So what is it that attracts you to the opposite sex?

I would not call her too picky or arrogant.
I also would not like to date a gambler or a drug addict etc.
That she wants a guy to be educated is also understandable for me.
And I think " No only childs" refers to so called "little emperors", which I also understand :-/
Height 1,72... this isnt tall at all. She just seems to want a boyfriend that is taller than her.

Sorry, I cannot see any arrogance here

sounds like a perfectly normal asian born and bred girl to me.

i wouldnt call her picky arrogant or impossible to match her.. and of yourse we don´t know what she is like.
quite some ppl already argued for her sake that she just seeks a reliable man who knows how life-log commited relationship should/can be managed, etc.
the only problem i see is, that she obviously looks for a potentially super-boring person ^^ but that is her choice to be made.

How is this girl picky or arrogant?

• Never married

Would YOU want a divorced woman as your ideal partner?

Masters degree or more

She's a graduate student herself, what's wrong with wanting someone who matches your educational level?

Not from Wuhan

Maybe she had bad experiences with someone from there or doesn't like the value people from there hold?

No rural I.D. card

Doesn't want too much cultural difference possibly?

No only children

Maybe someone who can relate to her?

No smokers

Nothing wrong.

No alcoholics

Nothing wrong.

No gamblers

Nothing wrong.

Taller than one hundred and seventy-two centimeters

If you are shorter than this then you're just really short. Stop crying about women wanting taller men and just focus on someone who doesn't mind it.

More than a year of dating before marriage

Perfectly reasonable amount of time.

Sporty

She wants someone in reasonable shape?

Parents who are still together

Wants someone who's presumably from a stable family.

Annual salary over fifty thousand yuan

Prefers not to live in a cardboard box.

Between twenty-six and thirty-two years of age

So?

Willing to guarantee eating at least four dinners at home per week

Wants a family oriented guy, and/or save money?

At least two ex-girlfriends but no more than four

Wants someone who can deal with relationships but hasn't been around that many times.

No Virgos, no Capricorns.

Most of you guys strongly prefer non-asian girls over asian girls, so who are you to criticize?
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Ann-Sophie wrote: Sorry, I cannot see any arrogance here

Never married
Masters degree or more
Not from Wuhan
No rural I.D. card
No only children
No smokers
No alcoholics
No gamblers
Taller than one hundred and seventy-two centimeters
More than a year of dating before marriage
Sporty
Parents who are still together
Annual salary over fifty thousand yuan
Between twenty-six and thirty-two years of age
Willing to guarantee eating at least four dinners at home per week
At least two ex-girlfriends but no more than four
No Virgos, no Capricorns.

Then, what if a guys would ask for a girl ...
NOT from the south,
NOT from (write your city here)
NOT from countryside, only from a large city
aged between 18 & not over 22
Pure Virgins only !
?

Heres my response

Never married
Masters degree or more - a Masters degree doesn't necessarily mean a more intelligent or educated person, often rich parents with stupid kids can pay for their kids to have a Masters degree in a Mickey Mouse University.
Not from Wuhan - Just because she meets someone from Wuhan she doesn't like doesn't mean everyone is like that in Wuhan.
No rural I.D. card - Just because a person is from the countryside doesn't make them any worse than someone from the city. They could have all the qualities that a person is looking for, they may be even more humble and hardworking, striving to better themselves and to take themselves out of poverty by having the courage to move to the city and to compete with all the city people.
No only children - Nothing wrong with only children and with the one child policy she is not likely to find someone from the city in the 26 - 32 years age group because the one child rules for city people are much stricter than for someone in the country.
No smokers
No alcoholics
No gamblers
Taller than one hundred and seventy-two centimeters
More than a year of dating before marriage
Sporty
Parents who are still together - Just because someone has parents who are divorced or separated doesn't mean that they are from a less stable family. On the contrary they may make more of an effort once married to keep the family together because of what they saw in their parents marriage.
Annual salary over fifty thousand yuan
Between twenty-six and thirty-two years of age
Willing to guarantee eating at least four dinners at home per week
At least two ex-girlfriends but no more than four - The number of relationships a person has doesn't neccesarily make that person any better or worse. Sometimes it might be that a person has been unlucky in love or just decided to wait for the right person, why hold this against someone when it may not be their fault. On the otherhand a person may have had to kiss a lot of frogs before they find their prince or princess.
No Virgos, no Capricorns. - what about Snakes and Monkeys, is she going to disqualify them as well?

Seriously, I have this feeling all you men just want another reason to pick apart women and complain.

Kal_L's breakdown is right, there's nothing wrong here. I'm pretty sure all you have a set of "standards" you want in your ideal woman, just as we have them in men. So stop acting as if you are any better.

bentobeatbox wrote: Seriously, I have this feeling all you men just want another reason to pick apart women and complain.

This is not true, I would have said exactly the same thing if these 'requirements' were from a man, I'm not here to pick apart this woman or complain. My point being that I just think that this woman needs to be more open minded about things.

Common guys, meeting those requirements are easy, she just has to meet my one single requirement
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1) NOT BEING ASIAN

bentobeatbox wrote: Seriously, I have this feeling all you men just want another reason to pick apart women and complain.

Kal_L's breakdown is right, there's nothing wrong here. I'm pretty sure all you have a set of "standards" you want in your ideal woman, just as we have them in men. So stop acting as if you are any better.

Would there be a case when those "standards" would be too much for everyone to accept? Most of her requirements are fine, but kal's breakdown was more like the counterpoint to try and get people to stop complaining. My friend says the Wuhan thing is a cultural bias. Reacting to a stereotype that's none too flattering. Similar to if I said "No New Yorkers because you all have attitudes". I guess we could all argue that it's still part of one's preference, but it seems there's a bit more definition between the lines. Something beyond a reference to the fact that we all have standards.

I was going to post an article that had a small study with around a thousand university students. I forget the exact statistics, but the men were more or less (~50%) ok with "settling" for a nice, but not idealized mate. The women were about ~80% against settling and stated that they wouldn't be happy unless they got exactly what they wanted (i.e. the rare, but attainable physical attributes or long-term prospects). To rehash some of the things that I said before: You see similar things with people that have spent their time focusing on their career. A smaller pool of candidates and less exposure to the ideal candidate results in a prolonged search. That part should be mentioned and accepted concurrently with any statement of preference.

I still think this mostly breaks down gender lines. The ones reacting most strongly against this are the ones that have faced more rejection. Tasty Tango brings up a good point about the perception being different if it came from the opposite sex. It reminds me of the complaints from that other thread that had the list of requirements on "how to treat a man" or something to that effect and the subsequent backlash from being unrealistic. In the end, it's probably better that the person keeps looking. If you don't live up to their standards (unrealistic or otherwise), chances are they probably won't be happy with you as a whole. It's better to know initially so you can suck it up and move on.

No one can meet my requirements. I am not complaining though ^^