Is marriage important to you?

danilowisk wrote: "Nah, I'm ok. Marriage is just a paper. It's useless. I don't need it".
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One week after finding the perfect guy: "He will be a good husband. I can't wait to marry him. What dress should I use? Should I invite my ex?"

That is the stupidity for being in love...for that reason after a few time u have alot ppl divorced... and feeling idiot ...

On the other hand, there are a lot of successful cases too. Further, it feels good to being in love. 😍

Cohabitation is still a risk for men since women can sue for assets.

Yes very important

My belief systems about marriage changed when my parents divorced 4 years ago, I dreamed of a marriage like theirs until one day I realized that between them there was no more love. To me marriage sometimes has an expiration date and it is better to think it through and really live with the chosen person in all aspects to take such an important step.. anyway I think you can share your life with someone without getting married..

My parents have been together since they were 18 years old, they got married at 21 and now they are 70. They went through some problems, but you can still see their love when you look at them.
I started dating my ex when I was 25, we were together for 15 years, we lived together for 9 years, we never married. Someone may say that we broke up because cohabitation is not serious, that's why my parents are still together and I broke up with my ex.
It's not like that.
I broke up because he cheated on me. It doesn't matter if you're married or not ... the rules are the same. And if you think that a married woman or man is more serious about their relationship (just because he/she is married), I can say that I used to go out at night with the husbands of my friends (they have children ... etc.) and sometimes I am grateful that I was not married.

The spirit of marriage, yes. Vows of commitment and celebration. A piece of paper by law means nothing to me. You can have a ceremony without the paper. You can love each other the rest of your lives. You don't need a legal document to have that.

grew up and surrounded by single parent households. always had that common thought of it being a waste of time, just a bunch of meaningless papers etc. deep down though, i long for it. it may mean a road of dragging yourself in broken glass, but i feel its worth it just to have that privilege of calling your spouse wife/husband. and yes, it makes a difference having that noose around your neck.

Not at all because high divorce rate

I think a lot of people get married for the wrong reasons and most times when they are not ready for such a big responsibility,Marriage is not just about making yourself happy,it is joining your life with someone else.Some get married due to having kids outside of marriage and afraid of social dogma that comes with being branded as a bastard child. It is sadly common that some people rush into relationships,engagements,and marriages,while having a crap-load of issues and not having worked on any of them.Some see marriage as a fantasy type of thing..Like automatically getting married makes all problems go away..That is not true..Problems do not go away once entering a relationship with someone,If anything you trigger each others unhealed wounds and it causes you to face the demons you had hidden deep inside yourself.Marriage should not be a quick fix solution, nor should you rely on that other person to fix all your issues once in a marriage.You are still responsible for yourself,your problems and your actions.That is why divorce is so high nowadays..Too many people with baggage and issues that they refuse to face,that once in a relationship,forces them to face because they cant run from the issues anymore..Same with friendships and loving,romantic relationships.Some see marriage like putting a bandaid on their problems..Like If i marry so and so,it means i am lovable,and worthy, and desired,than it causes severe issues,like insecurity,anger,bitterness and resentment from the person having to deal with unresolved issues from the other person,and vice versa...For me,to get in any relationship with anyone.I need to know them, darkness and all.And know they have their demons under control and are working on their own personal issues.Otherwise any relationship,regardless of marriage will just be toxic and kill any possibility of having a happy ending..Truth is, a lot of people have a history, a past, are damaged, abused, injured, wounded, maimed from people in their lives..Marriage is a cover up sometimes, for wounded people, so that they can feel they met societies expectations.I feel it has become a game for some people..Like haaah i have all my issues but still managed to marry, so i must not be that bad after all.Than they do damage to the other person and themselves and wonder why it all fell apart..Marriage can be a beautiful thing when both sides are fully healed and not carrying their past and baggages with them..Leaving the skeletons behind in the graves where they belong..I see a lot of people marrying for the wrong reason..I find marriage important in a way, but not above being healed and whole alone..I would rather be single the rest of my life,than to tolerate abuse or mistreatment from someone just for the sake of a marriage contract..I tried to work with my ex husband..But some people do not want to be helped..Not blaming him entirely.It takes two to work a relationship out..Marriage or not...I do not have any regrets though..I am just hoping if I ever marry again..It will be to a person..Who does not mind working on thier issues and does not mind good communication..I work on my issues as well as I can..I also will not enter a relationship with a guy if i know they are not healed up,or not in a good place..Despite what i might feel for that person..I would be asking for trouble..Trying to push myself into a toxic relationship..I wont do that..I would rather leave that person alone..I can try and be supportive and caring,open and honest,but I would not dance with the devil to try and force someone to marry me or be in a relate with me..Some people force these things..One person believes in marriage and the other does not,and it just blows up in the end..Because both seen things differently..Or not on the same page, and some are not ready for that type of thing..Marriage should be a choice,both people feel comfortable making..With the goal being commitment to working on whatever obstacles come their way..Obstacles and hardships will make you or break you in a marriage..And only those who are honestly commited and dedicated and want to make it work,will make it work..Not being in a marriage fighting and arguing and being toxic..But really getting deep to the issue of what is going on..Thats why people should not rush into a marriage if they feel broken..That partner is not there to save you..Some see marriage as an obligation for that other person to make them happy,no,its your job to make you happy and their job to make themselves happy,anything less will just end up in disaster..Not saying marriage is all about yourself,but its about two whole and healthy halves coming together to form one whole communion..Not two unhealthy,toxic people,creating one healthy communion,doesnt work like that..The two have to be whole in themselves first..Otherwise it will kill the relationship..