someone’s intelligence and achievements. That doesn’t hurt a man. It’s always a plus as long as he is not arrogant about it. But, it’s not the sole determining factor.

I find ambition a funny word. Does it just mean the ability to make money with a view to supporting a family? Does it mean going to uni and getting a traditionally well regarded job? Does it mean couch surfing at friends' places and refusing to work in any other field than what you're passionate about at the cost of things like financial security? If one's life ambition is to smoke weed all day on another person's couch, is that deemed unambitious? I'm not sure if want a woman who just wants me for my 'ambition'!

End of the day, I think people are simple beings. The main question is...

'is so and so attractive?'

This often means looks initially. Then money as a second (more important for women). Then other actual redeemable qualities such as trust, kindness, sense of humour etc. But I think there has to be some physical attraction before other stuff comes into play. Often people sacrifice many of the other qualities for the looks...I know I have. But it's even worse if the main draw is just money as there's literally nothing substaintial there.

Also I don't think having multiple degrees makes people better or clevermax. It shows a most basic level of ability to concentrate/focus and attain knowledge spoonfed to you over a few years, but that's all. I have a few degrees but I wouldn't say I'm very smart. I think people who do the best in life realise education doesn't stop after uni but is a lifelong endeavour, and there's always something to learn from others by being open. With Google, there's literally no excuse not to learn new things. Many people do amazing in their careers from relatively humble academic beginnings, sans degree.

I'd say I'm of middle of the road intelligence wise, but most likely my EQ is a little lacking (grumpy old man syndrome) and my strong views intimidate people easily. It's probably far easier for a girl to be in a relationship with a pretty, class clown player type, who will offer bags of fun and drama. Unfortunately I'm far too old, jaded and unpretty nowadays for all of that nonsense.

Sammo wrote: I find ambition a funny word. Does it just mean the ability to make money with a view to supporting a family? Does it mean going to uni and getting a traditionally well regarded job? Does it mean couch surfing at friends' places and refusing to work in any other field than what you're passionate about at the cost of things like financial security? If one's life ambition is to smoke weed all day on another person's couch, is that deemed unambitious? I'm not sure if want a woman who just wants me for my 'ambition'!

End of the day, I think people are simple beings. The main question is...

'is so and so attractive?'

This often means looks initially. Then money as a second (more important for women). Then other actual redeemable qualities such as trust, kindness, sense of humour etc. But I think there has to be some physical attraction before other stuff comes into play. Often people sacrifice many of the other qualities for the looks...I know I have. But it's even worse if the main draw is just money as there's literally nothing substaintial there.

Also I don't think having multiple degrees makes people better or clevermax. It shows a most basic level of ability to concentrate/focus and attain knowledge spoonfed to you over a few years, but that's all. I have a few degrees but I wouldn't say I'm very smart. I think people who do the best in life realise education doesn't stop after uni but is a lifelong endeavour, and there's always something to learn from others by being open. With Google, there's literally no excuse not to learn new things. Many people do amazing in their careers from relatively humble academic beginnings, sans degree.

I'd say I'm of middle of the road intelligence wise, but most likely my EQ is a little lacking (grumpy old man syndrome) and my strong views intimidate people easily. It's probably far easier for a girl to be in a relationship with a pretty, class clown player type, who will offer bags of fun and drama. Unfortunately I'm far too old, jaded and unpretty nowadays for all of that nonsense.

ambition simply means slavery. Watch these women want you to cook and clean while expecting you to pay for all the dates. lol

Rainman wrote:

Sammo wrote: I find ambition a funny word. Does it just mean the ability to make money with a view to supporting a family? Does it mean going to uni and getting a traditionally well regarded job? Does it mean couch surfing at friends' places and refusing to work in any other field than what you're passionate about at the cost of things like financial security? If one's life ambition is to smoke weed all day on another person's couch, is that deemed unambitious? I'm not sure if want a woman who just wants me for my 'ambition'!

End of the day, I think people are simple beings. The main question is...

'is so and so attractive?'

