So what is it that attracts you to the opposite sex?

i agree its a big risk.

the statistics are that nearly 50% of marriages end up lasting forever.

That is scary.

Oh god.
here we go again.

tickle-brain wrote: My parents are divorced

I will jump on this bandwagon. My parents are divorced.

My parents are divorced too.
I'm from Korea where divorce rate is close to that of the United States, so whatever.
It's not just a Western problem. It's a modern problem.

If this is that big a concern, go for an LDS girl. Their religion mandates celestial marriages that are an eternal contract between two souls, after all.

Plus they're really quite friendly, homely, and intelligent.

Just gotta find a partner who takes marriage seriously. Make sure that person doesn't have any dealbreakers that might be an issue down the road, who can communicate well and knows the meaning of compromise. Marriage isn't a walk in the park, there will be struggles/arguments and I think people nowadays need to remember that.

I heard big cities in china,south korea and Japan has highest rates of divorce .. ..I think more westernized...

bentobeatbox wrote: Just gotta find a partner who takes marriage seriously. Make sure that person doesn't have any dealbreakers that might be an issue down the road, who can communicate well and knows the meaning of compromise. Marriage isn't a walk in the park, there will be struggles/arguments and I think people nowadays need to remember that.

How can you be sure though that you've found all the dealbreakers in your first screen? And how long do you hold out "evaluating" to see if any red flags show up?

“Castles in the air - they are so easy to take refuge in. And so easy to build, too.” Henrik Ibsen

Bern wrote: It is well documented that the west has a far higher divorced rates.
So my question to the Asian guys is are you willing to take the risk in marrying someone from the west even though you know that there is a far higher chance that you will get a divorce down the road or get cheated on?

What the EFFFF?

Each society has different things that it values. I'm sure a few parallels can be drawn in eastern countries as well. All the more reason to be careful with your future prospect(s). Marriages fail because individuals are unfit matches for each other. How do you avoid that? Be a better judge of character. Know thyself, and know others.

I used to work with someone that has been divorced three times. She asked me (candidly) why it kept happening. My reply: "your filter's broken, and you need to grow up." (forgot the last part)

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MagicMarker wrote:

bentobeatbox wrote: Just gotta find a partner who takes marriage seriously. Make sure that person doesn't have any dealbreakers that might be an issue down the road, who can communicate well and knows the meaning of compromise. Marriage isn't a walk in the park, there will be struggles/arguments and I think people nowadays need to remember that.

How can you be sure though that you've found all the dealbreakers in your first screen? And how long do you hold out "evaluating" to see if any red flags show up?

“Castles in the air - they are so easy to take refuge in. And so easy to build, too.” Henrik Ibsen

I meant dealbreakers in the sort of "you want kids but I don't" sort of sense. Or religion... or political beliefs. Some people think religion or politics don't matter so much, but down the line it might be an issue. Same with paying attention to how your SO spends their money. Are they overly cautious with their cash or do they spend it freely? Maybe they are somewhere in between. Does the person I want to marry have financial issues that will become my financial issues also when we marry?

I have a feeling some people might not think of this stuff beforehand.