So what is it that attracts you to the opposite sex?

In the end, I figure it must be someone who has qualities that compliment mine, and, some that I simply don't have much of naturally---it's good to have help where you lack, instead of trying to be everyone and have strengths in everything---I sort of think about it sometimes, that I shouldn't expect myself to be everything, and nor should the guy expect me to be, or himself to be every trait, it's impossible---you would appreciate them more, I would think.

Of course, that's not a free-ride to not improving yourself...you can't become increasingly bond-able if you don't grow with the other person ....just in case any people got that idea

I may say this and that. In the end is someone that compliments me well let it be being my opposite or just the reflection of those things that I do not want to recognize in me but I recognize it in other that I am attracted to.

eyesofonix wrote: I may say this and that. In the end is someone that compliments me well let it be being my opposite or just the reflection of those things that I do not want to recognize in me but I recognize it in other that I am attracted to.

stuff sorta like that, I'd say.....

but of course we still need a base to work with so the rest works out...etc, etc...all the small things, or what seems small, we overlook that become more later.

I suppose, maybe sometimes Id say, someone that proves us wrong about ourselves?

Northwing wrote:

eyesofonix wrote: I may say this and that. In the end is someone that compliments me well let it be being my opposite or just the reflection of those things that I do not want to recognize in me but I recognize it in other that I am attracted to.

stuff sorta like that, I'd say.....

but of course we still need a base to work with so the rest works out...etc, etc...all the small things, or what seems small, we overlook that become more later.

I suppose, maybe sometimes Id say, someone that proves us wrong about ourselves?

Yep! Yep! Plus, I do not want to sound or read philosophical but knowing ourselves can help in that search or adventure whatever people call it. Jaja

eyesofonix wrote:

Northwing wrote:

eyesofonix wrote: I may say this and that. In the end is someone that compliments me well let it be being my opposite or just the reflection of those things that I do not want to recognize in me but I recognize it in other that I am attracted to.

stuff sorta like that, I'd say.....

but of course we still need a base to work with so the rest works out...etc, etc...all the small things, or what seems small, we overlook that become more later.

I suppose, maybe sometimes Id say, someone that proves us wrong about ourselves?

Yep! Yep! Plus, I do not want to sound or read philosophical but knowing ourselves can help in that search or adventure whatever people call it. Jaja

haha, yeah.
you need to know what you want to find it for the most part...but sometimes it shows up anyway...sometimes (usually those more like career-directions than anything, I think? like some kind of event that makes you decide to do something else)

Although I can be kind of random and weird sometimes..I just rarely show it on a forum lol...

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Tasty Tango wrote:

David Cool wrote: In short...Divorce is like a culture in west...East has ability to bear and cope with social moral values...Easterns are westernised nowadays...

Divorce is more common in the west because of female empowerment. It used to be the case in the West that women were dependent on their husbands for financial reasons and because their husbands 'own' them like they would own property. Now women are more independent and generally don't need a man for financial reasons therefore it makes it easier for women to divorce.

agreed

there are times I am afraid of the idea of being divorced or making a huge mistake.....I would be someone who won't want to say "yes" until I know I'm ready....and just because I said "I'm not sure if Im ready to get married yet", doesn't meant don't want to, to that person, and I'd hope he'd understand, and not give up on it...but maybe I felt something had to be sorted out, whatever it may be.

or perhaps maybe it was surely way too soon, and I really wasn't sure how I felt about a guy yet

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I mean, you cant always expect a girl or guy to just "Agree" on the spot, to marry...you know?
the pressure isn't good......you really need to sort of slowly talk about that stuff, instead of just jumping at them with a "Yes or no" question.
Especially for introverts

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they are proven to need more time to think things over, even if it seems dumb to other people, it's not about that---I mean, it's a big question, and....it's how they operate, and you cannot push that, or else it will make them hide.

Any big yes or no question intimidates me---I need to process it before I will answer.



While people divorce over legit reasons, they are increasingly less legit.
People are more into casual-everything now. An easy way there ,and easy way out. If a date doesnt work, you forget and move to the next----if a certain train doesn't give you instant love, you keep looking

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the whole window shopping idea that we are bringing into the modern, fast-paced and less patient culture is making things far too easy, in a bad way, as well as good ways.

Marriage and partnership has less meaning, as it's more okay to find a new one---especially if living together before marriage.....this sort of desensitizes it before it happens, and makes the marriage itself less meaningful.

