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Does Saying "hi" matter?

J91
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4 years 4 months ago #529024 by J91

Replied by J91 on topic Does Saying "hi" matter?

I think referring to the profile or a forum post is the best...
my top 7 (so far)
1. that's a gorgeous hoodie you have...
2. I would write you even if you dont have a profile pic (referring to my bubble)
3. I am ready to be bitten
4. So why'd you delete your old account
5. So you want to be a digital nomad?
6. you look lost reading the map...I would definitely not trust you exploring Rome...(referring to a picture)
7. you look better than dua lipa (I was like...dua who? hahaha...had to look her up)

haha.. but I would also answer a 'hi' (because I am nice...Karma and so on..haha)...but those conversations usually don't last very long

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zen
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4 years 4 months ago - 4 years 4 months ago #529026 by zen

Replied by zen on topic Does Saying "hi" matter?

^ being told looking better than others is great, I get told I look LIKE others 🙉

Last edit: 4 years 4 months ago by zen.

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J91
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4 years 4 months ago #529028 by J91

Replied by J91 on topic Does Saying "hi" matter?

zen wrote: ^ being told looking better than others is great, I get told I look LIKE others 🙉

Problem is...I don't look like her (in my opinion) and I certainly do not look better than her...but it made me smile and blush..which is always a good start...haha;-)

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zen
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4 years 4 months ago #529029 by zen

Replied by zen on topic Does Saying "hi" matter?

^bad eq: you look like this and that person.
Good eq: you look better than this and that person.

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monster
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4 years 4 months ago #529032 by monster

Replied by monster on topic Does Saying "hi" matter?

I don't really mind if the messages start with hi or hello as long the rest is interesting enough. While I have to agree with the fact that the conversations which start with "hi/hello how r u?" die pretty fast- sometimes its just people testing the waters to see if they gonna get a reply.

I think there's nothing wrong with saying hi and asking how someone is doing, but try to make the message more meaningful. Bonus points if they bother to read my profile beforehand.

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CAstarfish
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4 years 4 months ago #529038 by CAstarfish

Replied by CAstarfish on topic Does Saying "hi" matter?

I read their profile before responding to just a “hi” because I may see something we have in common. I try not to be dismissive of short messages. When I was registered on other sites and got the inevitable “asl?” message, I just ignored it. Obviously I’m female. Obviously my age and location are in my profile. Really?

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Prime
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4 years 4 months ago #529040 by Prime

Replied by Prime on topic Does Saying "hi" matter?

monster wrote: I don't really mind if the messages start with hi or hello as long the rest is interesting enough. While I have to agree with the fact that the conversations which start with "hi/hello how r u?" die pretty fast- sometimes its just people testing the waters to see if they gonna get a reply.

I think there's nothing wrong with saying hi and asking how someone is doing, but try to make the message more meaningful. Bonus points if they bother to read my profile beforehand.

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Prime
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4 years 4 months ago #529042 by Prime

Replied by Prime on topic Does Saying "hi" matter?

No, it doesn't matter if all they wrote was "Hi" or a paragraph introduction.
Why? Because none of those guarantee a message back.

I'm going to go on a limb and be the first to say even if you wrote a sentence about my profile or in a message, chances are still 50-50 about getting a reply. The same if all you wrote to me was a "Hi/How are you?"

Other people may have social anxiety and a "Hi" is all they can conjure. As others have mentioned, people may be testing the waters. Everything may be different once you get to that second sentence in a conversation.
Alot of people I've met on Hey-Ai stemming to real life meet ups are socially different from their online personas, some of those are my closest friends now.

These can be some of the best people you'll never meet.

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CAstarfish
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4 years 4 months ago #529044 by CAstarfish

Replied by CAstarfish on topic Does Saying "hi" matter?

This wasn’t exactly encouraging, but I get your point.

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TigerfromSpace
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4 years 4 months ago - 4 years 4 months ago #529047 by TigerfromSpace

Replied by TigerfromSpace on topic Does Saying "hi" matter?

If it is just about testing the waters, I agree to a degree. Especially in online dating, physical appearance plays a huge part. So if you just send a simple hi and the person in question responds, it is likely that he or she finds you at least not too shabby (or they are just super bored). So it is a super low investment to get a first reaction.

However, I don't recommend it. As they say, you don't get a second chance to make a first impression. And the chance to get a reply is much higher if you can say something more interesting than a simple hi.

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