So what is it that attracts you to the opposite sex?

Marla S. wrote:

hoisauce wrote: While she may be a saint, volunteering her at weekends at the homeless shelter, she neglects the fundamental principles of hygiene - her face riddled with acne, her arms and legs remain unshaved,

Give us a break, really. I hate how society imposes us to be all pampered up, and while I understand how hair can be unwanted in some places - on arms, seriously? So men can walk around like hairy monkeys and everyone is cool with it (yes, Asians don't usually have much, I'm referring to males as a whole), but we have no self respect if we don't get rid of every bit of hair on our bodies?

Otherwise, I do agree with your point to some extent.

I agree...a LOT.
Like----I am self-conscience about my leg hair---more than I should have to---but my skin is sensitive, so I can't just attack it to death with razers and chemicals relentlessly..it hurts like heck after.

Like, honestly....I wish men would shave their armpits. I don't think its just a lady thing, it just looks so unhygienic if people don't.......it's like, the theory of wearing a cotton shirt vs a sports -easy -dry shirt. Wearing cotton absorbs all the odor and moisture and collects bacteria, like all that armpit hair...and it just grosses me out >_>''

and I sure hope he meant womans armpits----because, shaving your actual arms is so superficially fake----none of my friends do that.

...to be pretty, one has to suffer?

gabriel.lu wrote: ...to be pretty, one has to suffer?

only if surgical ways are attempted, I guess...Lol
most just wear lots of make up...hardly suffering---

or some of us have terrible skin, so we suffer to attempt being pretty via acne medication, expensive stuff for specialty-bad skin---but the pain isn't usually worth it.

Average-looking girls fear that guys will look the other way because of their appearance , while good-looking girls worry that guys can't look beyond their appearance. No one is problem free.

Kind heart, understading personality, and elegant behavour, I believe, are more important than physical appearance when it comes that how beautiful a girl is.

No one can deny that physical appearance plays an important part on first impression, and that's usually what makes a guy take the first step to talk to a girl. However, attraction is only the beginning of a relationship.

It is the personality part that can win over a guy's heart and maintain a healthy relationshihp. Of course, that's a mature guy who seeks a partner but not an immature guy who just seeks temporary enjoyment. Objectifying a personcan never make a relationship work and last.

Finally, one probabaly wouldn't want a guy who place too much attention on physical appearance anyway. Given it enoughtime, even the most stunning beauty can wither. Thus, in a relationship, the importance of physical appearance decreases with time.

So when deciding if the guy is really the right one, one must know how important phyical appearance to him compared with ohter attributes. candykid24 is smart to ask this question.

"One who seeks a relationship out of loneliness will eventually become lonely again because of that relationship."

Awesome post, aoi.

Haha, agreed......but the problem of course again is, attracting him in the first place, to let him know your personality, if he gets that far.
Better off looking for guys in an environment not surrounded by the most attractive girls to distract him, I'd say >_>'', and where they won't really be looking for those girls..........obviously like most of us agree, bars/pubs aren't a good idea.

Aside that, I'd say that

if a guy you just met is already telling you what you 'should' 'try' wearing, that's already a bad sign...

Well...he's already treating you like a doll to make you look like the prettier girls, or to look like his ideal of what he wants of you to look like----of course, I'm assuming said girl doesn't dress slobby or inappropriate--rather she just doesn't bother to make a big deal out of wearing the most popular clothes or trying to dress like she's going to a special occasion every day.

That or he himself is too caught up in 'the latest fashion'...which would be unpleasant in a way.

Though, if he's your bf, I don't see any problem just suggesting trying a nice top he found if it's decent----I mean, as long as he doesn't really care if you don't want to..., it's kind of normal for family or friends to say "This would look nice on you"-
..girls should be allowed to do the same.

shave her armpit and leg hair

Physical appearance is the part that draws us in, but a good personality makes us stay. You don't have to be a "10" or a "stunner", but you do need to be a decent and compatible individual. We all have our lists/preferences/hopes and dreams, but the key is to have all of those and to find someone else that's a good "fit". Both in regards to your own wants and needs, but also theirs as well. Sometimes it seems like there's way too much emphasis on accentuating every ounce of physical attractiveness while ignoring entirely the other side of the equation.

So, in sum (the th;dr version: physical attractiveness is important, but not as important as one might think. It's more important to be the best (whole & well-rounded) person that you can be. That way you can find a comparable match, and you two crazy kids... can be all types of great, together.

Kenneth Loo wrote: shave her armpit and leg hair

AMENNNNN... You heard him ladies! wax those legs and shave those pits! Nobody like a furry woman

Nymphe wrote:

JMichael wrote: There's a third category; 'connection'.
They can have beauty and a great personality, but connection is this inexplicable spark that brings a "good" relationship to excellence.

As great as it is to have everything, having that connection and frequency is so hard to find, i'll just hang on to it if i find it

meh!

What "meh"??!