So what is it that attracts you to the opposite sex?

Wow I meet all the requirements, haha~~~

But then I don't necessarily find those requirements picky or something. They seem pretty easy to achieve as long as you follow the right path.

i see the man will always happy to meet someone else~

she expected it `-`

why do ppl complain? if they've got something else to do

hbkguo wrote: Wow I meet all the requirements, haha~~~

But then I don't necessarily find those requirements picky or something. They seem pretty easy to achieve as long as you follow the right path.

Yeah, most are fine. The annual salary requirement isn't too bad, either. It's approx. middle class. Things get weird when she puts restrictions on astrology signs and location, but that's more of the "opinion" part.

The best part about it is: if someone doesn't like it (the laundry list of req's), they can move on to the next one. I'm sure that individual would do the same, and I'm hoping (for her sake) that what she's offering is equally beneficial to whomever she deems worthy.

MagicMarker wrote: Problems arise (and hilarity ensues) when a woman acts emotionally rather than logically and complains about the outcomes when everyone can clearly see that what she did was irrational.

www.psychologytoday....ogical-reversal

Whatever....don't like her profile, read the next one down the list.
I personally don't see myself going for such a type to believe in stupid astrological sign... but each to their own

i think my condition could meet this requirement.

but the problem is could she meet my requirement either ?

My apologizes, I'm a little buzzed, so I hope this makes sense... I feel that just because divorce rates are higher in the west does not mean the rest of the world has happy marriages or are better off than divorcees. Reasons for staying married vary from culture to culture. Not everyone believes in divorce and it's frowned upon in many societies, so societal attitudes about relationships and divorce influence how the majority of the population will act.

"Not divorced" does not signify happiness and having a "better relationship" is not necessarily the reason for people not divorcing. Again, it all comes down to cultural values, personal values and beliefs, etc. Consider countries that still perform arranged marriages? Divorce doesn't make sense a lot of the time, as the concept of marriage can mean more than just "love" or "passion" that you toss away once it's gone. Many times it boils down to being a part of a social structure. Carrying on the family wealth; the family name. *** The further away you get from emotion the better off a situation can be. If marriage is a social structure, not constructed out of emotion, then I doubt anyone would feel the need to divorce. In my opinion, the stronger you feel and the more passionate you are when you're happy, you also have passionate anger alongside it. We can't really compare cultures, when our beliefs about why we marry may possibly be different. If a relationship or marriage means something different in every culture, so will the concept of divorce/separation.
So, I wouldn't personally use the divorce rate in the west as a basis not to date a westerner. That's like saying the odds of getting hit by a drunk driver are high, statistically, so you won't go out into public. That usually doesn't stop people, because they know what they want.

Moreover, you can make a mass generalization out of anything in life.. Do what you want. One of the brilliant things my boyfriend has taught me over the 2 years we've been together: "Society will tell you how it thinks you should act and feel. It'll tell you the odds are against you, it will put you down. But in the end you have to go against it all and follow your heart because the things you want out of life might not be agreeable to everybody. Leave out all the rest."

mine are also divorced. The only real problem is I cannot trust either of their word at times - I keep my real problems to myself. Most of my family have no idea about some of my issues.

for more obvious things,I have trust issues, but I really want to trust someone.

Am also not interested in repeating the negatives, so I'll take my marriage seriously. Thus why I am so picky---things can go downhill if your views are too different---when raising kids, this suddenly becomes a huge obstacle.

Work things out, never let divorce be an option.

If you fear divorce may happen between you two, then don't get married in the first place. The only reason a couple should get married is that they could not see themselves being with some other people. My parents are happily married for 25 years, and I am determined not to be the only one in the family who is divorced.

Don't marry someone who you can live with, marry someone who you can't live without.

Signing out.

UrStunning wrote:

MagicMarker wrote: The problem is that women like you are in the minority. And values such as respect, integrity, and honesty are cast aside in favour of the "flashy" and glamorous guys with little substance.

How comes you always say that women, that have such values, are the minority? I get the feeling you're saying that to like every second girl here on hey-ai and there are even more that share the same values, so...
I wonder why you still believe this is a minority? Did you made some bad experiences or is it because of some things you heard that happened to other people etc.pp.? I find it kidn of sad that you're saying stuff like that again and again =/
You make it look like there aren't many women out there that a guy could trust and fully give his heart to...

I am going to admit, I barely know any woman within my community and schools and etc, who would value virginity and old school values. In fact, this is one reason I have a hard time fitting in with other people my age---we simply cannot agree on anything......and people will think something is wrong with you or make fun if you "Havent gotten laid"---it's just terrible. They even joke how it will "fix' you up....I get sickened...