Is marriage important to you?

Tamm wrote:

cowolter wrote: Marriage is important to me personally because I would never want to spend my life with someone who couldn't promise to be in it for the long haul, and the promise might as well be official.

Oww. So you can't love without conditions.. interesting.

Since when marriage is to tie a person to be sure that their life will be yours for all eternity?

Men want a stable family otherwise he will not want invest his time, money and effort.

Not that important if it ruins your life. Unfortunately there are some girls that you can tell it won't last forever. And that's cool. I think marriage is only reserved for that special one that gets you and you can't really imagine anyone better to be there and raise a family together. I rather have it if that option is a possible reality but fine to also accept it if it's not.

I rather be alone than be locked into an unhappy one. If you've known your SO for a while and are generally at your happiest when you're around them. That seems like a good sign. If you feel constantly miserable around them, why on earth would anyone want to lock themselves in that permanently? I wouldn't want to marry the wrong kind of person let alone have a family with them and be locked in but stay for sake of the kids.

I think for alot of people when starting dating, yes, in the beginning it's easier to see a side that you like. Afterwards, you begin to learn more about the other person and find that you may have little interests in common or you see a side of them, that would have been a deal-breaker for marriage. Are you really willing to get locked into a realtionship with someone like that just so you say that you got married and settled down and be nature's basic bitch?

I'd like to get married someday, but it's not like I can't live without it. Better being alone than in an unhealthy relationship/marriage

Marriage could be important, with the right one.
I would marry in obedience to God as a Christian,if I had such a relationship.
The best way to know if it is a valuable relationship would be to wait and save intimacy for marriage and don't marry someone unless you know for sure that there's mutual physical attraction.
It's best to start off as friends and get to know each other a while and don't force something that isn't there.
If something is missing,then just stay friends.
Even if you've messed up in your passed by making poor choices,you can change as you learn.

If your a Christian,marry a Christian. I know this isn't a Christian forum but take what advice you want and then leave the rest and take it later if you choose.

Oh and definitely don't settle for an abusive person.
Be sober.

Advice from an older person here.

Honestly divorce is good for certain circumstances.
It's sad yes,but some married the wrong person,maybe because they just didn't know.
Some good reasons for divorce are abuse!
I stopped there because that's an important one.
Other good reasons, adultery,no love,no physical intimacy one sided relationship,differences in beliefs etc. Our goal is to try not to marry someone who's going to do those things in the relationship,but we never know.

I guess all you can do is your best and do you. We can't be responsible for the others choices but we can be responsible for our own. No not everything goes right. For some ,life can be harder and not everyone will understand,but God will understand,as long as you make it right with him,whatever happens,both good or bad.

For me it's more important to share with someone my time, my fears, my joys, my doubts, my feelings, ... in short: my life. A signed paper doesn't change the fact of wanting to be with that person or not, also I don't believe in God, so marriage is not important to me.

For me it definitely is. I’m not getting to know what they like, what makes them scared, what they enjoy, for nothing.. like if I was getting to know someone just to date, then break up, then what’s the point.

In my line of work, marriage is generally described as an onerous contract between two individuals that costs a king's ransom to forge and a king's fortune to break.

If I commit to someone, a marriage does not change that fact.

The only changes that a marriage brings to a relationship are legal and financial but even those are not necessarily clear cut anymore. In most countries under a common-law jurisdiction, common-law unions (generally speaking arise due to shared and continued cohabitation ) now receive the same or almost the same rights as married or civil union couplings. In civil law jurisdictions (aka de facto union or union de fait) this varies greatly, but my understanding is that many still do not fully recognize these unions or they are only recognized under specific statutes (generally income tax).

All that to say, marriage is not important if I have decided to enter a healthy committed relationship. My actions will speak louder than words or in this case pen and paper. If it ends up being something that is important for my SO, then it is something I would compromise on but is definitely not a requirement.

all i want is an azn surname tbh. 😐

San_Ichiban wrote: all i want is an azn surname tbh. 😐

That normally come with an Asian baby too, up for the challenge?

Never really thought about marriage or having kids. It really depends who your partner is and what he wants as well. I guess marriage for some is a starter signal to start producing heirs and get down to business, getting a house etc. For me it's more a show of affection and proof of dedication to willingly go that extra mile to be there for you.
I think marriage is a nice sentiment. It would be nice to have, but not important. My parents aren't married, and they've been together for 50 years.