Does the friend zone exist?

Thesaurusrex wrote:

tamm wrote: Friendzoned should be a relationship status in HeyAi..

Make it happen. You're a mod! Abuse your power!

this will be one of my priorities for 2015.

Thesaurusrex wrote:

tamm wrote: Friendzoned should be a relationship status in HeyAi..

Make it happen. You're a mod! Abuse your power!

Why not change it so we can write our answers in while you're flexing your modhood.

nanox wrote:

Lady_Jackson wrote:

nanox wrote: There are also plenty of men who think libel and slander (both legal terms, btw and only have relevance inside a court case) against women are facts.

"Hey baby, wanna come back to my place?"
"No, that's not my style."
"Slut."

I know I'm not the only one who has had this lovely exchange.

Just like when a random guy says to you 'princess' and you ignore him, immediately the 'princess' turns to a 'bitch'. So pitiful.

To be fair, completely ignoring someone's presence is a pretty bitchy response to a question. I get that some women dislike being called terms of endearment by strangers, but I don't see it as a hostile question. I use terms of endearment all the time and that is accepted in some places. It can also just be poor social skills. You can choose the bitchy responses or simply stating politely that you do not like being called princess. I see what you're saying, but the first example was hostile without provocation other than saying no and the second isn't. If you act bitchy, people might call you a bitch. It doesn't mean that you ARE one, but you could be acting like one.

Well, I think using those terms of endearment is ok to a point. What really makes the difference is 'how' they are used, the tone in the speech. (Virtual aside) I think it's completely acceptable when the person means to be dear, but I (personally) don't like when you're seen as a piece of meat. But that's my position; there are people who don't mind any of the situations, but that's their problem.

Lady_Jackson wrote:

nanox wrote:

Lady_Jackson wrote:

nanox wrote: There are also plenty of men who think libel and slander (both legal terms, btw and only have relevance inside a court case) against women are facts.

"Hey baby, wanna come back to my place?"
"No, that's not my style."
"Slut."

I know I'm not the only one who has had this lovely exchange.

Just like when a random guy says to you 'princess' and you ignore him, immediately the 'princess' turns to a 'bitch'. So pitiful.

To be fair, completely ignoring someone's presence is a pretty bitchy response to a question. I get that some women dislike being called terms of endearment by strangers, but I don't see it as a hostile question. I use terms of endearment all the time and that is accepted in some places. It can also just be poor social skills. You can choose the bitchy responses or simply stating politely that you do not like being called princess. I see what you're saying, but the first example was hostile without provocation other than saying no and the second isn't. If you act bitchy, people might call you a bitch. It doesn't mean that you ARE one, but you could be acting like one.

Well, I think using those terms of endearment is ok to a point. What really makes the difference is 'how' they are used, the tone in the speech. (Virtual aside) I think it's completely acceptable when the person means to be dear, but I (personally) don't like when you're seen as a piece of meat. But that's my position; there are people who don't mind any of the situations, but that's their problem.

If he called you porkchop, I would totally agree. If the way they see it is just their problem, then the way you see it is just yours too. You get more out of simply telling them how you feel about the choice of words than choosing to ignore it and being upset when they call you a name. Seems like it would feel better to enforce your boundary beyond reproach than invite someone to cross it again. Just saying.

nanox wrote:

Thesaurusrex wrote:

tamm wrote: Friendzoned should be a relationship status in HeyAi..

Make it happen. You're a mod! Abuse your power!

Why not change it so we can write our answers in while you're flexing your modhood.

I like the idea already.

OddWolfHaley wrote: Damn who pissed in your glass this morning and called it apple juice little boy?

Can't there be one forum topic where we don't focus on you and your traumatic issues with feminazis for once? It's why we have therapists y'know what I mean??

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Everything you write is a spoiler, please chill

Damn, you think that your snappy remarks will get me to think different?

Can't there be one forum topic where we don't focus on your dumb shiz and your feminazi nonsense for once? It's why we have people who call your kind out and the bullshiz that you all spew out y'know what I mean??

indigo wrote: honestly rudi i think you're funny and appreciate that you always say what's on your mind even if it's not the popular vote, but to me you seem grumpy a lot of the time like you need more hugs in your life. and i don't mean that in an insulting way, i mean maybe you could find something to appreciate that opens up your sensitive side? like going to butterfly gardens or woodshop...

haha thanks; if you think I'm grumpy then okay, but I'm not. I used to be considerate, but I make provoking comments to make a point. Eh...I rather vent, it's a good stress reliever (〜￣▽￣)〜

Yagairudi wrote:

OddWolfHaley wrote: Damn who pissed in your glass this morning and called it apple juice little boy?

Can't there be one forum topic where we don't focus on you and your traumatic issues with feminazis for once? It's why we have therapists y'know what I mean??

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Everything you write is a spoiler, please chill

Damn, you think that your snappy remarks will get me to think different?

Can't there be one forum topic where we don't focus on your dumb shiz and your feminazi nonsense for once? It's why we have people who call your kind out and the bullshiz that you all spew out y'know what I mean??

