Do you believe Men and Women can be just friends???

San_Ichiban wrote:

Shinkick wrote: Yea it’s possible. I have women who are just friends. Usually talk to them about gf or ex gf problems. Then sometimes they talk to me about their problems.

theyre waiting for their turn

Well I ain’t got time for that. Lol

Yes and no.

I used to be friends with a lot of women. We'd have conversations they wish they could have with their bfs. I get the occasional, "Why can't he be more like you?" It's painful to see those women struggle in their relationship. Always asking me for advice or a second perspective then when they finally break up with the guy they've been troubled by, I would be there for them to listen, let them cry on or cry to, and help guide them in the right direction. Most of the time they question their worth. "Am I not enough? Why didn't / couldn't he see me. Try to understand me?" I then get all philosophical and they usually burst out laughing. Good friendships are equally hard to come by like good relationships. I'm still friends with two of my exes. Two amazing women I cherish and always hope for the best in their life. So, it's possible. You have to have a great sense of maturity, empathy, compassion, and wanting to understand them to be a friend to them. I have been told so many tragic life stories that I can't bring myself to add more sorrow or misery to someones life. I've helped my exes with their relationships because I value their happiness. To be friends with someone you have to see them as a part of you. When they hurt, you also hurt. More than mere words and deeper than a connection.

I think men and women can be friends. My best friend is a man and has been for 20 years. I still have one or the other buddy who is like a brother to me. I can talk to them about anything, do all kinds of things and we both have NO interest in having sex with each other ... and I've known these buddies for years. I think it's bad that everyone always thinks men and women can't do that and that in the end it's all about sex! There is so much more in this world ...
I don't want to miss any of my friends! And I'm very happy that I have it. If someone has a problem with this, they are welcome to go further

I think it all depends on the perspective of each one.
By nature man and the woman will feel some attraction at first that's why they get close, but after that period when you start to know the person in depth you reach conclusions as if we can be friends or not.
Sometimes these conclusions are given early or take time until they are fully discovered.
After all we are energy and energy never lies.

Tamm wrote: I think it all depends on the perspective of each one.
By nature man and the woman will feel some attraction at first that's why they get close, but after that period when you start to know the person in depth you reach conclusions as if we can be friends or not.
Sometimes these conclusions are given early or take time until they are fully discovered.
After all we are energy and energy never lies.

Sounds about right. I wish I knew this when I was younger. Always learning the hard way.

Shinkick wrote:

Tamm wrote: I think it all depends on the perspective of each one.
By nature man and the woman will feel some attraction at first that's why they get close, but after that period when you start to know the person in depth you reach conclusions as if we can be friends or not.
Sometimes these conclusions are given early or take time until they are fully discovered.
After all we are energy and energy never lies.

Sounds about right. I wish I knew this when I was younger. Always learning the hard way.

This is why life is interesting my friend.
If all learning were easy nothing would be that interesting tbh.

yes. most of my friends are men actually,i only have very few female friends. i think because im more comfortable around guys for some reason. I think the only time being friends with the opposite sex becomes awkward is when they mistake your friendliness as being interested in them i had guys i didnt like think i was into them just because id talk to them and be polite...

okamitina wrote:

Bert_Model wrote: it's possible, but you have to be gay and she is lesbian, so you are both physically not attractive to each other.
Or you both straight and you are not physically attractive to each other(mean she is dfntly not your type and vice versa, but how can you guys be friends then)...

you know what I mean already?

Did you really just say how can you be friends if you don't find them attractive? What kind of brain vomit is this? You must not have many friends then...

simple logic: if you just know someone from a party and you don't find her/him attractive but just cringe, why do you even want to know him/her deeper anyway?

Why does it seem like some people ranking friends below bf/gf? Crossing the line resulting people choose their friends over their partner.

That's a hard question to answer. I used to be good friends with one girl. She was cute and kind and we used to do a lot of things together. But one day when we were sitting in a bus. Way in the back where nobody can see us. She was giggling about something then she paused and looked up at me. And I just instinctively reached in and kissed her.

I think for guys, some girls become More attractive when you feel comfortable with her like she's your best friend and you hang out alot.

I like the idea of having a platonic friendship with a girl but from my experience. It's not as simple for guys as believe it or not, we do fall for even our close friends.