Asian families do not accept foreigners?

Banyan wrote:

nina150289 wrote: huh since when?
never felt it in such a way, when i remember back, the family of my first boyfriend ( Japanese) always was really nice to me a bit distanced but they had no problem with me.
my last boyfriend was a Vietnamese and his family was really lovely, it was like a warm welcome every time i met them,
and now i am with a Chinese for a long time, and at the beginning, yes, his mum wasn't pleased with me, she aspect her son to go back to china and marry a Chinese girl and get a child with her, but now after time has passed and he has a family and child with me, she started being nice and kind and and even worried about me sometimes, it rather my mother who can't accept him and tried to break us up a few times.

Your baby has such light hair. It almost looks dark blonde.

My parents had a lot of problems in their marriage due to my father's troublesome family.
Eventually they broke up over a variety of problems but the decisive breaking point was when my father's parents decided to start insulting my mom. I am quite biased since I was raised by her for the most part, but from what I've experienced living with my grandparents I'd say what she has told me is completely plausible. My father came from a high middle class family while my mom was raised in an orphanage with a mother who married six times with I don't even know how many children. Needless to say their outlooks on life were quite disparate.

oh that girl in the picture is not the baby i was talking about, that picture is a older one, that little girl is nearly in school age now, left out my marriage (he wasn't Asian, and he's not even a human in my eyes anymore, after what he did to me) when i counted up, so i already had two other children before i met that Chinese who is the father of my son. and that little boy looks like a copy of his dad
so sorry to hear that sad story about your parents, i know that even if love is strong, when people always try to push between there is no chance to stay happy for a longer time, that's why we deiced to break down the contact to my mother after we noticed that we started fighting each other because of the things she put up all the time, it's hard but if someone does so you need to make a decision...

Unless you have westernized asian parents living in a foreign country I think in general there is some truth to this statement.
Parents fear the unknown as do most people so they may be reluctant to accept someone not just from a different race but even from another asian country. My first GF was a Filipino and even though my mom tried to act like it was fine I could tell she preferred otherwise. Its your life, your choice and your responsibility to introduce your GF to your family and try to make things work. Don't go all rebel with that I don't give a crap attitude because thats just disrespectful and ungrateful. Try your best and if at the end of the day they still can't accept her then its their loss.

I think it is somewhat transparent that older generations are more traditional in that sense, and I saw it with my grandma at first. Things do change, and at the end of the day it's about love.

My mom remarried with a non-Asian, so she is all good for me to do the same.

Then again, I was born in the US, and things did affect the families.

Mix those genes.

My hubby-to-be's family is also very traditional and also weren't so keen on him marrying a foreigner. But they gave me chance and changed their minds straight after!

Not entirely true. My cousin married a Nepalese (Asian but looked totally different from the traditional East Asian), my aunt married a Japanese which my grandma opposed to due to WW2 conflicts, but she learnt to accept it. My ex was a british/chinese mix and they thought very well of her too.

I think it depends on the openness of the family's culture and maybe the society/country of residence.

let's get back to the basics.
no humans are the same,
therefore everyone is different haha

who's been telling this kind of story about us...............................

I was really surprised when my ex, who was korean and studying in the US, said his parents encouraged him to date and find a foreign wife

My parents don't give a damn, as long as I'm happy.

They're pretty cool peeps.

I'm not sure about Asians in general, but for Korean, I can say that MOST traditional Korean parents want their children to marry another Korean - even another Asian is questionable! I hate to admit it, but Koreans can be extremely (verbally) racist - not to the point where they would physically express their resentment towards other races.

Again, I'm talking about traditional Korean parents, specifically. If you are fluent in the Korean language, then you know that we go "balls deep" when using demeaning language.. lol