So what is it that attracts you to the opposite sex?

Honestly, a lot of what she's seeking isn't that bad. Common sense in a good guy (no gamblers, smokers, alcoholics). At least a year of dating is wise before jumping into marriage. Willing to eat dinner at home 4 times a week says she's searching for a family man to me. Though some of that is out of a guys control - height, parents, no only children. No more than 4 exes? Eh, depends on what the guy calls a 'relationship.'

I guess what I'm saying is I've seen much worse.

Geeze, I must qualify than.

I don't feel like converting cm to feet, so she wants what in height?

Reason why I am disqualified:

But I don't have a Masters
I'm not working currently
No ex gfs (and no gfs currently)
God to her I am pathetic and low on the todem pole.

Okay we should get a picture of her now and judge her.
She's asian

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>disqualified

At least the Asian girls over here are less discriminating. You just have to be white/non-asian and 6ft. Why is she against guys from Wuhan? A little too... country?

(the height converted to feet = 5.58)

nangua75 wrote: And some of combined demands are impossible to fulfill:
due to P.R. of China 's one-child-only policy it's virtually impossible to be a
Chinese man with siblings, from city area & aged over 26 & still living in China.

Isn't there a "tax" for a second child? It sounds like the tax is substantial (relatively speaking).

when shes asks for your family to still be together, she is asking that you be emotionally stable and not full of family issues.

Well, I'll say I don't fit that, it's pretty hard to find people in this generation who's parents are still married.

Basically, she wants a stable marriage---not you following the one you were raised in. What should matter though is if you were capable of noticing the behaviours of the bad marriage and learned from them. That is kind of better.

Plus, you got to admit, if woman really do have that much choice, you need to narrow down the choices ...

She's being pragmatic about it (some would say picky). There's a danger to being too deep into that way of thinking, though. If someone meets those specifications, then he probably has options as well. Having a mandatory stats sheet doesn't mean the marriage will be any better. A lot of it still depends on the individuals and how they mesh. If requirement-fillers were the only thing that really mattered... we'd have a lot less Hollywood divorces.

Knowing what you want and going after it is fine, but I sometimes wonder if people realize the long-term realities of a relationship. A lifelong exercise in compromise. The aspiration to "have it all" might get in the way of that.

Then again, if the person can't/won't come back to planet Earth, it's probably better that they keep searching.

for fun, I'm gonna say...


he better share my musical tastes...

Right now, that is the Brave soundtrack.

continue, violins and bagpipes XP

oh, and basically everything else that matters to meh......*mind distracted*

respectful, thoughtful, of beautiful feelings that I want, and someone who likes all of my

Poor Wuhan

Sadly, even if going for what you know you want, even if it's reasonable, you are still called picky and hopeless......but what is more true, is that society devalues the things that are most important, and cares less to meet the quality over quantity.

So you could have reasonably decent expectations, but still be single and overlooked.

"oh, I have to work?"
some people probably think.

"Oh, I have to be able to walk without my car? oh, she isn't gonna clean my dirty socks? I have to value marriage and not live together while we are dating?"

"Oh, I have to actually have a clean sense of humour? well, that is just so out-dated..."

just some examples of what I notice around offline and online.

People are so unwilling to work on themselves, they think "I'm perfect how I am now, why should I improve?"

"I don't need to be a better person, if they cannot accept all my flaws, than they can ___ off".

Truth be told, all of us need to work on our flaws if they are indeed negative----if you cannot even accept that you need to strive to improve as a person over the years of your life, what effort will you have in a relationship?

this stubborness is a huge problem that is a movement these days---acceptance to the point of it being an excuse to be a complete a**hole without needing to do a think about it.



I guess some of us are dying alone.


ah yes, blunt I am.