I Am Shallow

Hehe... lilpeep is one of the nicest and most positive person out there. Absolutely no drama or games from her. Guys in AU, pay attention! If I weren't a world apart, I would surely jump on her...

lilpeep wrote: Yes - We are all shallow.

It takes work to not be shallow, it takes alot of effort and alot of reminders that not everyone is going to line up with what you think is okay in your life. Having said that - It can be doable.

Just going to shed a little light onto my situation. I am one of those people who are judged constantly. Nothing ever seems to be good enough, I don't look beautiful enough, not thin enough - My personality leaves little to be desired etc etc. People always say your 24 and you've never had a boyfreind. How can i when i am constantly slammed by the above?

But it has taught me some things - be kind , be lovely. We are always going to be inclined to appreciate something that looks more appealing to us. That's just basic psychology, but as long as your aware of your shortcomings and you make a concious effort to always be kind, polite and lovely - I dare say your a step ahead of many people.

This is your virtue.

There's negative people around you and yet you are bright as a coin. If only these were traits one could easily obtain.

I am one of those people who are judged constantly. Nothing ever seems to be good enough, I don't look beautiful enough, not thin enough - My personality leaves little to be desired etc etc.

This is just what I was looking for. You hit it right on the nail. I am not making excuses, but this is why I feel like I should criticize everyone. If they criticize me until they leave to fend for myself, why shouldn't I do the same for them? An eye for an eye, and tooth for a tooth, is this not what we have been taught? At least, I have.

Sometimes being kind takes to much effort for people that have irritated me so.

As others in the thread have mentioned everyone is shallow to a certain degree.

Some people are just too self conscious or stubborn to admit they are.

MagicMarker wrote: Hehe... lilpeep is one of the nicest people out there. Absolutely no drama or games from her. Guys in AU, pay attention! If I weren't a world apart, I would surely jump on her...

Ahh you are so lovely! <3 <3
*blushes*

I only mentioned the negative things to make my point clear tehe ^.^ It's in your body langauge and stuff when you are judging someone - They can tell - so it can be very hurtful as well. We all do it, but yushes... i think your streets ahead everyone else - If you know your doing it and are trying to change up things - then... yew is ahhmazink!

Jossie wrote:

lilpeep wrote: Yes - We are all shallow.

It takes work to not be shallow, it takes alot of effort and alot of reminders that not everyone is going to line up with what you think is okay in your life. Having said that - It can be doable.

Just going to shed a little light onto my situation. I am one of those people who are judged constantly. Nothing ever seems to be good enough, I don't look beautiful enough, not thin enough - My personality leaves little to be desired etc etc. People always say your 24 and you've never had a boyfreind. How can i when i am constantly slammed by the above?

But it has taught me some things - be kind , be lovely. We are always going to be inclined to appreciate something that looks more appealing to us. That's just basic psychology, but as long as your aware of your shortcomings and you make a concious effort to always be kind, polite and lovely - I dare say your a step ahead of many people.

This is your virtue.

There's negative people around you and yet you are bright as a coin. If only these were traits one could easily obtain.

I am one of those people who are judged constantly. Nothing ever seems to be good enough, I don't look beautiful enough, not thin enough - My personality leaves little to be desired etc etc.

This is just what I was looking for. You hit it right on the nail. I am not making excuses, but this is why I feel like I should criticize everyone. If they criticize me until they leave to fend for myself, why shouldn't I do the same for them? An eye for an eye, and tooth for a tooth, is this not what we have been taught? At least, I have.

Sometimes being kind takes to much effort for people that have irritated me so.

You are lovely ^.^ - But your absolutely right -

It takes alot of effort, especially for people who cuss at you and tell your, that aren't beauitful and stuff, Ie. Last night i went to bed crying because i don't understand how you can be so patient and kind towards people and still be treated awfully. I guess it's not meant to be understood. But i completely agree with that logic as well.

There are many times when i feel like tearing people down the way they tear me down day after day, but i try to remind myself - that i feel awful when it's done to me, and try not to do it to them, even if i am upset. But yeh.

It takes work - I personally think your amazing for realizing being shallow is a massive issue - and that your speaking up about it - that shows your inteligent and strong - those are fantastic attributes to have prettyful!

That's what he said

shame on you op and everyone else.

stop saying chink eyes, that's hella offensive.

Hal

I'm so shallow I drown in 3 inches of my own shallowness

Jossie, just having the balls er I mean courage to admit it makes you a little less shallow then most of us!

I don't believe people are really shallow, I just think that we are all wired with our own perception of attractiveness. We all know what we like and I think we are born as we are. There is definately some severe cases though, where people are just ridiculously picky, but it is still basically just a media influenced opinion on what is believed to be beautiful. We are all beautiful to somebody, but really what are looks in the end. It is the connection of souls and pure love that matters in the end, all flesh rots as we age.