Ok...so....do girls like shy Asian guys?

Who doesn't... the shyer the better. When I go on a date I act as shy as possible, works like a charm.

Rule 1: Never look them in the eye (mysterious)
Rule 2: Say as little as possible (girls like talking)
Rule 3: No body contact at ALL (don't be a pervert)
Rule 4: Stand approximately 1 metre - 2 metres away from them at all time (give them a little space)
Rule 5: If you go for dinner or drinks, sit on a different table (play hard to get)
Rule 6: Don't say hello or bye to them. (cos you're that cool)

Good luck everyone....best advice ever...

In short: do not like shy guys

how and why would girls like shy guys in general? besides the whole shy aspect of the person quickly fades if you start building a relationship with someone, be it friendship or otherwise..

but i can understand why a little shyness can be cute, at first.

i would liken it to the initial attraction to someone based on their physical features.

can be cute and attractive at first but i find it hard to believe that anybody would want someone who is eternally shy?

MagicMarker wrote:

TigerInside wrote: I just had an interesting conversation with a female dating coach, who coached women to find the men of their dreams. She blew my mind with her answer and I agree completely. This is what she said:

Sometimes women ask her how to approach and ask out shy men. But she always advises them to never actually ask them out. The reason for that is if the man you have laid your eyes on doesn't even have the balls to chat you up, what will happen in a relationship?

When do you show your best side? You want to show the best side of you when you meet someone who you are interested in, right? And if that best side of the man isn't even man enough to chat her up, what would happen further down the relationship? Will the man then hide behind the woman in case of trouble? Will she have to play the role of a surrogate mother? Will she have to do everthing because the man is too shy to do it himself?

Obviously most women don't want that kind of guy.

So guys, don't be too shy.

Hm, that's a lot of negativity. What's her real advice for these women? What techniques did she have if not approaching someone directly?

I bumped into her at a convention I helped out at for a friend and we just had one coffee during break, so I didn't have the time to ask her about everything in absolute detail. But it was something along the line of that of course you can initiate conversation, physical contact (like a friendly touch to his arm, not sex), eye contact, show interest, become friends with him, etc.; just that you should not ask him out.

Actually, she has a lot of advices for these women on how to attract the man of their dreams, like how to carry yourself, the right mindset, etc. . But I guess you would have to take some coaching lessons to learn the specific techniques/mindset - or at least spend some more time with her.

Btw. yeah I know that it sounds pretty pessimistic. But after telling them about it, almost all girls from my social circle who had options either directly agreed with it or at least can relate from experience why she would give that kind of advice.

PS.: The forum rules probably don't allow me to post her website. But if you are really interested in the way she thinks and coaches, write me and I will PM it to you.

Every girl who's given me a touch on the arm ended up not actually being interested. Maybe it's a matter of some girls ruining established signals for others (why can't they hold a convention to standardize these things?), but I've long since decided that I'm never reading anything a girl does as a potential signal. It's just too messy.

So essentially her advice sounds like making yourself appear haughty and like a frigid-princess. It wouldn't be winning advice for snaring me .

No advice really matters here. I've been touchy feely, a "listener", etc etc. You're better off winging it and just adjusting as you get a feel for what the girl seems comfortable with as the date progresses.

Isaac4Yu wrote: No advice really matters here. I've been touchy feely, a "listener", etc etc. You're better off winging it and just adjusting as you get a feel for what the girl seems comfortable with as the date progresses.

Until you guess totally wrong. Case in point: I was quite touchy feely with a gal on our 2nd date. She encouraged it, responded in kind, and seemed to be enjoying it and even voluntarily took off her top. Left saying she wanted to see me again. The next day she deleted all contact and accused me of being only after sex.

Pity... we had quite a lot of common interests, and she was cute to boot.

at least for me ...i like it...but not too shy I dont like guys who are so shy that they dont even talk in a dated ....

MagicMarker wrote:

Isaac4Yu wrote: No advice really matters here. I've been touchy feely, a "listener", etc etc. You're better off winging it and just adjusting as you get a feel for what the girl seems comfortable with as the date progresses.

Until you guess totally wrong. Case in point: I was quite touchy feely with a gal on our 2nd date. She encouraged it, responded in kind, and seemed to be enjoying it and even voluntarily took off her top. Left saying she wanted to see me again. The next day she deleted all contact and accused me of being only after sex.

Pity... we had quite a lot of common interests, and she was cute to boot.

Could have just been an excuse? Shit happens every now and then of course. But I still think you shouldn't just go with ONE plan all the time =/

Shy Asian guys are my thing.
Come to me.