Does Saying "hi" matter?

It's not hard to know the right things to say. It's pretty damn novice, actually. Watch any tv show or movie and you'll see men saying the right things. But for some reason, and I suspect age -- which brings with it bitter impatience, I now like saying what's on my mind instead, which is usually the wrong thing to say.

Example:

Before: "Wow, you look great tonight! Here, let me help you with that door..."

Now: "Wow, your ass looks great tonight! Here, let me help you with those breasts..."

Alright, I'm not that forward. (Okay, I am. Sometimes my own bluntness shocks the hell out of me and I have to close my eyes and breathe a few deep breaths and try to fight that little man inside of my head that keeps telling me to take my pants off and climb a pole).

You really need to reproduce and give the world another generation of your humor 😝🤪

whether its a hi or a carefully curated message that took 40 mins to type out, it doesnt matter. its hard enough to message people out of the blue, and in some cases not in their native language. gotta give people a chance. and its what comes after that matters. usually by a few messages in, ill have a good idea whether we gel or not.

with that said, it is much easier to be this disciplined when youre not inundated with countless messages hehe.

satchmo-75 wrote: It's not hard to know the right things to say. It's pretty damn novice, actually. Watch any tv show or movie and you'll see men saying the right things. But for some reason, and I suspect age -- which brings with it bitter impatience, I now like saying what's on my mind instead, which is usually the wrong thing to say.

Example:

Before: "Wow, you look great tonight! Here, let me help you with that door..."

Now: "Wow, your ass looks great tonight! Here, let me help you with those breasts..."

Alright, I'm not that forward. (Okay, I am. Sometimes my own bluntness shocks the hell out of me and I have to close my eyes and breathe a few deep breaths and try to fight that little man inside of my head that keeps telling me to take my pants off and climb a pole).

LMAO...you have a great sense of humor...

satchmo-75 wrote: It's not hard to know the right things to say. It's pretty damn novice, actually. Watch any tv show or movie and you'll see men saying the right things. But for some reason, and I suspect age -- which brings with it bitter impatience, I now like saying what's on my mind instead, which is usually the wrong thing to say.

Example:

Before: "Wow, you look great tonight! Here, let me help you with that door..."

Now: "Wow, your ass looks great tonight! Here, let me help you with those breasts..."

Alright, I'm not that forward. (Okay, I am. Sometimes my own bluntness shocks the hell out of me and I have to close my eyes and breathe a few deep breaths and try to fight that little man inside of my head that keeps telling me to take my pants off and climb a pole).

hi. how r u?

Tbh I don't really bother answering messages like "Hi" or "Hey how are u".
In these modern days with all these social media profiles it's easy to at least get some informations from the profile apart from the profile picture.
If you can't look past that and start a proper conversation showing real interest in me as a person and not only in my face/appearance you are probably not the kind of person I can have a deep and long-lasting conversation with which could lead to a good friendship or even relationship.

Every boring and pointless conversation starts with a "Hi"

I also agree. I kinda get annoyed when I spend time on putting in depth details on my profile just to be asked the same basic questions. Of course I don’t mind because we all make rookie mistakes but if the convo doesn’t go anywhere I usually just let it die out.

San_Ichiban wrote:

satchmo-75 wrote: It's not hard to know the right things to say. It's pretty damn novice, actually. Watch any tv show or movie and you'll see men saying the right things. But for some reason, and I suspect age -- which brings with it bitter impatience, I now like saying what's on my mind instead, which is usually the wrong thing to say.

Example:

Before: "Wow, you look great tonight! Here, let me help you with that door..."

Now: "Wow, your ass looks great tonight! Here, let me help you with those breasts..."

Alright, I'm not that forward. (Okay, I am. Sometimes my own bluntness shocks the hell out of me and I have to close my eyes and breathe a few deep breaths and try to fight that little man inside of my head that keeps telling me to take my pants off and climb a pole).

hi. how r u?

San: hi. how r u?

Me: OMGEEE (finally!!! the moment I’ve been waiting for all my life. Ok breathe ,breathe,try and keep pants on and don’t say anything stupid).....I’m, uh,uh,uh, I’m goood. (Oh shit that sounded like a damn fool).

San: What’s your name?

Me: Lychee balls

San: Ok Lychee Balls, just wanted to know what type of foundation you use?


Me: MAC, of course!



San:  Oh, my, gawd! Me too! I love it.  And your eyeliner.  Is it...

Me: CoverGirl by L'Oreal. You know it girlfriend. I love your jeans by the way. Can I try it on later?



San:  Well, I’m a size zero so . . .



Me:  Oh my gawd! Me too!



San: Awesome! We're going to be BFFs forever!



Me:  And ever!!!

satchmo-75 wrote:

San_Ichiban wrote:

satchmo-75 wrote: It's not hard to know the right things to say. It's pretty damn novice, actually. Watch any tv show or movie and you'll see men saying the right things. But for some reason, and I suspect age -- which brings with it bitter impatience, I now like saying what's on my mind instead, which is usually the wrong thing to say.

Example:

Before: "Wow, you look great tonight! Here, let me help you with that door..."

Now: "Wow, your ass looks great tonight! Here, let me help you with those breasts..."

Alright, I'm not that forward. (Okay, I am. Sometimes my own bluntness shocks the hell out of me and I have to close my eyes and breathe a few deep breaths and try to fight that little man inside of my head that keeps telling me to take my pants off and climb a pole).

hi. how r u?

San: hi. how r u?

Me: OMGEEE (finally!!! the moment I’ve been waiting for all my life. Ok breathe ,breathe,try and keep pants on and don’t say anything stupid).....I’m, uh,uh,uh, I’m goood. (Oh shit that sounded like a damn fool).

San: What’s your name?

Me: Lychee balls

San: Ok Lychee Balls, just wanted to know what type of foundation you use?


Me: MAC, of course!



San:  Oh, my, gawd! Me too! I love it.  And your eyeliner.  Is it...

Me: CoverGirl by L'Oreal. You know it girlfriend. I love your jeans by the way. Can I try it on later?



San:  Well, I’m a size zero so . . .



Me:  Oh my gawd! Me too!



San: Awesome! We're going to be BFFs forever!



Me:  And ever!!!

i feel attacked. i would never have a conversation about make up with anyone. those pants coming off on the other hand...