This often means looks initially. Then money as a second (more important for women). Then other actual redeemable qualities such as trust, kindness, sense of humour etc. But I think there has to be some physical attraction before other stuff comes into play. Often people sacrifice many of the other qualities for the looks...I know I have. But it's even worse if the main draw is just money as there's literally nothing substaintial there.

Also I don't think having multiple degrees makes people better or clevermax. It shows a most basic level of ability to concentrate/focus and attain knowledge spoonfed to you over a few years, but that's all. I have a few degrees but I wouldn't say I'm very smart. I think people who do the best in life realise education doesn't stop after uni but is a lifelong endeavour, and there's always something to learn from others by being open. With Google, there's literally no excuse not to learn new things. Many people do amazing in their careers from relatively humble academic beginnings, sans degree.

I'd say I'm of middle of the road intelligence wise, but most likely my EQ is a little lacking (grumpy old man syndrome) and my strong views intimidate people easily. It's probably far easier for a girl to be in a relationship with a pretty, class clown player type, who will offer bags of fun and drama. Unfortunately I'm far too old, jaded and unpretty nowadays for all of that nonsense.

ambition simply means slavery. Watch these women want you to cook and clean while expecting you to pay for all the dates. lol

Are you traumatized?

Nymphe wrote:

Rainman wrote:

Sammo wrote: I find ambition a funny word. Does it just mean the ability to make money with a view to supporting a family? Does it mean going to uni and getting a traditionally well regarded job? Does it mean couch surfing at friends' places and refusing to work in any other field than what you're passionate about at the cost of things like financial security? If one's life ambition is to smoke weed all day on another person's couch, is that deemed unambitious? I'm not sure if want a woman who just wants me for my 'ambition'!

End of the day, I think people are simple beings. The main question is...

'is so and so attractive?'

This often means looks initially. Then money as a second (more important for women). Then other actual redeemable qualities such as trust, kindness, sense of humour etc. But I think there has to be some physical attraction before other stuff comes into play. Often people sacrifice many of the other qualities for the looks...I know I have. But it's even worse if the main draw is just money as there's literally nothing substaintial there.

Also I don't think having multiple degrees makes people better or clevermax. It shows a most basic level of ability to concentrate/focus and attain knowledge spoonfed to you over a few years, but that's all. I have a few degrees but I wouldn't say I'm very smart. I think people who do the best in life realise education doesn't stop after uni but is a lifelong endeavour, and there's always something to learn from others by being open. With Google, there's literally no excuse not to learn new things. Many people do amazing in their careers from relatively humble academic beginnings, sans degree.

I'd say I'm of middle of the road intelligence wise, but most likely my EQ is a little lacking (grumpy old man syndrome) and my strong views intimidate people easily. It's probably far easier for a girl to be in a relationship with a pretty, class clown player type, who will offer bags of fun and drama. Unfortunately I'm far too old, jaded and unpretty nowadays for all of that nonsense.

ambition simply means slavery. Watch these women want you to cook and clean while expecting you to pay for all the dates. lol

Are you traumatized?

What? lol

The Mandalorian wrote: I noticed that girl rather talk with some guy that’s know not much but friendly and humble(because he know not much hence he rarely to have any unusual opinions) or some guy pretend to be humble and friendly but use them to get her and has a dirty mind inside THAN some guy who is ambitious and know and experienced a lot and who has a lot opinions and far away from typical trends too?

Is it too smart scare away “normal” people? Been humble is good but always humble is not good isn’t it? Or if you smart you should find a smart girl too and you just haven’t found the one match you yet?

I think it all comes down to personal preferences. Maybe the less smart guy made her laugh more. Maybe they had more common interests. Maybe she thought the less smart guy was prettier. There's alot of IFs and MAYBEs. But yeah, there are people out there who gets intimidated by people being more successful or smarter than them, but I wouldn't rule out humor or interests.
Also, you're a guy who's looking at a different guy like he's some sort of competition. Your point of view might be completely different than what the girl experiences. I'm just saying.