Would you call a person ugly?

Would I?
Yes, I would.

chibii wrote: Would I?
Yes, I would.

With a smile on the face ?
It's like smiling to kill someone.

doge wrote: Damn wtf, what kind of schools did you guys go to ?
That's savage af.

The kind of schools where popularity meant everything. Which was predetermined by how attractive and or rich you were. Where teachers didn't stop bullying and rather encouraged it.

Back in elementary school kids often called me ugly, because i never wore any fancy clothes, and i often dirtied myself while playing.
Then i asked my dad if i was ugly or not, and when he said, of course not, i never paid attention to those insults. I trusted my father so much, that i never cared about that insult anymore haha. Guess im lucky, since in general i dont give a fuck for those people's opinion, who i dont consider important.

I personally dont like to insult others, so if someone is being rude towards me, i simply walk off by showing the national hand sign for 'f..k you'. Believe me, its less stressful then getting into a nasty arguement, and much more satisfying, when you see the realization on their face, that their petty insults are being brushed off, and their ego is being ignored.

Jokes aside 'cause I know between friends you get to call eachother stuff like hoe, bitch, cunt and like yeah I get ya vibe, but~~

Being told ''ugly'' many times since I was a child, by strangers, school friends, and even family, and other insults that hurt so much, but neither of them hurt me as the belief that I was ugly to others, and as a child, having a fragil self-steem that was on the process to be built up, it hit me hard and left me scarred since then.

Up to now, I can't say ''I'm a beautiful girl'', I just like to believe I'm not ugly nor pretty, I'm just me and that should be enough, and if someone finds me ugly, it's fine, and if someone finds me pretty, well it's fine too but I can't kinda believe it, but not gonna be like ''I'm ugly dont lie'', thanks for finding me pretty. I've been told many times I was ''ugly'', ''fat'', even ''maybe you are not pretty but pretty girls have it tough so you should be thankful you are just not pretty'' and that last one was from my parents :vv like thanks but don't cheer me up plz~

I believe people are not ugly, they just are different, and it's okay to not feel attracted to someone, it's okay to not find them pretty or hot, it's okay to not wanting physical interaction or some love related stuff, but it's not okay to treat someone like shit because you don't find them appealing to you, and it's about respect, not looks (unless they are being dicks so just slap them with respect :v). So I won't say people should be calling everyone beautiful and date everyone regardless of physical attraction when just not calling someone ''ugly'' and respect them would be just fine.

I know that some people may think ''but it's not such a big deal, get over it'', but not everyone is the same, not everyone reacts to negative words as others do, and some of us have dealt with some kind of emotional disorder since very, very young and not got help so stuff like this can easily scarred and damage a person for life, as it has done to me, I have accepted the fact that maybe I won't be able to believe deep inside me that I'm beautiful, but I'm gonna try my best to push myself to believe 'cause I'm done letting myself being dragged by deppressive thoughs.

So please, don't call someone ugly just because you think it's not that great of a deal, you don't need to say it, it's okay you don't find them pretty but it's not okay to hurt others just because you feel like doing it, because YOU won't feel bad being treat like that, people have their own stories, their own past, you don't know what has happened to them before, you don't know how hard will hit them..

StephM-33 wrote: Jokes aside 'cause I know between friends you get to call eachother stuff like hoe, bitch, cunt and like yeah I get ya vibe, but~~

Being told ''ugly'' many times since I was a child, by strangers, school friends, and even family, and other insults that hurt so much, but neither of them hurt me as the belief that I was ugly to others, and as a child, having a fragil self-steem that was on the process to be built up, it hit me hard and left me scarred since then.

