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Is it just me, or are Vietnamese guys the least sought after out of all the asian cultures?

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8 years 6 months ago #454476 by Kirua
No the least sought, but behind, Japanesse, Korean and Chinese culture indeed.
And I've heard a lot of french girls that date vietnamese guys saying that they were jerks haha.

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8 years 6 months ago - 8 years 6 months ago #454479 by KiNyang
Asian guys in general don't have the best position on the whole "lovers market" thingy. But, as for me at least, I've dated Vietnamese guys as much as other Asian men (also statistically, more chance to meet Vietnamese or Chinese men in Montreal, Quebec, and most Vietnamese men here speak French and since most of my friends are French speaker, the probability is even higher).

That said, the less sought after in general (I'm talking statistic here, based on studies that used dating website data) are South Asian men (bottom of the list), then Black men (second to last), then East Asian. But I would say online dating scene is also worse than real life dating scene (globally, tho we could say clubs and bars are somewhat similar to online dating, kinda).

Let's face it too, this website and some other of the same "kind" are based on racial preference, which is fetichization (and, when in a more negative light, racism - tho fetichization is a form of casual racism). So even if it might be a more open and friendly place for Asian men to fund someone, it's still problematic AF. Therefore, if you're here as a woman and didn't think much about the reason you're here, you might be even more closed minded on opening up you're dating pool to people that don't fit the perfect picture you have in your head. Thing is life ain't perfect. I also find it really bad and wrong tbh, because it kinda doubles down on racism in a space that could be perceive as a little more safe for people that obviously don't have equal chance at dating in multicultural societies. And it somewhat adds some classism to it (with the whole hierachy of Asian cultures, which is also really not ok and kinda near the concept of colorism, but more close to classism)... yes, this world stinks
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8 years 6 months ago #454483 by Thesaurusrex

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8 years 6 months ago #454490 by KingJ
I'd say below Vietnamese is Cambodian and Laos. Just saying! It be damn true but that dun stop me. There is a women for every guy. If not I'd probably live as a hermit away from society but I don't think that kind of life suits me. KingJ needs a worthy Queen he can have all to his own.

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8 years 6 months ago #454495 by Danny11
Due to the fact that Vietnamese entertainment has little to no visibility in the western world, most people don't pay much attention to Vietnamese men and culture, except for the food (Who doesn't like pho!!)
As a Vietnamese, I don't blame anyone to not having any interests in Vietnamese men and culture because I myself, find Japanese culture much more interesting.

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8 years 6 months ago #454496 by Carolbarol
I have crushed on Vietnamese guys many times in my life, and one of my best guys friends is from Vietname. We have had a sort of unofficial thing on and off. I find many Vietnamese men more open to dating a white woman. One Vietnamese friend told me his parents want to set him up with a girl from their home country, but he likes the white ladies lol. I hope this helps. As long as you are yourself and engage with woman, you are bound to find one. ;) :cheer:

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8 years 6 months ago #454504 by Ayobb
B) they need some lovin too like all the rest :up:
hello. where y'all at? :hug:

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8 years 6 months ago #454505 by Shining
From personal experience I think ethnicity does matter a little bit, maybe a bit more online but in real life, the other person has a chance of getting to know you as an individual and vice versa. When a lot of people meet me, even Chinese people, they can't pin down what ethnicity I'm from, people have told me I looked Chinese, Korean, Thai, Indonesian, Vietnamese.

Sometimes people do make generalisations, but try to meet people that will treat you like an individual first and foremost. If someone counts you out solely on being Vietnamese, it's better to try and find someone else that will be a better potential match.

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8 years 6 months ago #454508 by criis95
I don't think so. There are a lot of gorgeous and nice Vietnamese guys. I don't make any kind of distinction, because it doesn't matter the ethniticy.

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8 years 6 months ago #454510 by Akasha
I noticed that too. I grew up near a Vietnamese community all my life (Baton Rouge has the largest Vietnamese community despite not have a cultural part of the city) and rarely some guys like non Asian girls (due to the fact that there's more Asian girls than guys and my high school was mostly black) they tend to be in their own little inner circle. Only a few tend to step out of the herd from time to time.

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