Not only that, but it increases the chance of having kids before marriage, and that's usually not a good thing----it is very unhealtlhy for the child, also for the relationship, as there is more pressure, and getting married earlier than intended, if they plan to do so for the kid----and there is a chance one of the partners may walk out, as they havent committed to having a family.

I admit I was born before my parents got married, but they did get married...and divorced. I saw my dad's bad sides, and I'm still trying to trust him.....it's really not easy...and the unstableness of that situation overall raised me to be a bit indifference to affection during childhood, rather, after awhile, I didn't even know how to react to it, or how to give it.

It's not just the child's stress, but their entire growth as a person, and their self-esteem is severely affected, if they feel one of their parents doesn't love them.

I actually know a young couple from my old workplace about 19-20 yrs sold.
Neither are religious, but....when they found out she was pregnant, he decided he was going to marry her---and thankfully, they are both quite happy about it...I have brought these 2 up before, a while ago

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but I rarely ever see such devotion these days, she really means a whole lot to him .and I do believe, he is going to quite smoking cigs now. As to say, they aren't just being silly, they are both very down to earth people and know what they want, as he said, they had already discussed that.
Discussing everything before marriage should be done

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especially if you are a lover of expensive items, like new cars and big houses.......as the other partner may not be into the debt idea.

Northwing wrote: there are times I am afraid of the idea of being divorced or making a huge mistake.....I would be someone who won't want to say "yes" until I know I'm ready....and just because I said "I'm not sure if Im ready to get married yet", doesn't meant don't want to, to that person, and I'd hope he'd understand, and not give up on it...but maybe I felt something had to be sorted out, whatever it may be.

or perhaps maybe it was surely way too soon, and I really wasn't sure how I felt about a guy yet

---

I mean, you cant always expect a girl or guy to just "Agree" on the spot, to marry...you know?
the pressure isn't good......you really need to sort of slowly talk about that stuff, instead of just jumping at them with a "Yes or no" question.
Especially for introverts

---

they are proven to need more time to think things over, even if it seems dumb to other people, it's not about that---I mean, it's a big question, and....it's how they operate, and you cannot push that, or else it will make them hide.

Any big yes or no question intimidates me---I need to process it before I will answer.



While people divorce over legit reasons, they are increasingly less legit.
People are more into casual-everything now. An easy way there ,and easy way out. If a date doesnt work, you forget and move to the next----if a certain train doesn't give you instant love, you keep looking

---

the whole window shopping idea that we are bringing into the modern, fast-paced and less patient culture is making things far too easy, in a bad way, as well as good ways.

Marriage and partnership has less meaning, as it's more okay to find a new one---especially if living together before marriage.....this sort of desensitizes it before it happens, and makes the marriage itself less meaningful.

Not only that, but it increases the chance of having kids before marriage, and that's usually not a good thing----it is very unhealtlhy for the child, also for the relationship, as there is more pressure, and getting married earlier than intended, if they plan to do so for the kid----and there is a chance one of the partners may walk out, as they havent committed to having a family.

I admit I was born before my parents got married, but they did get married...and divorced. I saw my dad's bad sides, and I'm still trying to trust him.....it's really not easy...and the unstableness of that situation overall raised me to be a bit indifference to affection during childhood, rather, after awhile, I didn't even know how to react to it, or how to give it.

It's not just the child's stress, but their entire growth as a person, and their self-esteem is severely affected, if they feel one of their parents doesn't love them.

I actually know a young couple from my old workplace about 19-20 yrs sold.
Neither are religious, but....when they found out she was pregnant, he decided he was going to marry her---and thankfully, they are both quite happy about it...I have brought these 2 up before, a while ago

---

but I rarely ever see such devotion these days, she really means a whole lot to him .and I do believe, he is going to quite smoking cigs now. As to say, they aren't just being silly, they are both very down to earth people and know what they want, as he said, they had already discussed that.
Discussing everything before marriage should be done

---

especially if you are a lover of expensive items, like new cars and big houses.......as the other partner may not be into the debt idea.

any guy in their right mind would not throw the proposal without having been with the girl for a while, a few years together atleast. I see wayyy too many couples getting married within a year of meeting. Whatever happened to courting for a few years, perhaps moving in and living with each other for a few years. I have many cousins who got married after being together for atleast 5 years and they seem to have the happiest marriage. But again who am I kidding.. there are many people who get an arranged marriage and seem to be doing just fine.. Everyone is different I guess. To some marriage is sacred and they have a strong will to stay in it no matter what or with whom or how they ended up getting married. While some are too fickle minded and are just not meant to get married ever. xD To each, their own I guess.

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