Up to now, I can't say ''I'm a beautiful girl'', I just like to believe I'm not ugly nor pretty, I'm just me and that should be enough, and if someone finds me ugly, it's fine, and if someone finds me pretty, well it's fine too but I can't kinda believe it, but not gonna be like ''I'm ugly dont lie'', thanks for finding me pretty. I've been told many times I was ''ugly'', ''fat'', even ''maybe you are not pretty but pretty girls have it tough so you should be thankful you are just not pretty'' and that last one was from my parents :vv like thanks but don't cheer me up plz~

I believe people are not ugly, they just are different, and it's okay to not feel attracted to someone, it's okay to not find them pretty or hot, it's okay to not wanting physical interaction or some love related stuff, but it's not okay to treat someone like shit because you don't find them appealing to you, and it's about respect, not looks (unless they are being dicks so just slap them with respect :v). So I won't say people should be calling everyone beautiful and date everyone regardless of physical attraction when just not calling someone ''ugly'' and respect them would be just fine.

I know that some people may think ''but it's not such a big deal, get over it'', but not everyone is the same, not everyone reacts to negative words as others do, and some of us have dealt with some kind of emotional disorder since very, very young and not got help so stuff like this can easily scarred and damage a person for life, as it has done to me, I have accepted the fact that maybe I won't be able to believe deep inside me that I'm beautiful, but I'm gonna try my best to push myself to believe 'cause I'm done letting myself being dragged by deppressive thoughs.

So please, don't call someone ugly just because you think it's not that great of a deal, you don't need to say it, it's okay you don't find them pretty but it's not okay to hurt others just because you feel like doing it, because YOU won't feel bad being treat like that, people have their own stories, their own past, you don't know what has happened to them before, you don't know how hard will hit them..

It takes years for a person to became what they are/meant to.its too early to tell whether someone is beautiful or ugly. Just look at what the slut did to others family. Imagine that's your gf and she went out to sleep around(male applied) .never dealt with other ppl find me ugly before but that doesn't mean I'd stop growing.

StephM-33 wrote: Being told...

anything emotional can be reversed. anything you've been through or been told can be unlearned and changed. you can be happy again. if those people had been of sound mind, they would have wanted to lift others up, not put them down. people who are at ease, want others to be happy and at ease. you must learn to throw the problem on them and begin to reteach yourself what your true value is. your true self is more amazing then you could ever imagine. there's a reason why people miss their loved ones long after they've passed away. they mean so much to them. if you've ever seen people with their loved ones who are sick in the hospital, you may notice that the last thing they are thinking about is that person's outer appearance.

i was surprised by your post because i think you have good photos of yourself.

i had a mother who would not pay me compliments of any kind because she somehow thought that was taking the attention away from her and giving it to me. she wasn't about to let someone else feel good about themselves if she wasn't able to feel good. very selfish. a real mother or father would want more for their child than what they received in their lives. i have a little niece that i see from time to time and i tell her that she will be better than all of us. i tell her she's already smarter than us (because she is, she's very quick), not to give her a big ego but to let her see there's good in her and to let her know she can go further in life than us if she wants to. i mostly tell her she was a good person from day one and still is, because her mother is always finding fault with her and blaming her for her own emotional problems, which is beyond inexcusable. sometimes you have to remember that parents don't have a right to put down their child. they have no right to do it, and they had no right to do that to you. if you try to remember that, you will understand that what they said or did was not your fault (even though you already know it wasn't your fault, sometimes it's hard to get over those experiences), and you must try really hard to separate their bad behavior from the happy and healthy self-concept you must continue to create for yourself.

as they say, be transformed by the renewing of your mind. people sometimes doubt lots of old sayings because they wonder if they really work or if they will work for them. i really do believe that one in particular has been proven to work time and time again. everything has an end, as they say. it's very true. and even though it may not always seem like it, you will be learning things along the way that you will one day use to help others get through their problems.

Joyce Meyer has lots of great sermons on youtube where she talks about getting through her struggles. she's a Christian minister. her father sexually abused her when she was growing up, and she was able to turn her life around. she likes to help people no matter what they've been through. she also has a book called Battlefield of the Mind, which is on youtube. i have not read or listened to it yet, but she says it's meant to help with inner thoughts.

SO you find a good looking partner,in the future your child wouldn't have experience this

No, I wouldn't.
What would I achieve by doing so? Hurting someone doesn't bring me joy and it's nothing to be proud of. It's disgusting behavior.
Some people should learn to keep their mouths shut.

Probably not