So what is it that attracts you to the opposite sex?

curmudgeon wrote:

xohsosuper wrote: We will never be monogamous as long as we have primal instinct.

The impulse is always there (what's the name of the "smaller", less evolved part of the brain?), but there's consequences to our behaviors and sometimes we may even curb that "animal instinct" to avoid the repercussions. Like men with power or money. They can cheat, but the cost of which might be too high. For both guys and girls, their actions might eliminate the option of a more reliable partner due to their polygamist tendencies.

So, in the tl;dr version: it exists to vary degrees (some more than others), but that only explains things on the most simplistic level. I disagree on the premise that things are as simple as that, but I know it won't stop people from going: "we're animals, woo-hoo!"

I agree with this, though I wish more people used their logic more often than other parts

David Cool wrote: In short...Divorce is like a culture in west...East has ability to bear and cope with social moral values...Easterns are westernised nowadays...

Divorce is more common in the west because of female empowerment. It used to be the case in the West that women were dependent on their husbands for financial reasons and because their husbands 'own' them like they would own property. Now women are more independent and generally don't need a man for financial reasons therefore it makes it easier for women to divorce.

There's also less of a stigma now-a-days, too. So maybe it's reaching a natural level, instead of being artificially deflated.

loyal has nothing to do with divorce.
how many married ppl are unhappy and the result will maybe cheating.

its more a cultural thing that westernes have the guts to divorce instead of staying together.
its just honest.

why guts? normally you dont need guts to do that but in some culture e.g. asians there are often ppl around they pin point on how many times ppl gets divorce and judge them.

I'm sure if a asian girl who are 3 times or more divorced will have the sign "b!tx" from her neighbours. one of the reason why the divorce in that country is taboo.

westernes dont give a darn shIP about what ppl talking. its not their business...so it is much more honesty.

just my opinion. dont take me serious

As westerners, we don't hold back our feelings when it comes to relationships. Overall, we are straightforward. In regards to divorce, it's mainly for a legitimate reason. Because maybe its an abusive alcoholic marriage, or maybe a spouse is cheating. Maybe they are no longer the person you thought they were, so for these reasons, you would either be in danger or you would fall out of love with them. When that happens in any marriage, it's impossible to be happy at the end of the day. No human being would prefer to live that way. Divorce in the west gives a lot of people learning experience, and a second chance at finding someone that they will spend the rest of their life with. If you are going to spend your life with someone, you should do it for you and because you love that person enough to face the ups and downs. Not because society gives you a set of expectations. Situations that lead to divorce are anything but expected. Especially on your wedding day. My parents are divorced, I'm too young to be married, but I have learned from the mistakes they made with eachother, enough to know that I will marry once. Or I won't marry at all. I think my generation is sick of having divorced parents, it makes us realize we want something that lasts, even though the liberal media says divorce is okay.

BurningRain wrote: I think my generation is sick of having divorced parents, it makes us realize we want something that lasts, even though the liberal media says divorce is okay.

I'd agree with this. While people get divorced for legitimate reasons, there's also a lot of people that get divorced due to their own reasons as well, and the kids of those people see the result of that. We're a generation that will try our best to avoid the mistakes made in the past as we are well aware of the consequences if we don't.

My ideal woman is someone with a keen sense of perception and emotional intelligence. Life and love is an unfolding story, there's no easier way to get lost in writing that story than to be in a relationship with someone who cannot adequately express their own emotions or interpret the emotions of others. The most important thing in a relationship is trust; I like to think that trust helps keep a couple on the same page of their love story. Getting ahead, such as jumping to conclusions about something, or falling behind, or becoming less involved, can cause confusion or tension. People commonly agree that communication is the most important thing in a relationship, which also goes hand-in-hand with trust.

My ideal woman is the female version of myself. HAHA. No wonder I am still single...

Westerners have a bad rep in Asia for being casual, but my experience has been that they can be the most unfaithful or most loyal, depending on how they see the relationship.

For some, there's an ease of being in open casual relationships. For others, it's virgin until marriage, and that for life. Overall an interesting dichotomy which has some parallels along religious/political divides.

Asia *seems* to be more straightforward in that cheating is more accepted/expected but held hushed due to the thought that it's a private affair that will cause the couple to "lose face".

But I think that no matter where you are, if you're an awesome and amazing enough person to win the respect of your partner, that person should want to hang on to you.

Very well put. I couldn't agree with you more.