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Everything you write is retarded, get educated

Can't you like y'know be original with your statements for once?? Surely creativity is not dead

Did you ever think that you would be spending your mid forties on the computer playing forum tag with a nineteen year old? Again please chill, it's rather pathetic, but *sigh* like always, I shall be the adult and step away from this one. (￣▽￣)/

OddWolfHaley wrote: Did you ever think that you would be spending your mid forties on the computer playing forum tag with a nineteen year old? Again please chill, it's rather pathetic, but *sigh* like always, I shall be the adult and step away from this one. (￣▽￣)/

lol typical feminist dialog, just a bunch of insults, pompous words, and no facts at all. Brain-dead at best. Haha you think you're the adult here (hilarious). (￣▽￣)ノ

nanox wrote:

Lady_Jackson wrote:

nanox wrote:

Lady_Jackson wrote:

nanox wrote: There are also plenty of men who think libel and slander (both legal terms, btw and only have relevance inside a court case) against women are facts.

"Hey baby, wanna come back to my place?"
"No, that's not my style."
"Slut."

I know I'm not the only one who has had this lovely exchange.

Just like when a random guy says to you 'princess' and you ignore him, immediately the 'princess' turns to a 'bitch'. So pitiful.

To be fair, completely ignoring someone's presence is a pretty bitchy response to a question. I get that some women dislike being called terms of endearment by strangers, but I don't see it as a hostile question. I use terms of endearment all the time and that is accepted in some places. It can also just be poor social skills. You can choose the bitchy responses or simply stating politely that you do not like being called princess. I see what you're saying, but the first example was hostile without provocation other than saying no and the second isn't. If you act bitchy, people might call you a bitch. It doesn't mean that you ARE one, but you could be acting like one.

Well, I think using those terms of endearment is ok to a point. What really makes the difference is 'how' they are used, the tone in the speech. (Virtual aside) I think it's completely acceptable when the person means to be dear, but I (personally) don't like when you're seen as a piece of meat. But that's my position; there are people who don't mind any of the situations, but that's their problem.

If he called you porkchop, I would totally agree. If the way they see it is just their problem, then the way you see it is just yours too. You get more out of simply telling them how you feel about the choice of words than choosing to ignore it and being upset when they call you a name. Seems like it would feel better to enforce your boundary beyond reproach than invite someone to cross it again. Just saying.

You would agree? And...?

I'm not saying it's other's problem if I don't like it. It's simply a waste of their time trying to get a girl like that they just see passing by they don't even care who she is as they only see a body shape. And why the girl should stop to say to the stranger how she doesn't like it as this type of guy don't even care if she likes it or not? 'Oh, please, be more considerate to the poor guy'. If he was to be considerate, he wouldn't feel the need to say 'bitch' because he was ignored. Such type is pityful. But if you don't see it a problem, good for u to be a so good and comprehensible person.

Lady_Jackson wrote:

nanox wrote:

Lady_Jackson wrote:

nanox wrote:

Lady_Jackson wrote:

nanox wrote: There are also plenty of men who think libel and slander (both legal terms, btw and only have relevance inside a court case) against women are facts.

"Hey baby, wanna come back to my place?"
"No, that's not my style."
"Slut."

I know I'm not the only one who has had this lovely exchange.

Just like when a random guy says to you 'princess' and you ignore him, immediately the 'princess' turns to a 'bitch'. So pitiful.

To be fair, completely ignoring someone's presence is a pretty bitchy response to a question. I get that some women dislike being called terms of endearment by strangers, but I don't see it as a hostile question. I use terms of endearment all the time and that is accepted in some places. It can also just be poor social skills. You can choose the bitchy responses or simply stating politely that you do not like being called princess. I see what you're saying, but the first example was hostile without provocation other than saying no and the second isn't. If you act bitchy, people might call you a bitch. It doesn't mean that you ARE one, but you could be acting like one.

Well, I think using those terms of endearment is ok to a point. What really makes the difference is 'how' they are used, the tone in the speech. (Virtual aside) I think it's completely acceptable when the person means to be dear, but I (personally) don't like when you're seen as a piece of meat. But that's my position; there are people who don't mind any of the situations, but that's their problem.

If he called you porkchop, I would totally agree. If the way they see it is just their problem, then the way you see it is just yours too. You get more out of simply telling them how you feel about the choice of words than choosing to ignore it and being upset when they call you a name. Seems like it would feel better to enforce your boundary beyond reproach than invite someone to cross it again. Just saying.

You would agree? And...?

I'm not saying it's other's problem if I don't like it. It's simply a waste of their time trying to get a girl like that they just see passing by they don't even care who she is as they only see a body shape. And why the girl should stop to say to the stranger how she doesn't like it as this type of guy don't even care if she likes it or not? 'Oh, please, be more considerate to the poor guy'. If he was to be considerate, he wouldn't feel the need to say 'bitch' because he was ignored. Such type is pityful. But if you don't see it a problem, good for u to be a so good and comprehensible person.

I'm not suggesting you do it for him. I'm suggesting you do it for yourself. It feels better to forgive than to be angry. Enforcing a boundary is better than allowing one to be crossed.

It is a way of altering your emotional perspectives to provide yourself with the best possible outcome. Let him worry about his own emotions.