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Asian families do not accept foreigners?

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11 years 11 months ago #267805 by ryancj
Replied by ryancj on topic Asian families do not accept foreigners?
Its different for each family.

Traditional parents might be more strict, but can still be accepting to other cultures.
Less traditionalized families are more open, and won't really care where your from.

Like my parents, they don't care at all- they just want me to be happy ^^.

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11 years 11 months ago - 11 years 11 months ago #267806 by TLStar
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That's a complicated issue, it depends on several factors and it doesn't apply to every Asian family in the world.

1) Why it might NOT work:

Traditional Asian parents are more likely to reject foreigners into their family. When I use the term 'traditional', I mean they hold conservative values/beliefs, immigrated from Asia, and only speak their native language (i.e they can't speak English well).

1) Why it might work:

If the Asian parents are white collar workers & the non-Asian GF is also white collar worker then they're more likely to accept her into the family. I'm not sure what would happen if the situation was the opposite of this one so I don't know.

2) Why it might NOT work:

If the Asian grandparents are closely tied to the Asian family (i.e. grandma/grandpa visits the family almost every day) then it's unlikely the Asian parents will accept a foreigner into their family since the Asian parents would probably reject due to cultural differences. The grandparents probably speak very little English and they would rather talk to a granddaughter-in-law who can speak their language.

2) Why it might work:

If the non-Asian GF can speak the native language (e.g. Mandarin, Korean, Japanese, etc) that the Asian parents speak, there's less reason why they shouldn't accept her into the family. Witnessing a foreigner speak an Asian language will always impress Asians and it's a sign that the foreigner is intelligent & educated.

3) Other reasons:

In the nutshell, if you're Asian BF was totally committed to you and was serious about marrying you, and if he's smart he would probably figure a way to make it work somehow, otherwise you're kind of wasting your time if he's doing nothing about it. I think as long as you're not starting some kind of meth lab, heroine addict, Las Vegas prostitute, live in a trailer park your whole life and have 30 babies from previous marriages, have an ex-boyfriend that is convicted of beating up your last Asian BF, or something you usually see on the Jerry Spring TV show then you shouldn't have too much to worry about. Your Asian BF should take care of everything for u.
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11 years 11 months ago #268024 by hero4410
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It depends if Asian family member live mostly in Asia or in western countries. You have to understand that Asian countries have fairly homogenous populations, almost every one there are Asians (duh). So people living in Asian simply do not know how to deal with multiculturalism, compared to Asians that have lived for a long time in USA or Canada.

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11 years 11 months ago #268038 by fathamburger
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White is generally okay and even encouraged. Anyone darker or black though, it's like the world is ending :cheer:

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11 years 11 months ago #268092 by Indigomuffin
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I recently stayed with my Thai bf in Bangkok before going home to the UK. I was so nervous as he said that his mother never liked any of his previous girlfriends, and wouldn't even wai or talk to his ex girlfriend of 5 years (soooo bad not to wai back to someone if you are Thai). He also doubted that we could stay in his house as no previous girlfriends were allowed to stay the night.
When I met his mum, I gave her my best wai and talked to her in my best Thai. She gave a wai back and was really lovely to me, even though she couldn't speak English and my Thai is terrible. I then met his dad, who was so nice to me, and was really interested in the UK and speaking English to me.
I got changed after a long trip from the south of Thailand and had a nap in his room. When I woke up I found that his dad figured out that we were a couple (my bf had never told his parents until then, but they knew a foreign friend was coming to visit) and he was fine with this. Also he said that I could stay until I needed to leave!
I was made to feel so welcome, they made and bought lots of food, and his dad even asked his driver from work to take us to the airport when I went home.
Then his mum at the end of my stay gave me a silk scarf with elephants on it.
I was so happy, as I was expecting to be ignored and then just to stay in a hotel, from what I heard about his previous girlfriends (all Thai).
All of my friends who have had Thai boyfriends have had great experiences with their families. I think it's Thai culture to be really warm and welcoming. Also I guess it's not that common for guys to have white girlfriends and unfortunately the whole white skin thing is found beautiful there, and my friends and I are quite pasty haha.

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11 years 11 months ago #268093 by Tonytfc
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Not true. My family accepts everyone from everywhere...........for the right price.

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11 years 11 months ago #268095 by Chen xu
I know many Chinese men married a Russian women My ex-girlfriend from Russia Love has no border



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11 years 11 months ago #268812 by marshall
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u cant get a absolute reply on this question :P

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11 years 11 months ago #268843 by rzz41
LOL what. Asian families love foreigners. They wanna marry off their daughters to rich American to get green cards.

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11 years 11 months ago #268868 by cheri
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Depends? I dated a taiwanese guy who used to invite me to his house for Friday nights to watch movies with his family. His mom was extremely sweet to me, and seemed glad that I made him happy. But honestly the guy I dated would've dated me regardless. He invited me to his house after a second date knowing his parents and sister would be there. It wasn't a big deal for him.

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