Jesus Christ! Why is it so hard to meet a right person?

ShiroStateira wrote:

th3f4llen wrote:

ShiroStateira wrote:

th3f4llen wrote:

ShiroStateira wrote: See sometimes people have to high standards that blind them. If you take those away, you'll meet a lot of good and fantastic people.

So ur saying to meet your soulmate, you have to throw away standards. Seems legit.

I'm saying to set the bar too high that it's impossible to reach. Get to know who they are, not who you want them to be because we never get what we want. Who are we to tell others how they should be "perfect" if we ourselves are far from perfection?

We get to know who they are, because we want to know if they're the person that we want them to be. If they're not, then it probably won't move any further than friends, unless you compromise. And shouldn't it be a natural mentality to strive for perfection?

No such thing as perfection, only what we think is perfection. In America, Being insanely thin is one form of perfection in this society. Shall i go throw up a bit to strive for this perfection? Maybe get some plastic surgery and invest hundreds of dollars for makeup that will eventually kill my skin. shall i strive for this perfection? No, we are not perfect. We should strive to be the best of ourselves. We will make mistakes, we will not be perfect, but as long as we can try to learn to move forward and be the best we can, then that is enough. That, my dear friend, is what we should take into consideration when looking for "the one". They will not be the one to meet out standard based on a checklist, but they will be the one to try their best.

it is true that perfection is subjected to the eyes of the beholder. But there are certain qualities that the mass of people would agree to be the "right" qualities through the ages of evolution and continuously learning how to live together better. I mean, the quality or mentality not to kill, is certainly a mentality that had developed through evolution to help us live together better to be able to survive. Therefore, the most basic qualities nowadays would be a requirement to be a "perfect" person, in the sense that that person can assimilate and live in a community effectively. and it is not just in america that people prefer thin, slim, fit females, rather than fat, and overweight. You see this preference all over the world. Females pretty much everywhere are subjected to pretty much the same standards. So that would be called "perfection". Now I do agree that perfection, in the objective way, does not exactly exist. I mean, it's sort of there, but it's sort of not there. To me the objective "perfection" is half way between a concept, and a graspable idea.

And that last sentence of yours, I would have to disagree. I think I've said this on the forum multiple times, and it seems to be ignored most of the time, but I'll say it again. We ALL have a set of standards in our mind. Whether you're conscious of it or not. If it is true what you say, then you should be able to be in a relationship with ANYONE that shows effort. Regardless of how drastically their personalities might be different from yours, regardless of how much their hobbies or likings can be different from yours, regardless of their social status, regardless of their appearance, regardless of anything and everything except for the effort they show.

Completely agree with the initial statement.... So difficult... or too young, too old, far away, not nice, and name it...
I wish us all we finally FIND and KEEP the right person!

xinji wrote: I need to blame engineering school for that...120 ppl and only 9 girls
now am working 20 ppl with 1 female..

lol every engineering friend I have says the same thing, total sausage-fest

Jan wrote: 'Cause good guys are in a relationship or are gay or imagining you're a slut just 'cause you're Brazilian!

Not our fault your sisters are so... well-marketed. Hey, there are too many people out there and guys need a rapid fire way to screen them.

DanielDYIm wrote: Jesus Christ! Why is it so hard to meet a right person?

I am a pretty normal, passionate and funny person. Everybody loves me.

I am not even greedy. All I want for a girl is to be sweet and honest.

But WHY should girls who are into me be always some kind of crazy, weed-smoking wild girls??

Goddamn it!

why cant she weed-smoking or having wild life ? its her choice. girls never could be honest except some good women around 30 -40

MissMiss wrote: I'm wondering, if you meet people from here in real life??
Anyone?

actually you do. and quite a lot of them are from germany.